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Here is a MyTake version of the long answer I wrote on an old GAG post about why "there is a stigma" to sex work. It's similar to another MyTake I wrote two months ago about this topic and OnlyFans.
The 30-35 year old female asker:
"Why is there a lifelong stigma attached to someone who worked as a stripper?"
"I spent several years of my life working as a stripper. Now I want to settle down and get married. My problem is that whenever I meet a guy, start dating, and I think he might be The One, something happens. Whenever I tell him about my past as a stripper, guys automatically change. Suddenly it's like I'm no longer me, but some trashy whore in their eyes and they either break up with me or they decide that I must be
bisexual and want to add other women to our bedroom activities, want group sex,
or they start accusing me of prostituting and cheating on them and dump me."
"Why is there a stigma to sex workers? Why don't they get respect?" Because you sold your ass, self respect, dignity, and brains for sex work. Them's the rules. You don't get to sell all of your self-worth and dignity for quick and easy cash by being a professional piece of ass, and then whine when no one respects you.
MOST women on the planet don't have to resort to sex work, and although we live in the Age of Simps where women expect men to give them money for wiping their ass, reality is always one harsh b*ch-slap away.
"[Guys see me as nothing] but some trashy whore in their eyes and they either break up with me or they decide that I must be [gay]. [Or accuse] me of prostituting and cheating on them and dump me."
YES! No sh*t! That's basically how you made your actual living in life, for YEARS. Don't whine about it now that your looks have faded. If you wanted respect, you should've gone to college.
"When I am in a serious relationship I am loyal."
No one is going to believe that, and no one has any right to. Again, YOU SOLD ALL OF THAT FOR QUICK AND EASY CASH. Trust takes a long time to build, but can collapse and be destroyed very quickly.
"I wish I could tell anyone considering being a stripper, not to do it because you'll never be able to escape your tarnished image."
NO SH*T! Everyone knows this! This is why most women (and men) DON'T DO THIS KIND OF WORK! You sold your soul to the devil! You don't get sympathy now!
And you know what? I don't even hate strippers. But back in the 90s and 2000s, sex workers knew full well what they were getting into. They didn't have simps to wipe their ass for them, but pimps to keep them humble. Sex workers didn't sit around and complain about "No one likes me! No one respects me! Waaaaah!"
I can respect someone who's a hustler and knows they're not a good person, then a narcissistic asshole who used and exploited men for years, and then wants everyone to respect them and think of them as some kind of "good person" after that.
Imagine the man who blew his life savings on OnlyFans and strippers asking the world to stop judging him harshly and to demand everyone respects him, regardless of his stupid life choices. Oh? What's that? You mean the Johns and simps of sex work don't get sympathy or respect from their lame sob stories? Well color me Colin! I'll be dipped in pig's sh*t! You don't say?
Like I said, trust is not easy to build up, and respect is even harder. Every single man out there (unless born to billionaires or some other elitist prick) starts at the bottom level when it comes to respect and trust. And he has to build himself up in society. Women pretty much start with a ton of bonus respect just for being female and it's pretty unfair. But sex workers sell ALL of that, to become a flesh bag and cum dumpster, and reduce their public standing to a negative level. So your reputation and respect is now at -150. Good luck bringing it back up...
And I have known people in the sex industry, too. And even on GAG. My female best friend became a popular porn star. For a minute, I thought you were a girl I know here on GAG who used to do that kind of work (but has cleaned up her life since then). I'm just telling you - and them - the cold honest truth. I'm not wiping your ass or simping to you like you're used to so many men doing.
You sold all your respect and dignity in society to become a sex object. You told society that you don't have a brain or job skills or anything else to offer the world but your body. If you want people to start seeing you as that again, you've got a long road ahead of you. Maybe one day, you'll get back to 0 reputation like guys begin at. Maybe one day, you'll be back to the 200 level that all women start off at. And maybe one day, men will see you as a smart, funny, honest person again. ... MAYBE. I mean, hey, it worked for Sasha Grey. She has a sense of humor and comes off likeable. Not so much or Mia Khalifa, though...
TL;DR:
You don't sell your soul to the Devil and then ask him for a refund.
Sex work is shamed for a reason, but if you're going to do that shady, sleazy kind of work, at least own up to it and stop asking society for validation and applause for being a cheap whore with no valuable skills to society. Either do it or don't.
What Girls & Guys Said
10 27The less you give, the more they want.
I guess is the short version.
To me it doesn't feel right that people have to pay for sex. Its just as sad as having to pay for friendship. There judt isn't emotional bonds.
Funny how people still trying to normalize the wrongs. And the rights make them wrong. The stigma here is the dilemma for those who are trying establish this nuclear solution. People try to silence u for being right. Facebook, twatter, snappeshoot, u name it. It's like people who are conservative/straight, then fear and monkey pox.
There is no lifelong stigma.
People tend to forget such things - unless it keeps getting thrown into their faces. Also tends to depend upon the society in which they have "worked." In many its just another job.
Once you start in that business, you never really leave it. Trust me on this
📢 Society see them as a sinners. If first time he go to stripper again next day he will reach to next stripper. Prostitution like drug if anybody addict that they will try to make money anyway and It will always affect youngers. Somebody take it business. This strippers try to attract youngs and give them drugs. In India so many girls missing day by day, Many woman are jobless and Husband has no job I know next what they will think💀. Today many companys give first priority for girls why cause government know our future will going to a dark hole.. ‼️
It is my opinion.
I neex to correcr 2nd sentence " if he go to the stripper and again next day he will reach to another stripper."
As long as you keep your respect whenever you do whatever how you do it the hell with others who think differently is it pays your bills and they don't pay your bills what the hell they got to say about it we're your going to the next guyfriend that don't break up with you keep your respect the hell don't tell them the story keep yourself respect for yourself and are you trying to impress someone else that you used to be and you're not anymore.
I know individuals that stripped and and there schooling in nursing is paid off they still have self-respect help others and their sound mind Christian
Gap tooth simp
Mia Khalifa got divorced for a reason
This is bullshit and it reflects your own prejudices. There is no shame in sex work, and in fact, it can and sometimes is very beneficial to society in that it tends to actually reduce the rate of forcible rape. It is also beneficial in that it allows young women to make a decent living without becoming criminals. If you don't approve of it or don't like it, that is fine, but don't whine and complain when you never get any sex.
Based take my dude
not sure but its just something u dont talk about
Some jobs want ten year background checks. Otherwise it’s probably something you wouldn’t mention.
Lana Rhoades’ child will learn the hard way
I don't know man, as a striper who is happily married with kids I love what I do. it got me a house and put my husband through college. I only work 18 hours a week and bring home about 2k a week. and make my own hours
as a yong women im going to be looked at sexually and do sexual stuff. most yong women do. the only difference with me is I dont do it for free.
I make money by being pretty and being sweet to men with money. its shallow but who cares? not everything has to have meaning.
striping ain't that deep. if you like to be naked there's nothing wrong with it. at the end of the day all work is selling your body.
Good luck finding work at 30. Don't complain then. I hope you save your money up. And to be clear, you can do stripping and whatever. I never said people couldn't. I just said I don't respect people who do, and sex workers aren't entitled to any respect or honor for being parasites to society. Beyond that though, do what you want.
What I wanna know is how old those kids are. The internet is so intimate and quick these days that you're wholeeee past can get pulled up in an instant. All a friend of your kid (or not even your kids, it could be anyone near you) can easily find and pull everyyyything up that you've posted or past work. It's in the system one way or another. I'd say though you lucked out. Hubby/BD is probably rich most cases (I'm not bashing, bc people take offense when its pointed out for some reason). I mean if you look good, you look good! I don't give my money out to that 'workfield' so to speak, but to each her/his own I guess. If it wasn't deep, then people wouldn't have to hide themselves behind a stage name right? That's just my thought process.
And your self respect and respect of others.
If I was making $100 per hour in a career with an expiration date, I might put in 70 hour weeks and retire at 30.
Is this opinion for real? It sounds like an opinion from the 1950's! Is it tongue in cheek, or are some Americans really that puritanical in this day and age? I guess we Aussies are a bit more broadminded than that. I believe how you choose to make your living is your own business, as long as you're not hurting anybody. You are free to change at any time; and indeed, may have to, given that stripping and other adult work has a time limit. As do professions such as sport, ballet and modelling, for example. If, in later life, you encounter prejudice based on your youthful escapades, perhaps you're mixing with the wrong people? Find friends (for example, artists, theatre types etc.) who are less strait-laced and judgmental, and stop trying to please narrow minded people!
Again, women who have self-respect and dignity would never reduce themselves to the level of a sex doll. A woman who does that is forever a sex doll, even after she is no longer a sex worker. That is the way it works. But, of course these women always complain that decent men want nothing from them other than having their genitals milked. Men may sleep with these women. But, they would never enter into a real relationship with them. Because men can't love and respect a slut. They would never have a slut bd the mother of his children.
I have a feeling that this reaction might also be linked to the "double standard" I have heard women talk about concerning number of sexual partners. Sex workers may tend to be looked down upon based on the assumption that it takes no investment, work, years of training, or insane education to engage in it. Literally if you're young, mildly attractive, you can engage in the practice. It's not an easy life, however, the entry requirements to make money this way are very low, ergo, the lack of respect.
Executives and doctors (among others) are respected due to the evident level of sacrifice and dedication it takes to have that job, the job itself is an achievement and makes a statement about the investment required to obtain that job.
i think a lot of men have a problem with this because;
a: there is a need for ownership with women they are intimate with, perceived competitiveness makes most men shy away away from women that have experience. there is also the assumption a well travelled lady is a wh*re because she seeks sex, while it is respectable and often admirable in men.
b. a lot of men, specifically men with potential sex or porn addictions have a hard time seeing women as human. literally. i mean that in the sense of seeing women as equal counterparts to men, because of the constant way women are sexualised in media, they find it hard to look past the physical beauty hence; “they find it astounding when you have beauty and brains”
c. this is the one well paying industry women (alone) ((mostly)) thrive in. it’s the only example men have of how women feel on a day to day basis of how women experience society. the exclusion, there is an element of jealously men feel because women are born with the ability to sell their body, which they cannot, but fail to understand without men themselves the industry couldn’t exist, how are you going to watch porn, pay for a girls onlyfans, go to a strip club, then view the very people that provided you those services basic human dignity?
there is exploitation in every industry, think; the army. is there a better example of selling your body then selling it for your country? with almost no return except for (if you survive) honor? but that is seen as admirable, even though most people these days have an anti-authoritarian perspective. i urge all you men who feel any animosity towards sex workers to dig deep about why you feel that way, i do understand it, and it’s not your fault, society and most western cultures condemn and villanise sex, even though it is the exact reason we are here, i think it would do well for everyone to learn to unlearn that bias. anyway i made an account just to say this have a lovely day anyone that reads this <3 xox
I don’t know that men have a desire to own the women they are intimate with. I think the opposite may be true. Have you ever heard the joke “What’s the definition of eternity?” The answer is “It’s the time between when you cum and she goes.” It’s a joke I’ve heard men tell many times, but does not reflect my sentiments. Rather than wanting to own women, many women want to throw them out like yesterday’s garbage once they are done. Women throw themselves at pro athletes hoping to get pregnant and own a big portion of their pay. So it may be women wanting to own men. Also, the contempt for the dancers and customers is, in many cases, mutual. The men se the women as whores and the women see the men as sleazebags for a mutual exchange they both participate in voluntarily.
@MikeInHawaii “ I don’t know that men have a desire to own the women they are intimate with.” Exactly. Really sick of that bullshit feminist theory that men want to “own” women.
@globetrotter22 She's only 19. Likely programmed by the blue haired Karen feminists.
@iSlipKnot I’ve met women twice her age that are twice as dumb. However I agree that she is likely being brainwashed. I hope she takes a different trajectory with her viewpoints as she gets older. @birdygirly when you enlist in the military it is next to impossible to voluntarily get out without dire consequences. Also I don’t see sex workers having to go to Boot Camp to do their business. There is quite a difference when it comes to laying on your back and faking it vs. getting shot at. For poor women living in 3rd world countries this a completely different story. Many if not almost all those women choose that job for survival. Plain and simple. But if you are a legal age western woman who choose profession than you are most likely: #1 too lazy to do legitimate work and/or #2 addicted to drugs and need to fund your habit. and/or #3 have a strange fetish for the job and actually like it. Anyway I am not saying you can’t do sex work. I even open minded to legalizing it in certain jurisdictions. But you didn’t “earn” or work for any skills other than a woman’s body that men crave. You signed up to be an object and you will be “respected” as such. That doesn’t mean you should be physically abused and mistreated. But you won’t be respected either and rightfully so. You took the easy way out.
You guys already said what I was going to say, but there's not enough mental gymnastics in the world to try to convince me that selling yourself as a piece of ass and a worthless sex object, entitles you to respect, no matter how many lazy entitled whores and self-loathing simps say otherwise. This crap is common sense to me, and people defending it is just another example of Clown World insanity 🤡. Once again, @globetrotter22 says it perfectly: Imagine being a useless whore and sex object who signs up to be such a thing instead of going to college or actually contributing to society in some positive way, and then thinking you're entitled to accolades, prestige, respect, and honor for being a flesh bag men use to cum. You can do what you want, but you're not entitled to respect for doing what you want. And as I predicted, only the lazy and useless females and simps, would defend being a societal parasite with no redeeming qualities and think you should praise them for it.
Actually this isn't correct. As of 2019 do you know what the average number of sex partners for women before marriage is? 3 to 5. What about men? 5 to 7. That really isn't much of a difference. The fact of the matter is that women who have had 10+ sex partners are not really able to bond with men emotionally. They are tainted. There is a 95% chance a promiscuous woman will cheat and only a 50% chance a promiscuous man will cheat. As for women with beauty and brains, most women in the sex industry are not beautiful. They are just average women. Beautiful women know their value and are far less likely to degrade themselves. If you think I'm wrong, think of this. When they do background checks to give someone security clearance, they look at an individuals sexual morality. The DoD came up with guidelines from many years of research. Basically, if you have had more than 5 to 7 LIFETIME sex partners, you will be denied clearance. And the reason for this is these people are fundamentally not trustworthy or reliable. How many people fail? Not as many as you think. Over 80% pass. And they have their ways of learning about everybody you have slept with.
@U4ea0 “ When they do background checks to give someone security clearance, they look at an individuals sexual morality. The DoD came up with guidelines from many years of research.” Interesting. Do you have direct link about this?
@U4ea0 It is possible that, due to a small number of really promiscuous women out there, that the median number of sex partners by women could be lower than the median for men. If people are telling the truth, the average should be the same. When the surveys were done, either the men lied and exaggerated their body counts, or the women lied and understated theirs. And, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, in the binge drinking, hookup culture that exists on college campuses, many people don’t know what their body counts are. But, I think the conclusion is correct. More promiscuous women do seem to have more trouble in their relationships. I’ve also seen studies that show the younger a woman was when she lost her virginity, the greater the chance she will get divorced. This matches my own observations from riding this rock around the sun 58 times. A friend in college divided our fraternity little sisters into “sluts” and “cookie bakers.” Looking back forty years later, the sluts have about a 100% divorce rate, it’s near zero for the cookie bakers.
Yes, but I consider such women tainted. I'm a white South African who came to the US at 16. The women here trigger my gag reflex. I don't think most Americans actually realize how bad it had got. I literally imported my childhood friend (also a white South African and she looked GREAT), and married her.
@globetrotter22 Regardless of where you are , survival. Not really a difference, it's not totally consenual.