Questioning my sexuality in my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I've been with this guy for a while now and things are going really, really well. We feel like such a perfect match. I've only ever dated guys but I've been attracted to women for as long as I can remember.

Last week I went out with some friends and while we were at a bar, another woman came onto me and we ended up drunkenly making out. I had never felt so turned on and if I wasn't in a relationship, we probably would've gone home together.

I told my boyfriend about the kiss and he just kind of laughed about it and we both ended on the fact that nothing like that would happen again, guy or girl.

My concern is that, what if this relationship pans out for the long run? I've always wanted to experiment with another woman but once I decide to take the leap, I end up in a relationship. From what we've talked about before, I don't think my boyfriend would ever want me to experiment, and that's totally fine.

I'm just feeling really conflicted and I'm not sure what to do. I dont want to ruin my relationship just because im curious. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I would never date someone who was still struggling with their sexuality. I don't know what people think a romantic relationship is, but for me, it is a commitment... or at least should be. What you did at the bar was a little something called "cheating," by the way. But at least you were honest about it.

"I've been attracted to women for as long as I can remember."
"I've always wanted to experiment with another woman."

Then perhaps you really should break up with your boyfriend and give yourself more time to discover yourself before you potentially hurt someone. Normally when you start a romantic relationship with someone, it's with someone you feel would mean the world to you. If your "boyfriend" really meant that much to you, you wouldn't be having this dilemma, now would you.

You ought to get this taken care of... because otherwise, you risk the relationship getting awkward down the line. Worse yet, he might start to feel like he can't fully satisfy your wants and needs. I'm sure he'll understand if you tell him.

[nachosaresexy]

I can understand why he'd feel hesitant/insecure about you experimenting with another chick on your own (behind his back, so to speak) so maybe you could ask what he thinks about a hypothetical situation if you were both to experiment with another girl together, even if it basically just meant you and the girl doing the *experimenting* without him being too actively involved? Do you think that'd be too extreme for him? (personally, not sure how i'd feel about it if i were put in that situation... it would really depend on the overall dynamics of the relationship.)

[Anonymous]

Completely understand you on this one in the same boat unfortunately... I think it’s a matter of figuring out maybe if you’re only sexually attracted to women but romantically attracted to men, and if this is the case, is it something you can live with? You say you haven’t had time to experiment which of course in this case you wouldn’t know if your attraction to women is only sexual, but I think it’s something you are just going to have to think long and hard about. Speak to your boyfriend about it or even close friends and see what they think. Hope everything goes well for you x

[Koneko911]

You can always try talking to him again. See if maybe he's willing to try a poly thing. You both date the girl as well as each other

[Berethor]

You are not straight, and it's not uncommon among women.

[Luckycharms12]

Most guy's leave there girl play with another girl as long as they can join in or watch

[Anonymous]

Are you sexually attracted to your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

You should experiment with a woman to see how you like it. At the very least you will satisfy your desire to try it. If you're bi or a lesbian you owe it to yourself.

Did you get the phone number of the girl from the bar? If you did, I suggest contacting her and going out with her. Your guy only needs to know you're having a girls night out for now.