Girls, premature ejaculation in long term relationships?

[Anonymous]

Girls have you ever been happy in a long term relationship with a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation and didn't improve? Did you still have a fulfilling sex life? What did you do to make it work or did it just not become an issue?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is seriously bad with premature ejaculation, like barely a minute of pumping, sometimes he doesn't make it to penetrative sex. like the first time we were making out and I took off my top and he just came in his pants.
I'm asexual so it doesn't bother me though my boyfriend does know this. It makes life easier if all I have to do to satisfy him sexually is reach into his trousers until he comes or just let him get on top of me in the middle of the night or morning and it's over in 60 seconds.

[Asker]

That's super interesting. How does he feel about you being asexual? It is awesome that you still care about his sexual fulfilment.

[Opinion Owner]

He doesn't know but I love him and want him to be happy. He's a really clever, handsome guy but in the past I think his premature ejaculation problem and below average penis has held him back with other women.

[Asker]

Makes sense, thanks! So do you 'fake it' to keep him happy?

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes. When he's playing with me.

[PrettyPriya]

I have never been in a relationship like this. However, if I was, I wouldn't hold it against someone. I only assume that is something that is not controllable and therefore not his fault.

I would find ways to improve intimacy in other areas. I certainly wouldn't consider it a fault and would not impact our relationship.

[Asker]

Thanks - if penetrative sex is an important part of sexual fulfilment for you, how would you deal with this?

[PrettyPriya]

It is and isn’t important. I enjoy it but cannot reach orgasm from penetration alone. Therefore, it would be low in importance overall.

[Asker]

Thanks for the explanation

[PrettyPriya]

No problem. I would just focus on the other acts of intimacy, like foreplay and such.

[Asker]

For some guys, going straight from receiving a bj during foreplay into penetrative sex will tip them over the edge so the order of events is quite important...

[PrettyPriya]

Fair enough. That is where good communication comes in. If my partner suffered from PE, I'd make sure I knew what things to do and in what order to make it the most pleasurable for both of us. It is really as simple as working through any other issue in life. Communicate with your partner and figure out the best solution to the problem. Certainly not something that is a dealbreaker.

[PrettyPriya]

@asker thank you for the MHO 😊

[Asker]

You are very welcome :-)

[SueShe]

For men, it seems to be a huge problem whereas for women, this fact is not that relevant. Most guys are not able to hold themselves back longer than 3-5 minutes and thus, this could also be considered premature ejaculation.

If a person places so much importance on how quickly her partner ejaculates during coitus, then this relation is doomed from the start. It seems that couples overemphasize about fornication but tend to discard other, more important, aspects of a relation.

Therefore, if I was in a relation with a person that I truly care for, then this detail would not be the one factor that prevents me to be with him as sex is way on the bottom of my priority list in a functioning relation.

[HappyGoLuckyGal12]

I have never been with a man that has suffered form that

[Asker]

How do you image you would feel if you did?

[HappyGoLuckyGal12]

I dont know

[Anonymous]

never been in that