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I’m 27 and I have been very religieus until I was 24. I started to date a guy and gave him after 5 months of dating a few blowjobs and he liked to finger me. Then After then I started to date another guy and at the second date I gave him a blowjob and he fingered me. After that a year later dated a guy and on the first date he dry humped me in the car and licked my breasts. Lastly dated a guy and jerked him off in the car. This is an honest true story. Now I’m reflecting back and I’m so ashamed of the past few years. I dwelled away from my religion and I was a bit lost. In our culture it’s not ok at all for a woman to do these things. I was just a virgin for so long and sexual cravings came out of nowhere. I have not had sex yet and want to keep it till marriage but should I tell my future husband this or not?
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Please don’t judge me or call me names. I have been crying for weeks now. I just want to know wether to tell my future husband about my past or not. I’m from the middle east originally and Christian.
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 40That sexual guilt can mess up your sexual functioning and future interactions with your husband or other sexual partners
I just feel so guilty. Do I not tell him?
I would recommend talking to a therapist about it to process the feelings of shame and guilt so they don’t ruin future relationships
The guilt actually helped me to maintain self control and motivation to make my husband my 3rd and final
Thankyou!
Whats your relegion?
I’m Arab and Christian
U r from lebanon?
No but do I tell my future husband or not?
Can you private me please?
No I rather not, I want to stay anonymous you can give me your answer here
Religion is BS. If you enjoy sex, and it’s obvious that you do, then don’t let a bunch of narrow-minded views hold you back from it. Just practice safe sex, at least.
100% agree. Girl, listen to this guy
Noooo do not put this "Burden" on him... it is yours... WHY should he have to 'deal' with your past?
You don't have to tell him anything that you have done before its none of his business if you are still a virgin that is all that matters, he should never ask and as far as you doing the things you did I am sure you were pleased that you did them
You are a human not a robot if we were not to share are love and bodies then God would not made want sex and yes God did make us that way stop crying and think at least you had some experience in some sex acts
if it gets too hard on you come to America, we don't judge you about sex it's up to you
Thanks a lot! Probably won’t tell him. I have made mistakes and learned from them. I will try to move on from it!
@Asker i wouldn't worry too much. do u wanna marry a virgin guy too?
Donot tell your husband at all, you should avoid premarriage sex , try to get your future husband
Thanks for the advice, I think this is best to do!!
If we were perfect, we wouldn't need God's grace. I'm sure your future husband will have a few experiences himself. Once you get to know each other let him know you've repented. Jesus said to Forgive and Forget. Move on. Live better everyday.
itss oke dear we all make mistakes and none of us are perfect
First of all, I'm from the same place and it is really common. Forget all the stupid cultural standards we have here. Even marriend men and women over here cheat on each other. Secondly, you have to find someone who'll accept you for who you are. With that being said, you should forgive yourself first and accept your past, move on and choose someone who respects, trusts and loves you. That person only comes once in a life time. Regarding the sexual acts, you should be aware that you might even meet someone, chances are, he too had similar acts.
I'm here for you if you need any help. I'm sure you're a great woman and you'll pass by this.
You've got a friend in me if you need help or venting out or even a shoulder to cry on. I'm kind of a softie when it comes to this.
Thank you. But you know how men are in our culture so probably won’t find a man that accepts it even though he has done worse..
Trust me, a lot of us, good men, are out there. We too did mistakes and we too had had sexual affairs with other women. Anyway, I'm here for you if you need someone who understands you or even someone you wish to vent out to. P. s. don't focus on your past. You don't know how much of a future you have. So focus on the present. Start everyday as if it was a new opportunity. Who knows, you might just meet the one for you and if he truly loves you, he'll never care about your past.
Thanks that is very nice of you to say.. makes me feel much better about myself. I was in a dark place for a while and now I just want to leave it behind.. I hope I will find a guy that will accept it!
Let it go. Live it to the fullest. Keep your head up. Have fun. You only live once.
transformation of being human.
Try anal sex my girl u still b a virgin
i'm religious. i got in trouble for wearing loose boxershorts
It may be harder to find a religious partner unless they had a non religious time in the past like you. Non-religious partners probably a better chance whether you are or not.
If you have to lie or cannot accept each other, that person should not be your future husband. If he finds out you are a fraud, then he will no longer see you as a wife but someone who is worse than an honest hoe.
As long as you are not hurting anyone, just worry about finding someone good for you.
So in your opinion I’m a ‘hoe’? But thanks for the advice!
In my opinion, no. Your urges seem human and normal to me but then again I'm against the ridiculous notions of religions despising promiscuity I was just assuming most men would think a "random hoe" is much better than any liar or cheater. So my advice is to not lie unless you only want one night stands
GOD CHRIST IS ABOVE THE DOME
https://www.youtube.com/embed/LMr6Qb0_5kMjust talk to him
he loves you
If he asks. I mean past relationships will come up. I wouldn't openly share all the details of your past but if he asks I wouldn't hide them either. Yes your past will say something about you. But you haven't actually slept with any guy if you're being honest. And that also says something about you.
Stop stressing about it and just be a good partner to your future husband. You don't know how rare just that in itself is.
It's too bad you're ashamed of it, but you can't change it now so just accept it and move on. You can tell "future husband" that you've done sexual acts, but not intercourse (the specific details aren't important, unless he asks). Sadly it seems like it's going to bother you way more than it will him I can almost guarantee that.
I know in my culture me don’t think that way at all. Even kissing is already considered very bad.. but thanks!!
don't worry and just forget what you've done
Only tell your future husband If he asks
As you said, you didn't have sex, so you are still a Virgin, unless you think you lost you virginity to fingers.
I'? a protestant christian but I believe In some part of other religion.
If it bothers you that much, then tell your future husband just to get it off your shoulder. But if your future husband is an extreme catolic, then you better keep it a secret.
your fine one of my favorite things to do is go to church and wonder how much cum each of the woman have swallowed in their life and which ones do anal 👍
I would pass on you and i am Christian guy. You could still have a STD
I don’t. These things are a while back. Have not done anything for a year now and not going to till I marry. I’m Christian too..