Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Sex. It's a wonderful thing, of love, pleasure, sensations running all over your body, the occasional moan, the gruffy grunt, and the sweet orgasm at the end. The joys of having someone inside you or being inside of someone . . . except I wouldn't know because I am a virgin. 18 years counting.
You see, most people assume that I'm a virgin because my parents are strict, or because no guy wants to sleep with me, or because I am a religious fanatic, or possibly because I have an alien growing inside me and any man who dares enters it's domain will have his member obliterated - and all of those are plausible reasons.
However, none of these reasons are what made me choose the abstinence road. No, what made me choose the abstinence road is the idea of sex its self. The vulnerbilty that happens during that moment - for that splift second when all your emotions dance on your face. Yes, I have a deep fear of intimacy and commitment, and not because my father abandoned me when I was young, or I experianced trauma as a kid. None of that.
Reason why I fear intimacy and commitment is . . . I feel like the alien will indeed castrate my partner's member, leaving him bleeding on me, and I have a serious phobia of blood. Whenever I see that shit, it terrifies me, makes me go crazy. There are reasons as to why the skin covers the flesh, and veins, and arteries and the bloodstream and organs! REASONS! It's bad enough I see it every month - I'm surprised that there's no floor bed on the bathroom floor for everytime I faint - but having an accidental second circumsion and the results of it all over my body, no way in hell am I having sex!
Now that I've wasted at least two minutes of your life, let me say, premarital sex is a choice. No person should ever feel pressured to be abstinence or sexually activate. And yes, it's true, (for all you christians who pointed at the bible) the bible does mention not having sex before marriage, but thats because people back than were fucking like rabbits, back and forth. This is what Paul says
"Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman." But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (English Standard Version, 1 Corinthians 7:1-5)
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (NIV, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9)"
Please bear in mind that Paul was a bit of a dick . . . and he basically told people to stay single because he was single, and that if they weren't strong enough to resist sexual immorality (which is open for interpretation) they might as well get married. Now I don't know about you, but it's kind of odd to me that back then, even before Christ, Kings had concubines, who they did not marry - and not just one, but the most would've been like 500. That's a lot of vagina for one dick. And nowhere does it mention that God told Paul to say that, he just sprouted it out of the blue because some poor person with raging hormones sent him a questionaire.
So let me not waste your time anymore, in conclusion, premarital sex should be up to you, not anyone else. :)
PLEASE FEEL FREE TO COMMENT - NEGATIVE AND POSITIVE, I AIN'T GONNA JUDGE!
What Girls & Guys Said
5 24You're very unrealistic.
I don't mind, this reasoning is much better than my original reason.
well maybe iinsecure, phobic or weird. virtuous? hell no. as for paul dont judge things you can't understand. sex is a byproduct of the fall of man for this mundane life. in Eden before the fall humans wouldn't populate the world in the same manner. if you had spiritual life, you'd know you can't really pray, you can't do nothing if you have sex or masturbate. so paul was right when he said if you can't be completely freed from that passion at least marry to not live in fornication. and one common misunderstanding most people make: sin is not having that feeling, but succumbing to it mentally and physically. christians will be awarded for their effort to fight their passions for the love of God, not to have no passions at all... .
Fun post... to be honest... wait for marriage is antiquated thinking in today's society. See this article, it's pretty accurate:
www.citylab.com/.../
In today's society, we have so many choices, it allows people to become pickier. When people are pickier, they do not settle, and they won't even accept the person that comes close to what they want. I noticed a lot of women are like that.
For men, sex is very important. You can argue and say that men are higher than animals... but all male animals and humans think the same way... we thrive on sex... and we like having different sex partners. It's primal instinct. A lot of men don't want to put in a marriage situation, because in marriage, when you are with someone for a long time, the amount of sex decreases over time, and that can be depressing to a lot of men. I know a lot of men who are in their late 30s to early 40s and have never been married. They've had girlfriends here and there... but they continue to "play in the garden' with various women.
Also... marriage is not economical... because we pay so much for a wedding... only for divorce to loom in the future. Women usually initiate divorce and the court favors them (such as child support, for example)... so getting married for a man can lead to financial chaos.
If people waited until marriage to have sex, some people would be virgins for the rest of their lives. In this day and age, a lot of people are opting out of marriage, because there is no point to it any longer.
If you don't want to have sex before marriage, that's your decision and I respect that.
You also don't need to tell everyone about it, truth is most of us don't care about your choices.
That's fine. Thanks for your comment anyway.
i´m a virgin too but i still disagree. i know that people sometimes just don´t fit together in a sexual way (physically or mentally or even both). so everything might be super cool and then you get married, have sex and... bummer sex is the shit.
one or both partners get sexually frustrated... divorce inevitable. this is why i say no to waiting till marriage even though i´m still a virgin at my age.
why are u getting sexually frustrated if u are married? A married couple are supposed to respect each others body not demand sex 24/7 from your spouse And getting a divorce of such a minute trivial small thing like being sexually frustrated? Marriage takes hard work patience compromises dedication and respect ok? Who ever said marriage would be easy a breeze perfection with no bumps along the way? So can guarantee a marriage will last forever never divorce be perfect if u have sex before u marry? can u prove this? Sex is supposed to be special where u each give something to the other as a act of giving not taking and by being selfish
you can respect each other all you want. if you just don´t fit together sexually, it won´t last. so if you want to take that challange of marriage, wouldn´t it be better to know if you both know you can work as a team beforehand instead of just hoping that you will? sure i´m not saying there must be unfixable problems but might as well not try the hard way either.
I`m also waiting I dont believe that sex is a casual thing to do
omg again about first sex in marriage stop with that useless my takes I'm not interested in that kind of bullshit.
Sex is healthy and good I wouldn't even that kind of brainwashed girl. Who think it's something special to wait.
Dude, if you had such a huge problem with "first" sex takes, why the fuck would you click on this one? In all honesty, that was your screw up. And just to spite your ass, I might post another.
post another 15 years later how you will regret that you hadn't sex before.
Read all the links in my opinion above.
bullshit 100%
why is it not special to wait? when did this change any why?