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Reasons Why Some Women Have Rape Fantasies
Please note the title says "Some Women". Obviously this DOES NOT apply to all women, nor does this promote Sexual Assault of any Kind.
This Is an Outlet That Lets Them Think About ‘dirty’ Sex
Women have been taught that they’re sweet and nice and that ‘kinky’ is a word best used for men. Having a rape fantasy lets women explore the not-so-sweet version of sex without feeling dirty themselves, because the act is done to them not by them. This is why the fantasy "rapist" is very close to the fantasy hero – good-looking, desirable, and great in bed (50 Shades of Grey anyone?).
There’s a Fine Line Between Pain and Pleasure
Sex, in all its conventional and unconventional forms is rarely as smooth a ride as movies (and even porn) will have you believe. Danger and pain can get hearts racing, cause complete awareness and create a state of arousal. Women fantasizing about rape show openness to experiencing pain, though in a controlled manner and perhaps only limited to fantasy
Some Women Have Masochistic Tendencies
A masochist is a person who derives sexual and other pleasure by experiencing pain, humiliation and self-denial. Both men and women can have masochistic tendencies, where they need to experience a level of pain before they can feel any pleasure. A rape fantasy is a relatively safe way for a woman to give an outlet to her self-harm desires.
It’s a Kind of Sexual Blame Avoidance
Women are raised to be sexual ‘gatekeepers’; they are quite often told that sex is something men want from them and that they should not have sex till the man has given them something (a ring, a marriage certificate, etc). This makes women repress their natural biological instincts. Rape fantasies allow them to imagine passionate sexual encounters without feeling like they’re to blame for it.
Fantasy Rape is Nothing Like Real Rape
The reason why people find the idea of rape fantasy horrifying is because rape is a horrifying crime. However, a rape fantasy is nowhere close to the reality of rape. In the safety and comfort of her own space a woman can let her imagination run wild. Her "rapist" can be a very desirable and accomplished person (boyfriend/husband) and the fantasy can be more domination/rough sex than a violent crime.
It shows an openness to new sexual experiences
Many women who admitted to having rape fantasies also showed an interest in exploring sex beyond the missionary position. They showed a more open attitude towards sex and were more comfortable with their sexuality. It’s not like rape fantasies are the most dominant fantasies; they’re just part of the many fantasies that women have.
Many Women Who Fantasize about Rape also Fantasize about Dominating Men
Don’t assume that if a woman enjoys the occasional (or not-so-occasional) rape fantasy that all she wants to experience is domination by a man. In a study, many women who said they had rape fantasies also expressed a desire to dominate men in the bedroom. It may be a general leaning towards BDSM or a simple desire to dominate and be dominated, but most women don’t limit themselves to being dominated all the time…not even in fantasy.
RAPE FANTASIES PUT CONSENT INTO THE HANDS OF THE WOMAN
Let me repeat that.....RAPE FANTASIES PUT CONSENT INTO THE HANDS OF THE WOMAN!!!!!!
Sound weird? It isn’t. A rape fantasy will progress the way a woman wants it to. If she doesn’t like the idea of sex with lights on, it’ll take place in the dark, and if she wants to pick up the speed or slow it down, that’s how it’ll go. The woman will build the man, the setting, and the process of the fantasy exactly how she likes it – so it’s a fantasy where the "victim" has all the control.
So, to all those who think rape fantasies means that women want to get raped, no, they don’t. Sexual aggression against a woman (or a man) will always be the aggressor’s fault. It doesn’t matter what she wears, says or thinks, you can’t rape her. In case your girlfriend or wife is interested in ‘rape play’, do talk about what she’d be comfortable with, when she’d like it to happen and how far she’d like you to go before you decide to ‘surprise’ her with it.
If you don't agree with everything I've written that is okay.
Have a great day :)
What Girls & Guys Said
19 30sigh its always about what the woman wants and how she wants it. the man is always expected to comply.
Not true.
"RAPE FANTASIES PUT CONSENT INTO THE HANDS OF THE WOMAN"
Calm your tits...
Women have rape fantasies because women want men to dominate them. It's biologically programmed from our animal evolution.
Fantasy is fantasy and everyone knows that it is completely detached from real life desires.
Men have rape fantasies as well. Hell every time I see a super attractive female, I have that fantasy. It doesn't make me a bad person. It's my natural animal desire to dominate. I don't do it because it's fantasy and has nothing to do with how I would act as a real human.
Real actual rape is rare. (less than 0.8/1000) men don't rape. A very minute fraction of fucked up humans (Both male and female) rape.
No sane person believes rape is ok. That concept is pushed by the feminist fake victim complex bullshit.
Actual rape is not rare buddy.
Actually, it is. Sorry if you don't like hearing that women aren't victims.
The bureau of justice statistics (the gold star in crime statistics) shows that is has been less than 0.8/1000 for over a decade. This takes into account the assumed "90%" that don't come forward and has a 97% accuracy rate.
www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv14.pdf
If you believe the feminist nonsense stat of 1 in 4, you are a fool.
Mary Koss who was a capital C on top of a bigot and a liar made this stat up using a very vague survey for Ms. Magazine asking women if they ever felt obligated to have sex with their partner, ever had consensual sex after drinking, and if they ever regretted sex. She then took these all to equal RAPE. (Which they are NOT). She did this because she couldn't actually get numbers when she asked women if they were ever raped. Because it doesn't happen often enough.
She later redid the same survey in her job at the CDC which cemented these bullshit numbers.
Partly, I agree with you there, that rape isn`t as common as we think, but I must say, there are a lot of women who don`t come forward or admit anything ever happened to them. Things could have also happened as kids, where they either can`t remember (their minds blocked out that memory) or they didn`t understand what was going on. There are dozens of countries in the world who kill women of their own kind if they ever come forward with their rape story. This happens in, for example, Pakistan. If this consists of killing, punishing or disowning their own daughter, they will do so. If a victim should bring up or tell about physical or sexual abuse, she would be looked upon as being responsible for losing her and her family`s dignity. A lot of rapes go unsolved or unreported because the woman fears she will become worthless to society.
According to a 2011 poll of experts by the Thomson Reuters Foundation Poll. It tells for example that more than 1000 women and girls are murdered in "honor killings" which is a homicide for a family member in suspicion that they have brought down or damaged the family name. Anyways. Sorry for such a long reply. I do not say I agree or disagree with you here. There are more sides to this situation you have brought up. My point is many women, more than we know, are hiding the fact that they were raped once or more times in their life. Statistics concerning how many women aren`t raped each year or whatever is not technically correct.
@ragequeen Please don't use the shitty 3rd world countries as a scapegoat. We all know that Islamic countries have fucked up ideologies and women are treated like shit. That isn't what we are talking about here. In western society, rape isn't common. As proven by the most comprehensive crime statistics collection agency. Also, your second comment refers to the shit ideologies "honor killings" as an example. These are NOT issues with men and women, these are issues with bronzed-aged hath filled ideologies. I am not saying women never get raped. It just isn't an epidemic worthy of constant social shaming of the entire male sex.
Dude chill.
I will "chill" when the fake victim complex stops getting propagated by ignorant groups trying to make it look like women in western cultures are "oppressed".
This take has nothing to do with that. Take your rant somewhere else.
Yeah, but it does. The second you stated "It doesn’t matter what she wears, says or thinks, you can’t rape her." insinuating that men don't already know this shit.
www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Your comments seem ignorant. You might want to research before you get mad over "facts". This is just adding to what you said about rape being rare. I understand the rest of your point, but rape is not as rare as you think. Society just wants us to think that way.
@ragequeen Bah hahaha RAINN is a feminsit organization that pushes bullshit feminist lies.
It used the Mary Koss 1 in 4 stat. You can NOT use feminist biased information as a reliable source. EVER.
Bureau of Justice Statistics is the most reliable crime statistics database and actually uses reliable information.
www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv14.pdf
It's 0.8/1000 and you can claim that I am ignorant all you want. I don't blindly believe feminist lies.
When I was in university and before i tried the whole consenting behaviour because i was scared of women and was trying my hardest to be a gentle figure. 'Can i put my hand here" 'is it OK if i do this? ' "Can i do this..." that kind of thing
It turned out that that kind of behaviour ended up making the girls i had sex with have pussy as dry as the Sahara.
One day i was fucking this girl after university and i said "who's your daddy? " she started riving in ecstasy and losing it. so i decided to go this route.
Next thing you know I'm choking them, plugging their nose, fucking their mouths, they're getting me to slap them (they'd ask me to slap them harder) one girl kept telling me to slap harder and began screaming telling me she's my dirty whore. So to me it felt like I was beating them up. Sex is like on a thin line between a court case and fun, that's the best kind i've noticed for women.
I didn't get more laid than when i became a domineering arsehole. One girl texted me the next day saying "thank you for raping me last night" which she meant as a joke i guess but makes me wonder.
(I don't think most men want to do the above, including me. we're natural cuddly bears) .
Girls like Guys being "Domineering" Arseholes during Sex, it's ideal
That's why I keep saying, they aren't actually rape fantasies, and I wish we'd stop calling them that because sexist assholes use it as an excuse to say rape is not bad.
And I NEVER have rape fantasies. I know what being sexually abused and rape is like. It's not sexy.
The term won't go away. I think (guessing) that adds to the thrill of the fantasy to some women, just like Daddy Kink.
It's more of a submission fantasy than an actual rape fantasy.
No surprise, I have fantasy of me being raped by my crushes sometimes
Long ago, I assumed that rape fantasy meant a desire to be raped in real life, which is part contradiction and part sickening. Once I understood what it really was, it made sense. This is the best-articulated explanation of rape fantasy I've ever read.
Thank you.