Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I’m here to write my take on giving head.
No, not another few paragraphs giving tips or my two cents on how to give you man oral in a way that he’ll surely enjoy. More like my opinion on the whole aspect of giving head, in general. How I feel it can (and arguably should) play positively into the dynamics of a relationship, that seems to differ from the opinion widely held by many others.
Firstly, I don’t see anything in the least bit shameful in giving head. (Likewise for going down on your partner, though I’m writing from the perspective of a straight female so I’ll stick to the former.)
1. It's gross!
One of the main arguments that I have heard from many, both online as well as from a few friends in rl, regarding why they detest giving head so much that it’s never even considered to be an option with their boyfriend, is that it’s ‘gross’. That- “come on… boys pee out of there. Do you think really think that I’m going to want to put my mouth on that kind of place?”
Well.. yes. That’s true.
Boys do urinate from there. Seeing as how you’re both out of grade-school, though, it could be assumed you’re past the stage of thinking that boys have cooties. Sexual intercourse in whole (not just oral) isn’t overly sanitary; there is some truth behind why it’s called ‘bumping uglies’. With oral sex being an extension of penetrative sex, the presence of tiny bits of not-so-desired things may be a tough pill to swallow. However, all it takes to get juvenile thoughts like that out of your mind would be a slight change of mind-set.
2. It's ever-so 'degrading'
...This seems like a good time refer back to good ole Merriam Webster to see what degradation actually means, as opposed to simply regurgitating ideas that third-wave feminists and prudists alike have shoved into our minds-
Definition of degrade
1a : to lower in grade, rank, or status : demoteb : to strip of rank or honorsc : to lower to an inferior or less effective level <degrade the image quality>d : to scale down in desirability or salability
2a : to bring to low esteem or into disrepute <his actions have degraded his profession>b : to drag down in moral or intellectual character
Sure, baby. Let me take your manhood- your pride and joy, with a side of family jewels, in my mouth. Nestle them right in between my chompers.
...That's degrading? Really now?!
I’ve never looked at giving head to my boyfriend as degrading.
Yes, the woman is usually on her knees, which may be looked at as submissive. As putting the guy in a ‘position of power’.
However, let’s not forget that while I’m giving him head, I’ve got his dick and/or family jewels in my mouth. It may be time to reconsider who’s really in power here, if you insist on looking at intimate acts such as this as a power struggle in the first place.
To me, giving a guy oral is a bit of an act of trust. That he’s willing to put his manhood in such a vulnerable position and not be worried that he’ll leave the room castrated or any less of a ‘man’ (literally).
There’s just so much going on that it can be almost overwhelming. The musky scent, the taste of skin, the texture differences between shaft and head, the noises they make (especially the whimpering and pleading), the absolute control you have over them- the list goes on. In addition to how few things rub your ego quite like having someone stop you because they can’t speak, other than to tell you that you’re the best they’ve ever had.
3. A great way for a bit of a role-reversal
If anything, giving head to a guy is a bit of a power play. Not a power play as in femme/dom territory, or anything taboo like that. I actually have a bit of fun with working some teasing into it. There’s no more enjoyable power-trip, in my eyes, than getting your guy to be actively begging for more. For you to put his entire dick in your mouth versus just licking the shaft, or pleading to go inside of you.
'Power' and submission aside, though, it does bring me genuine (emotional as well as physical) pleasure to be able to do something for my boyfriend that he undoubtedly enjoys to the fullest. Occasionally, we’ll have a session that’s completely lust-driven, where the one thing on our minds is getting to the finish relatively quickly.
Other times, though, I like to slow things down while I’m giving him head. Maybe a bit of teasing, but mostly just taking time to prolong the pleasure he’ll receive. Enough time so that letting my hand taking over for a bit so that I can just watch him and his reactions, from facial expressions to his body/dick tensing up, or balls starting to twitch a bit if he’s particularly close, is not an issue at all.
Take note of how (in what has essentially turned into a bit of a love letter to my boyfriend’s dick) I didn’t mention how I enjoy giving head because it’s a ‘selfless act’.
Sure, it’s something that I can do for him without requiring much in return at the time. Sure, it’s something throughout which he can relax and focus solely on enjoying versus working toward ensuring that I get too much back.
However, let it be known that for myself, at least, it’s a pretty sexually-rewarding act as well. The whole ‘feels’ aspect extends to the physical (as in getting me dripping wet) just about every time.
You want to shame me (in addition to many other girls, I'm sure) for enjoying, getting turned on and even physically amped up for sex afterwards, in cases where the blowjob doesn’t continue to a finish but are more of a warm-up for the main event?
Step right up.
What Girls & Guys Said
30 40I always train chicks to deepthroat like a pro. They don't have the option to refuse or they will be out the door
If I were a woman I think I would become a champion dick sucker. Its so natural to want to please a partner. Sucking cock is like making out for real.
Most men like receiving and most women like giving. That's all there is to it. There's no need to "justify" as if it didn't follow some "norm of society". I can't even keep up with what is considered "normal".
Good and truthfull article.
Well said. VERY WELL SAID.
Personally giving head is something I’ve always found enjoyable and love doing. He loves it and I feel empowered. It’s great! And is a very effective way to wake him up in the morning 😜
Great take. NOTHING wrong with giving head or liking giving head.
can't say too much about the actual text other than I think that most of your points should be natural, but I love the gifs (main reason for me to click on a sexual myTake lmao)
I love it.
I will lick your pussy if you give me a good head.
Great take on it, what guy doesn't love a great blowjob
Oral love is better than pole to hole striking.
Way to make a great my take.
I wish I could do a great my take but most people would hate it as I would make it about why birth control is wrong. lol.
I'd love to hear arguments for that. I really can't see that in any way, other than maybe religious matters or related. If you decide to write a my-take on that, I'll try to keep an open mind.
@Randomname02
www.dailymotion.com/.../x5pa29_birth-control-is-a-sin_news
https://www.armyofgod.com/Birthcontrol.html
Birth control is evil and a sin. Birth Control is anti-Baby and anti-Child. The purpose of birth control is to stop the life of an innocent baby from being born. Why would you stop your own child from being conceived or born? What kind of human being are you?
www.change.org/.../it-s-a-child-not-a-choice-make-abortion-illegal
@Randomname02 If it's true love, you'd be willing to make babies with them. Otherwise, it's not true love. I don't know when I'll do the my take but it won't be long because it's burning deep inside of me.
I don't like abortion, because I believe you should take precaution (meaning birth control) if you cannot mentally, financially, or socially afford to have a baby. An innocent child shouldn't be removed for that reason. But, birth control will protect the baby, and the parents. More importantly the baby. People will have sex no matter what, we can't stop that. I wouldn't want an unwanted child to be born into a family that can't afford it, love it and treat it the way it should be treated. I don't believe making birth-control illegal would benefit anyone, and could only overpopulate the world with unwanted, and unhappy children. I would be more than happy to be debunked for this if you have anything to elaborate, but that is just my opinion. It could change, but, I don't know I do not like the thought of preventing innocent children from being born, but sometimes it just is for the better. I'm not religious, so my part in this would be totally neutral, by saying it is a "Sin".
@Randomname02 It's weird to me that all other creatures except humans do not use contraceptive sex. I see it as if you don't want a baby, then you shouldn't have sex. Most see it as a child being a curse rather than a blessing. Most want pleasure sex with no responsibilities.
Yeeah, but you can't exactly make people not have sex, by illegalizing birth-control. People will do it, whether or not people see it as you do. I'm just trying to be realistic. And it's not really that weird. Biology says it all. We are different from other species in more than one way, we have a whole different way of socializing, loving, and thinking. I don't bother to have a biology class today, and you're much older than me so you probably don't need it. If you're not one of those that deny evolution.
@Randomname02 Would you mind private messaging me about it? I don't want to make the board back and forth long.
"If it's true love, you'd be willing to make babies with them. Otherwise, it's not true love." Or, you know, you could both have medical conditions that you don't want to pass on.
@FallOutBoy2001 Somewhat true but having a deformed baby isn't always bad. People may criticize you for keeping a down's syndrome baby but their life is important also.
See, my boyfriend and I are kinda a pool of bad genes. My boyfriend and I have ADHD, I have a family history of dangerously high cholesterol, my boyfriend has 20/200 vision. Not only do I not want to pass any of those onto my future children, but even if I just adopt, I don't know if I could raise children, seeing as I'm just about able to take care of myself.
@FallOutBoy2001 It's ultimately your decision whether anybody agrees with it or not. If you told an Amish person that you didn't want kids, they'd tell you to abstain from sexual intercourse. However, I don't care what you do. Technically I do but it isn't anything I can do about it or say to convince you otherwise.
Love it!!
Its fun!
and.. I can always tell if I did a great job! hehe
If a girl really enjoys doing it, she us going to be good at it.
sadly there are not many women like you. i have always compromised on my sexual pleasures while satisfying her.
My body is ready.
You write well.
A lot of prudish girls in this take lol
How about it hurts your jaw and is generally very uncomfortable.
... hurts your jaw? I never understood that. You're sucking his dick, not chewing on a jawbreaker or anything. If your jaw hurts or you're even opening and closing your mouth, you're obviously doing something wrong.
If you suck a dick for 20-30 minutes with a wide open jaw, it does hurt yes. It's not like you just open your mouth and that's it, you really gotta focus on not letting toy teeth touch. You just try opening your jaw as much as you can now, it's gonna hurt at some point, and if it doesn't then you're the abnormal one.
*your teeth
you're opening your jaw as far as you can for 20-30 minutes? Is your boyfriend's dick almost as girthy as a 4L pop bottle?
I don't know what kind of Julia Roberts mouth you were born with, but mine isn't very big, whereas the guy is.
My mouth is pretty standard in size but... you must have a mouth the size of a child's mouth, seeing as how your jaw feels strained in being open as wide as it can possibly go for 20-30 minutes. Don't forget that blowjobs don't generally involve his ENTIRE dick being in your mouth for the entire duration. Focusing on the outer 1/2 or 1/3 of it is key so perhaps your jaw will have an easier time with that.
www.womenshealthmag.com/.../male-girth-3_0.jpg
If you hold your arm in the air for 30 minutes it will become sore, too. It's not natural to open your mouth for that long, so of course the muscles will hurt.
... my point stands the same. Unless your boyfriend's dick is the one in a million by having the girth of a 4L bottle and/or you've got an infant-sized mouth, it's perfectly adequate to hold your mouth open with next to no strain/active use of your jaw. Granted that you do know the basics of giving head, like how you're not chewing on his dick, but have 99% of the movement in your neck as your head as a whole bobs up and down his shaft, yeah?
My jaw still hurts, no matter how unlikely you find it.
Also when I give head I don't just bob up and down, I do shit, which is tiring to the mouth.
... if your tongue doing anything to the guy's dick puts your jaw, of all places, in great pain, you should see a doctor pronto.
Im not anguished, my jaw is just tired. You can't just keep it perfectly still, and that kind of movement that's not just up and down (like when you eat) makes the jaw tired.
It's disgusting lmao putting something which is used for peeing. Yuck. I love sex but blowjobs are just yucky.