Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
A question that comes up regularly on GAG is, "Do guys care what a woman looks like down there?" It's worded many different ways. Some women who ask it are worried about their labia being too large whereas others worry that the inner lips show through the outer, that they don't look like a particular porn star, that their skin is darker there, that their labia are asymmetrical, or any number of related concerns.
Despite having had many frank discussions with women about sex over the years, I've never once encountered this particular worry in real life. Maybe it's so personal that only the anonymity of GAG and other places on the Internet makes people comfortable enough to bring it up in mixed company. When I first saw this question here, my gut reaction was, "Great, another thing for women to have body insecurities about!" (Yes, sarcasm.) I've been on GAG less than a year and I've already answered this question more than a dozen times. Paraphrasing myself, this is the basic answer:
If it comes to the point where I get to see her vulva, I'm thrilled that I'm about to have sex with someone I am close with, and not really concerned with the precise size, shape, or color of her folds. I've never encountered anyone I didn't think was beautiful in that department.
You've got to remember that, while you might think your vulva is ugly, guys like your lady bits. Every time this question is asked, a large majority of guys respond just like I did: with a statement that the look of a vulva is either irrelevant or delightful. Don't take my word for it, though. I went through my history and found every instance where I (and many other guys, of course) answered this question. Here are the links:
It's embarrassing... But is it normal to have unequal vagina lips?
Guys, do you secretly think vaginas are ugly and gross?
Does he really not like big "lips" down there?
Guys, so when you see a girl's vagina what do you actually think?
Boys, in your opinion can a vagina be beautiful or ugly?
How important is how a girl's pussy looks for you to want to stay with her and not cheat?
Do any of you straight guys think vaginas are gross?
Guys, are large labia a turn on? Or does it put you off?
GUYS: do y'all find vaginas ugly / disgusting / unappealing?
Mons Pubis/Vagina worries for nothing?
Do men get turned off by a big labia?
That is a lot of pent-up anxiety! Since this comes up so often, I wanted to know if guys would respond any differently if it was a guys-only question that was asked by a guy. Hoping that they would stick to their story when there weren't any girls to impress, I conducted a poll anonymously and spent some XPER points to have it featured. This is what I asked:
Guys, have you or would you ever reject a woman because of how her labia look?
You can visit the poll/question here. The results were as follows:
If we eliminate the category of guys who basically didn't answer (shown in gold), I had 175 respondents, 159 (91%) of whom said they would not reject a woman because of how her genitalia looked. I was actually surprised it was that low. There were some comments from the usual trolls, so… I'd wager quite a bit of money that 91% is in fact too low.
Back when I answered this the first time, I did a little Google research into it and learned about an Australian website called the Labia Library, devoted to the purpose of reassuring visitors that there is great diversity and no particular look is wrong or abnormal. It's and has been featured in magazines and websites worldwide.
Reassurance is the point of this myTake as well. In particular, for women who care what men think about the subject, well, now you know: You're fine.
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What Girls & Guys Said
15 23I prefer hairy innies with blonde pubes. Bald outie that looks like an Arby's Roast beef without the seeds after it was dropped on the floor and hurriedly picked back up and reassembled = I'd probably be looking for one that was closer to my preference but still good enough to fuck in the meantime.
i had to search up half those words and then look down there to see which mine was lmao
Vocabulary wasn't the point, but I'm glad it held your interest!
yes it wasn't the point but the list of questions you attached to about girls insecurities on girlsaskguys asked about innies, outties, laebia etc. that was new for me. and thank you for a wonderful post!
You're welcome!
Yes, thank you.
Next how 'bout one telling the guys their penis is big enough.
And then, something about quitting all the texting.
And finally, how detrimental porn is to normal man-woman romantic relationships.
:)
I'm only one person. How about something on what is really meant when someone says, "I like you"?
Seriously… Penis size may be a worthy subject which actually affects many guys' security in the same way this does for some women, but there are already really good female-authored takes on that subject.
True. Kitten Holiday is one...
A sexy vagina could be a slight plus, but rarely a minus.
I've seen the weirdest vaginas in the world, and all of them looked hot to me.
I don't care how a girl's vagina looks. As long as she has no STD then that's all that matters.
I'm not gonna go down on a 70's porn star. All bushy and nasty. Not all women look fine down there.
Great. Thumby thumby.
thanks
You're welcome
Why are so many people concerned about body parts so much. God has made you unique love yourself, embrace yourself ! It doesn't matter you have hair down there or what shape it is. Men also have different size penis and they are so much worried. Even though I know size makes a difference but its always the complete act which includes your love and emotions too..
As long as I get it that's all I care about. I don't care what it looks like. As long as it's a hole and I can insert things into it. Also I'd go down on a girl no matter what it looked like..
There is nothing visually attractive about a vulva. Some look better than others though. Ugly vulvas exist. Especially if it has hanging meat curtains or is very hairy.
These attitudes are exactly why so many women spend thousands unnecessarily on fashion and modern body modification fads to try and keep up with your porn habits and even then, they still cannot compete. "Hanging meat curtains" and getting after her for heaven forbid having pubic hair the way her body was actually designed is so derogatory. You sir need to grow up and get your heat out of the porn!
Ladies like choosing the best looking guys or the ones with the bigger package, but a guy be damned if he doesn't accept every and all types of lady parts?
That's completely missing the point. This is *descriptive* of guys' behavior, not prescriptive.
Great, thanks
Ughh no
What?
wr just care about penetrating
Thank you. :) Thank you for taking your time and making this. I used to be really insecure about this when I was younger and I know that if I would've seen this at that age it would've definitely helped me. I'm sure this will help other people as well.
You're welcome. :-)