Girls, reactions to a sleeping friend touching you accidentally?

[imshyiknowthatslame]

There's a TL;DR at the bottom

I don't know how often/if this happens, but I have read it in a number of stories online. But let's say you wake up and the person sleeping next to you (assume a friend/partner that you are not in a physical relationship with yet and both of you were sober going to sleep and are still sober) has their hand on a part of your body that would require your consent in order for them to be touching. You're pretty confident this person wouldn't intentionally do this. How do you react?

Would you react like you would if someone was awake, wasted drunk and trying to get handsy? I know different people act differently drunk. Also some people black out and don't remember anything, while some remember everything. But I feel like there are things that some people would never do unless they're drunk

In the stories I've read, the women are usually interested in the person (obviously plays a factor l and say they don't mind/would have removed the hand if it was a problem

I'm one that has never blacked out from being drunk and know exactly what I'm doing while drunk. So I don't have any experience in matters where I'm drunk and behaving radically different than normal. I have also never found myself in this situation, except for being on the receiving end. Drunk woman kissing me and getting handsy while I was sober (told her to stop multiple times and did not touch her/attempt to kiss her back)

Mainly asking this because I would feel horrible if I woke up next to either a partner, not yet physical with, or even a friend and my hand was where it shouldn't be. I feel like she'd be upset/assume I did it purposely. Is this even a thing that happens or just happens in stories?

TL;DR if you woke up next to a still sleeping person who was a friend or partner that you weren't yet in a physical relationship with and their hand was on a consent-required part of your body, would you react the same as you would if they were very drunk and getting handsy?

[ShellyB]

Well I think you mean like, if you are on the verge of being a couple or starting to date but haven't quite made it official yet, and you are for example watching a movie together and fall asleep, something like that let me know if I am wrong. So in that situation if I woke up and his hand was somewhere it should not be, I would prob. move his hand. However I would not be scandalized or anything, because I would not put myself in that position if it wasn't a guy I was interested in or didn't like. I might consider it evidence he likes me consciously or subconsciously.

However there are other situations where you can be asleep next to somebody for different reasons and in those situations you might react differently to wandering hands. When I was younger I woke up once and found a guy cousin's hands all over me. That was disturbing. I got up and left the room and avoided being alone w him after that. We never talked about it, it might have been totally accidental but it was not comfortable to think about. On the other hand I have slept (platonically) w girlfriends many times and you can end up touching in all sorts of ways when asleep, I don't care or read into it though I know that kind of contradicts what I said about it showing a guy subconsciously likes me. JMO!

[imshyiknowthatslame]

Yeah, I would be mortified if I woke up in that situation where my hand was where I knew it shouldn't be. The story I mentioned about the drunk woman; she had come over from a nearby party because she didn't want to spend the night there and didn't want to walk all the way home (this was in college). I didn't have a car so I offered her my bed, I'd take the couch in the common room or floor in the bedroom. We were close friends but nothing more. She didn't like the idea of kicking me out of my bed and I didn't want her on the floor because I'd feel like a jerk. So we agreed to share the twin bed. After she started kissing/getting handsy while I told her to stop for a little but, she relented and went to sleep. I was paranoid of falling asleep and accidently ending up in a not ideal position while unconscious (also, I had never been kissed before that day) so I didn't get much sleep. But yeah, you got the gist of the situations I was asking about. Thank you so much for your thought out reply and sharing your opinion. It was insightful

[Nikki1989]

I couldn't care less. My friends and I are always cuddling anyway.

[imshyiknowthatslame]

Thank you for your reply. You sound so much more comfortable in your own skin than I do. I'd feel so guilty (because I always feel guilty about everything [anxiety/depression]) if I woke up and found my hand on a part of a friend's body that I shouldn't be touching. Even if she hasn't woken up yet and therefore didn't know, it would haunt me. Thanks again

[Laura_fo2208]

I try to ignore it and get back to sleep

[imshyiknowthatslame]

It wouldn't bother you at all? Sorry, that just blows my mind. Thank you for sharing

[Laura_fo2208]

Well we all move while sleeping, so why getting mad because of something unintentionally happend. And it has happen to me in the past. I would remove the hand from my body, ignore that it happend and get back to sleep. No need to make a scene otherweise I shouldn't have shared the bed with this person. It's a risc everybody should be aware of before choosing to sleep in one bed

[imshyiknowthatslame]

Oh that makes sense now, I thought you meant you wouldn't remove the hand and just try to ignore it. My fault for misunderstanding. Thank you for the clarification.

[Laura_fo2208]

No problem 😊

[rachel776]

i don't think it's accidental

[imshyiknowthatslame]

That's what would scare me if I was ever in a such a position. I'd either not be able to sleep to prevent such an occurrence or sleep with my hands behind my back or something. Thanks for commenting