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Reasons Why Some Women Have Rape Fantasies
Please note the title says "Some Women". Obviously this DOES NOT apply to all women, nor does this promote Sexual Assault of any Kind.
This Is an Outlet That Lets Them Think About ‘dirty’ Sex
Women have been taught that they’re sweet and nice and that ‘kinky’ is a word best used for men. Having a rape fantasy lets women explore the not-so-sweet version of sex without feeling dirty themselves, because the act is done to them not by them. This is why the fantasy "rapist" is very close to the fantasy hero – good-looking, desirable, and great in bed (50 Shades of Grey anyone?).
There’s a Fine Line Between Pain and Pleasure
Sex, in all its conventional and unconventional forms is rarely as smooth a ride as movies (and even porn) will have you believe. Danger and pain can get hearts racing, cause complete awareness and create a state of arousal. Women fantasizing about rape show openness to experiencing pain, though in a controlled manner and perhaps only limited to fantasy
Some Women Have Masochistic Tendencies
A masochist is a person who derives sexual and other pleasure by experiencing pain, humiliation and self-denial. Both men and women can have masochistic tendencies, where they need to experience a level of pain before they can feel any pleasure. A rape fantasy is a relatively safe way for a woman to give an outlet to her self-harm desires.
It’s a Kind of Sexual Blame Avoidance
Women are raised to be sexual ‘gatekeepers’; they are quite often told that sex is something men want from them and that they should not have sex till the man has given them something (a ring, a marriage certificate, etc). This makes women repress their natural biological instincts. Rape fantasies allow them to imagine passionate sexual encounters without feeling like they’re to blame for it.
Fantasy Rape is Nothing Like Real Rape
The reason why people find the idea of rape fantasy horrifying is because rape is a horrifying crime. However, a rape fantasy is nowhere close to the reality of rape. In the safety and comfort of her own space a woman can let her imagination run wild. Her "rapist" can be a very desirable and accomplished person (boyfriend/husband) and the fantasy can be more domination/rough sex than a violent crime.
It shows an openness to new sexual experiences
Many women who admitted to having rape fantasies also showed an interest in exploring sex beyond the missionary position. They showed a more open attitude towards sex and were more comfortable with their sexuality. It’s not like rape fantasies are the most dominant fantasies; they’re just part of the many fantasies that women have.
Many Women Who Fantasize about Rape also Fantasize about Dominating Men
Don’t assume that if a woman enjoys the occasional (or not-so-occasional) rape fantasy that all she wants to experience is domination by a man. In a study, many women who said they had rape fantasies also expressed a desire to dominate men in the bedroom. It may be a general leaning towards BDSM or a simple desire to dominate and be dominated, but most women don’t limit themselves to being dominated all the time…not even in fantasy.
RAPE FANTASIES PUT CONSENT INTO THE HANDS OF THE WOMAN
Let me repeat that.....RAPE FANTASIES PUT CONSENT INTO THE HANDS OF THE WOMAN!!!!!!
Sound weird? It isn’t. A rape fantasy will progress the way a woman wants it to. If she doesn’t like the idea of sex with lights on, it’ll take place in the dark, and if she wants to pick up the speed or slow it down, that’s how it’ll go. The woman will build the man, the setting, and the process of the fantasy exactly how she likes it – so it’s a fantasy where the "victim" has all the control.
So, to all those who think rape fantasies means that women want to get raped, no, they don’t. Sexual aggression against a woman (or a man) will always be the aggressor’s fault. It doesn’t matter what she wears, says or thinks, you can’t rape her. In case your girlfriend or wife is interested in ‘rape play’, do talk about what she’d be comfortable with, when she’d like it to happen and how far she’d like you to go before you decide to ‘surprise’ her with it.
If you don't agree with everything I've written that is okay.
Have a great day :)
What Girls & Guys Said
19 30Yes and the daddy issues.
Well said and spot on!
Pretty nice. I dont get it why people write anonymous mytakes. This was a nice read.
Girls with daddy issues are the best.
Has nothing to do with daddy issues.
Because they been rape from the past
Not most women.
So your saying that you're desperate and all the rest of the womans r too damn desperate for love, i quite love i don't want to love anybody because they just lairs and not loyal one girl had a one night stand with somebody and that girl was my crush shit love doesn't exist. What does exist is pain and hatred that's all and big fat liars and players that's what does exist but like life is a bitch i'll maybe end up with a low life girl one day god forbid but fuck it life is a bitch right. I hope that i won't
Wow, I had never looked at it in this light before.
I always thought rape fantasy was just some kind of sick perversion, but this take really makes me look at it differently now.
It more to do with domination fantasy.
Nice take
I sometimes have rape fantasies.
And girls call guys with foot fetishes weird. They dream about getting raped.
You have a foot fetish?
No..
Please tell me this is a joke.
Yes he does.
@lovelyhoneybones I don't
Let me guess the Patriachy? ...
Okay. You didn't say that.
Ok, so what's next - reasons why some guys have fantasies about being raped by a girl?
most like to be controlled
I see no confirmed studies or links.
daddy issues is a major factor
Not to me.
I was sexually abused and it makes me feel sick every time I hear women talk about their rape fantasies like its some sort of trophy to brag about , or proof that they're "kinky". My sexual abuse wasn't fun or sexy like these women imagine their "rape" fantasies to be. I wish we would adress it as a "dominant man fantasy" instead , because what these women fantasize about surely isn't true rape.
That was the point of the Take. I didn't make the term up. But I tried to explain what it is. I also can't control what any man or woman fantasize about and do in there bedroom. I do have this fantasy and it will remain a fantasy in my head. I'm not hurting anyone.
Meh, I like to dominate men, but I never had any "rape fantasies", I don't see the point.
I'm very submissive
I have been actually raped but I also like rape play/rape fantasies. It was horrible and traumatizing to be raped, sure, but a rape fantasy is nothing but an acting.
Great take.
i am confused. you have raped and you can dream it now
Awesome Take.
Well, I have fantasies about some hot, dominant girl - raping me ;)