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I think the whole concept of slut shamming is actually ridiculous. Everyone has sex, everyone expresses themselves differently and I just so happen to do mine through sexual innuendos. I do not believe that the act of sex is sinful or something that is forbidden until the day in which people tie the knot and give themselves to their love. I will never apologize for thinking that sex, is just that. SEX. It doesn’t have to be with someone you love, have feelings for or even know. I think the whole concept about life is experiencing new things. I think what gets me is how people can sit there and judge others about their promiscuity but they are by no means living their life in any perfect way shape or forum.
I think the world slut is just thrown around so loosely now a days, just like when people assume that a women is loose because of the number of sexual partners she has had. Now I get that the big numbers may look bad, but I do not think that should be a reflection on a person. A number does not reflect on who they are, just as a tight dress makes a girl easy. You are what you make yourself.
Also note, just because a girl has a lot of sexual partners does not mean that her lady bits are loose. Learn the human anatomy a little before you sit there and judge me because of my lifestyle and my body choices.
You see, I have been diagnosed with a sex addiction. I have tried medications, the stupid counseling they suggest and even going to an addictions group that was a “god” centered environment. It’s like just because I am a female, I get judged period, then add on the sexual addiction and holy hell I am going straight to the devil for my sins, good lord. Unless I am inflicting pain on someone, ruining families or anything in that nature, I don’t think that I need to be told how to live my life.
It is my body and I will do what I want.
Am I worried that a guy will never date me because of my promiscuous past? Not at all.
Do I care that guy’s think easy girls are slutty? Not really.
Trash Attracts Trash:
Not true, you can attract any type of person that you want in this world. I don’t think just because you have a difference in your life means that you will just attract those types of people.
I can say I have never been in love. Have I chosen to not be in love? Maybe. Have I dated the wrong types of people in my life? Maybe. I am young, I have so much that I have to live for. The thing about sex for me is that it does not fill this empty void. I am not miserable. I am not lonely. I am not a whore. I am not these labels that people insist on putting those who are just sexually expressive. I am sorry that you can not look at sex in any other light besides it being holy and important.
But guess what?….
It is not your place, my place or anyone’s place to judge someone based on WHAT THEY DO. Do you like people in your business? No? Well then why does it seem like it is okay to put your nose in someone’s sexual business out of all the things that you can pick. Why that?
Why do people tend to focus on the bad and not the good?
You got me on that one.
Let me tell you a little story about myself okay?
I bust my ass working a full time job and going to school full time. You know what I have to show for that? My GPA that I have worked so hard to keep. If I want to have a drink to relax, how is that okay, but the minute I want to lay down and relieve stress in a NATURAL WAY is all of a sudden oh no! She did what? With who? How many times? Wow that is so gross!
Oh but people would talk if I resorted to drugs and drinking right? Calling me a tweaker to an alcoholic, yet some how this is better than the girl who has sex.
Yeah, I am the girl who has sex. I love sex. If sex was not suppose to happen, we would not have a penis nor a vagina.
All I am sayin is that sex is OKAY. It is OKAY to go out and have sex once a day, twice a day how ever many times. It is about making sure YOU are happy, not anyone else.
I have learned no matter what you do in life, you will never make everyone happy. So I am picking the most important person to make happy in this world and that is myself.
I know many people will be up in arms about this whole shibang, but hey its 2015 and not 1955.
Sex is sex. Sex is Love. Sex is WHATEVER YOU MAKE IT TO BE.
Till next time.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 34Yeah, nice or shy guys don't have this problem. Lol I wish sex was one of my vices as that implies a successful vice.
TL; DR
My opinion why I don't like "promiscuity" is because it's dangerous. Here some reasons:
1). STI/STD: You can even get the STI Herpes from kissing someone, as this baby learned the hard way (metro.co.uk/.../)
2). Deranged people: Oh, they look good and charming all night, until you sleep with them. Then, they want to move all their stuff into your apartment, and you have to call the police and get a restraining order to get/keep them out.
We're out of the danger zone
3). Who's gonna cook you dinner?: Yeah, having sex the night before is great and all, but who's gonna get you something to eat afterwards. A bf/gf will, not a ONS.
4). Unhappiness: I, personally, know people who have indiscriminate sex and are unhappy. Sure, it's gratifying for the time, but then the "high" wears off, then you crave more. It's like heroine.
All the slut shaming and stuff, I care not for. I cannot condone a lifestyle that I've seen the end result of without warning others about it.
The choice is up to you still.
I've dated both promiscuous and non-promiscuous women, and I can assure you guys that their level of promiscuity wasn't the most interesting thing about any of them.
It's bad because you probably caught an STD of some kind.
Ignorance of what, I wonder?
That no one is stopping you from sleeping around--takes like this are merely because women can't stand the fact that it will come back to bite them? That others will think less of them?
Ignorance of how promiscuous women are proven to be more likely to divorce/cheat on their husbands, if they wed?
Ignorance of how many men don't want to be the "boring plan B" when a promiscuous woman decides to "settle down"? That men don't want to be that special lover 26#?
That men don't want to marry women who slept with trash and thugs and treated sex like a recreational activity?
That the more past partners a woman had, including thugs and trash, the more likely she'll be thinking about them after marriage, and thinking about how the sex was "better" with someone who wouldn't dream of committing to her?
nypost.com/.../
Promiscuous women don't like one simple fact of life.
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Oh, and from the link, "According to a recent study by iVillage, less than half of wedded women married the person who was the best sex of their lives (52 percent say that was an ex.) In fact, 66 percent would rather read a book, watch a movie or take a nap than sleep with a spouse." Who wants to be the "lucky #37 who gets to have a wife who's so bored of him compared to past lovers, she'd rather read a book than have sex?"
So are you suggesting that women should have less sex than men?
@DFTgirl women should both refuse to sleep around, or date men that do. all of society would benefit.
Then men would also get less sex right? Because if men have sex with women, then the less sex women have, the less sex men have. Am I wrong? So you also think men should sleep around less?
If that's what you think, because of the logic that if women sleep around less men also sleep around less, rather than just saying women should sleep around less maybe you should say that about both genders? I mean that's what you're already implying. That people in general should have less sex and sleep around less. Not just one half of the population? So really what you're saying is that you want everyone, including yourself to have less sex with less people?
@DFTgirl naturally, yes, that would be the desired effect. That promiscuity be discouraged and monogamy and marriage be encouraged. And I say women, because of the nature of sex relations. Women have more to lose and lower sex drives than most men. Hence, they decide the "price" of sex and their actions either encourage men to be decent, honest, providers. Or as you see now, their behavior is encouraging men to do their best to be players and have casual sex.
I think you can't hold women entirely responsible for whether or not two people have sex. It takes two to tango and men are equally capable of saying no. Why can't it be men's responsibility to make sure they don't have sex? Maybe rather then telling women to be less slutty you should also focus your efforts on telling the men on here to be less promiscuous. I'm quite happy to tag you into loads of posts on GaG where you can teach men the error of their ways. Also I'm not exactly sure what you mean by having more to lose. What exactly do you lose by having sex? No one can actually tell how much sex you've had (no matter how much some people claim otherwise). In fact sex just has loads of benefits, especially health, happiness and relationship-wise. Are you referring to the old fashioned notion that a woman's worth is based on her virginity? In which case I suggest you take a good hard look at other traits that can make women valuable (intelligence, kindess, etc.)
If you don't want to be judged for being slutty, why did you post this anonymously?
False dichotomy: I post anonymously mainly because I am 67 and I will ordinarily be flamed/trolled on chatrooms by ageists saying nobody my age knows how to think, can get an erection, etc., my opinion's not valid/is old-fashioned, you baby boomers fucked up the world now FOAD. You do not know why she posted anon, so don't pretend you do.
@SonicDare Nobody on GAG is going to call her a slut.
But tynamite just did!
@SonicDare No I did not. What's the point of telling people not to judge promiscuous women, if you're saying that anonymously? That gives the impression that the anonymous person is promiscuous who doesn't want to be shamed for it, hence they wouldn't have a problem with people disagreeing with them with a name they can disagree with.
I post a lot anon due to being trolled due to my age. Has nothing to do with my opinions or secret quirks, etc.
I don't dislike or judge sluts at all... If I date someone who is promiscuous or polyamorous, they cannot expect the same respect or consideration I would give to people who hold themselves to slightly higher standards.
I do not even need to read the myTake, the title alone is a crime. How could promiscuity possibly be someone else's choice? Unless rape is involved, it is completely up to the woman whether or not she wants to have sex with a man.
Didn't read a word, but I know this is exactly what happened:
- OP is promiscuous
- OP has regrets
- OP tries to cope with a problem by rationalizing actions which obviously have consequences and/or tries to separate sex and personality
- OP will get final judgment. That's unavoidable.
correct me if I was wrong. I may read the original post later.
Nail on head, I sure hope you are signs of a new awareness among men and women alike.
great, another slut -_- ur a slut deal with it -_-
I haven't got a problem with a woman sleeping around just as long as she doesn't come anywhere near me, it's all good.
yeah im not going to suddenly support slutty disease-spreading behavior because you said its not nice
'It is not your place, my place or anyone’s place to judge someone based on WHAT THEY DO'
Of course it is, you don't live by yourself on a desert island.
'If I want to have a drink to relax, how is that okay, but the minute I want to lay down and relieve stress in a NATURAL WAY is all of a sudden oh no! She did what?
(...) All I am sayin is that sex is OKAY. It is OKAY to go out and have sex once a day, twice a day how ever many times. It is about making sure YOU are happy, not anyone else.'
Hmm, is sex all about you, then? To relax after a hard day at work?
I don't see how you can compare having a drink with sex, unless you mean those people are driving under the influence and no, that's not okay.
If you're going to compare it with a drink, might as well compare it to a dildo than the real thing.
But well, obviously I also don't care about your choices in life. Just don't try and make people accept them.
WOW, amazing myTake. Best myTake ever. I love you.
My dream is to have sex with girls multiple times everyday forever. Right now, I have sex zero times per day. I lost my virginity to a prostitute 2 months ago. I spent one week with four prostitutes. That was the best moment of my life. I've never experienced such powerful happiness from anything. I want more sex, but I can't find any receptors willing to have sex with me. :(
I wish I knew who you were. I would be by your side. I'm really sad that you were forced to take drugs to control your wonderful sexual appetite. I don't believe in sex addiction. There is nothing more pleasurable than sex on this planet. But apparently, video games such as League of Legends is what the general population of this planet want. People want to experience greed, violence and pain from killing each other instead of blissful pleasure from sex.
Just wanted to say your last two sentences are hilarious LMAO 😂😂😂
@Blahyblah Glad to be of assistance. <3
@Blahyblah Meant to put a <3 sign... @Anonymous The sex with the prostitutes was terrible. I am at the crossroads of destiny. Either I personally help someone I truly love or I help her indirectly by taking responsibility for my existence and saving Planet Earth. I will restore Planet Earth to it's former glory, I will reawaken Fallen Tiamat. My Spirit will not return to Earth after My Body is destroyed. <3 This second path scared me at first, but perhaps this time, it's my destiny to die for humanity. I keep seeing this vision of every world power attacking me in front of my house. <3 If I choose the second path, I apologize in advance to everyone that needed my help personally in this world. <3 See you in the Spirit World. <3
lol, what happened? The sex with the prostitutes was terrible. I am at the crossroads of destiny. Either I personally help someone I truly love or I help her indirectly by taking responsibility for my existence and saving Planet Earth. I will restore Planet Earth to its former glory, I will reawaken Fallen Tiamat. My Spirit will not return to Earth after my body is destroyed. <3 This second path scared me at first, but perhaps this time, it's my destiny to die for humanity. I keep seeing this vision of every world power attacking me in front of my house. <3 If I choose the second path, I apologize in advance to everyone that needed my help personally in this world. <3 See you in the Spirit World. <3
Male comments on here are absolutely ridiculous. What pathetic men, although you don't expect to find good men on here so I wouldn't think it's most guys opinions.
So what is your definition of a "good man"? One who will tolerate the likelihood of you sleeping around with multiple partners and accept the risk of you bringing home an STD to him after you have slept with multiple other men? Why do you think "good men" have standards? Because they don't want anything to do with a woman who gets around all over town. Know one thing.. Your actions carry consequences. Some of those consequences will also include the notion of how people perceive you. Now when selecting a partner, Yes. I will be mindful of their actions, and the kinds of people they hang out with, as well as many of the things they engage in. I live my life according to a certain set of standards, and if anyone is to stand a snowball's chance in hell with me, They better reflect those same standards. While I don't mind the idea of raising children and teaching them right from wrong, I don't need a fixer upper adult to raise who should be old enough to know better.
To be honest as long as you're happy thats all that matter :) easy girls are lucky becasue they get their pick of all the hot guys.
ok so you admit that being a slut is ok, because well, it's all about you and your selfish little world. Today i went to my doctor, they took a blood sample from me because i just found out my ex girlfriend is a slut who likes to participate in risk taking behaviors. anyway, i hope im clean but if not i will let her pay for it. im a decen thrust worthy guy and she did nothing else then abusing my trust. so maybe think before you write down stupid ass shit.
Ouch, I wish you luck with that. I never had sex with a guy before but made out with a very active guy and had a scare. The lame part is you dont learn that herpes is a skin transmitted disease until you fear you my have it, and guys (and girls) will lie about there partners and not be faithful. I think you can have nothing, but I hope that you use this expreience to wait a while before having sex with someone, just to get to know them, and ask about there past or opinions on having bare sex or whatever and if theyd ever did some weird things high or drunk they can remember. Because you owe it to yourself and you can't be silly or trust a stranger word for word with your body, which is your most priceless possesion :3 I think you should be fine, but steer clear for the girl and wait and trust another person, and retest (because some things can be hidden, espeically in men for some reason) before you have a new partner. Good luck!
@juststrollin Yesterday i met a new girl , and she seems way more balanced. She doesn't drink for example, a big plus for me. she doesn't seem to be this party girl, at least i dont see her go clubbing on pictures, and thats what i like, i rather see places together instead of going to bars every weekend, hanging around with drunk people i dont even like. i never njoyed myself once while hanging around with my ex girlfriend in these stupid bars of her. i also defriended & blocked my ex girlfriend and her sister on fb. i want to focuss on this girl i met yesterday, we kissed and we see each other today. i dont care about my ex girlfriend, i dont miss her either, yes i miss those few good times we had, especially going out with her and her 4 yo daughter who i adored but i want to be appreciated. so f. ck her really i couldnt care less anymore.
I don't call myself a slut, I would like to call myself curious for the cock. HA! But I had sex with 176 guys. Yes, I counted.
It's your choice and as long as you're comfortable with it, fine. But it's my choice whether I find that attractive in potential partner. In college, I realized that when I was having one night stands or a casual relationship with a woman that I liked but didn't love or a relationship that had great sex but no emotional connection that I stopped growing emotionally and I stopped searching for the Magic Lady (okay, I stole that from a book but I really like the concept). So I stopped dating women that didn't look like potential life partners. Okay, I didn't meet the Magic Lady until I was 27 and I wasn't a monk between 20 and 27, I had a few one night stands in between a couple relationships that had promise but didn't work out.