Sagging Breast and Skin? Does this prevent women from being sexy?

I had a baby now I am so insecure. I’m 20 and my breast are now saggy and my stomach is ugly. My husband has been distant since the baby.. do men not
Sagging Breast and Skin? Does this prevent women from being sexy?
find women that have had kids as attractive?
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  • Okay first of all you're still beautiful you're not bad if you wanted to you could tone up in a heartbeat if I could tell you how to do it would you do it because I've told 30 people here before on how to do it and not one of them have ever even tried you just want to ask the question get whatever the answers they want but not one of them have committed and its really really easy but I guarantee you you you do this 30 days 30 minutes a day and you will look like you've never looked before it if you do it twice a day 30 minutes a day for 30 days every inch of your body weight so toned I mean even your nose will tone up it is very simple you just have to commit to it every single day do sugar gliders do sodas lots of fruits and vegetables and lots of water and the simple thing to 30 minutes a day 30 minutes goes by quickly

    • Well I do work out, I do about three times a week…. I know it’s a little but I just work out till I’m exhausted and can’t take it anymore… what do you have I’m open to anything that you can suggest. And yes i will commit.. I am committed to changing my body and health style. Maybe a healthy body will fuel a healthy mind.. I’m losing my shit.

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  • On other women I don't mind one way or another, if it's from having my kids I find it hot as hell, that's a story of pain and discomfort over a period of time to carry my kid.

    If your husband is less interested, it may be for having a kid in general, you're only 20, you'll bounce back and the big take away will be bigger tits and some stretch marks. You don't look ugly, and from the little I see it seems like you have some large perky breasts too.

    Anyway, only way you'll know is to straight up ask, and prepare for a painful, or frustrating answer. Me and my wife have less sex after every kid we have, but it has nothing to do with being less attracted, babies are cute, but they are little cockblockers lol

    • Have kids made you have less of a sex drive? It seems like that’s my fiancés case.. rejection most nights.. so im wondering

    • I'd say the opposite, though I could just be a weirdo. About the only turn off would be having to lay down a towel for getting sprayed with milk when I start squeezing titties if my partner is lactating still. Nipples like squirt guns lol. Our youngest is starting to sleep all the way through the night so she's moving out of our bedroom and won't be cock-blocking anymore. Another thing to consider as a husband is the feedback loop. Post-partum is a real thing, hormones are going fucking bonkers after a pregnancy. Women are also often more horny while pregnant, and after giving birth. If I can fuck the pain away, I'll step up to the task until I'm broken. Then it isn't depression to deal with, but happy crying and "I love you so much!" over and over again when those hormonal swings happen. If you reject your spouse, it starts the opposite feedback loop of depression, low self esteem, frustration, all kinds of fun stuff. Girl, you're beautiful, if the stretchmarks were from having my kids I'd say gorgeous and sexy, but that's not the case. You need to sit down and have a serious talk about where he sees your relationship going. Right now is crunch time, you just had his kid. Like the biggest endeavor that can make or break a relationship is what you're just starting to move forward on. In bed it seems like y'all are broken, what about every other aspect of your relationship? The last worry, is be it men or women, if a few weeks go by and they aren't sleeping with you, they're getting it somewhere. Absent some genital injury or hormonal dysfunction. Given that you two could make a kid that seems unlikely.

    • Haha I remeber the milk squirting out mine I love it lmao. But I feel like a lot of my insecurities started from him rejecting me and that’s where i bang my head against the wall because I honestly need sex lmao. I don't know it makes me happy and releases everything, also it makes me feel like I am so sexy and not recieving that just puts me in a hole. And yeah we have had a long overdue talk but he don’t reply or anything when we do it’s like one ear out the other no matter if i cry or anything. I understand that having children can make a women be bitchy or have mood swings but I haven’t been like that tbh nothing has projected from my hormones it’s more sexual frustration… i can only masturbate so long till I need some affection.

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  • I don't think men care too much. I've had 3 babies and my husband still thinks I'm sexy especially since it's his babies that changed my body.

    • Yeah, that's how me and my wife are, going from a couple to a family makes or breaks you. Sadly a lot of people break :(

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  • It happens... no big deal. Be who you are and your husband has to get over it or jerk off instead!

    • If I’m with a man that has to jerk off then that’ll be the day I am out the door!!

  • I find women that have had kids from other man as unattractive, I am not a fan of leftover, but assuming that you given birth to your husband's kid, he is acting ungrateful. Yes maybe you look less attractive than before but you made that sacrifice for the sake of your motherhood. If you have big breasts then they was going to get saggy with age anyway.

    • Yeah and it’s not because you’re saying like these women that’s had these kids are nasty but you just don’t prefer a woman that isn’t “used” haha.

    • Yea prefer woman that isn’t used by other man, I don't want to raise other man's kid.

      tvtropes.org/.../MamasBabyPapasMaybe

    • I’m sure so many women before dna testing had so many men caring for kids that weren’t even theirs. Sad world.

  • For a lot of men, the reason they grow more distant is because they've accidentally mentally switched how they think about you vs how they used to. It's fairly common for couples that go to a therapist to have the therapist to remind the guy that the woman is still his wife, and mostly likely has sexual needs, and can definitely feel a lack of intimacy.

    There's also the fact that children are exhausting beyond belief.

    • Yea but i mean i thought guys especially younger men had more of a sex drive then women and since I’ve been with him I have to literally be rejected 20x a day from head, sex, anything unless he wants to do it….. don’t even take his time to please me…

    • Most men do have a high sex drive, but it's not as pervasive as people think. The whole, men think of sex every 7 seconds thing was shown to be a myth long ago, there are people with low hormones, brain wired differently, etc. Try asking him directly why. Don't be super pushy, but see if you can get an answer other than a faint platitude or handwave. It's something affecting both of you. And if it's getting this worrying, see if you can get an appointment with a psychologist, either for both of you or just you. Having someone actually pay attention and listen to you is super helpful. I do remember a couple guys saying that it took them a long, long time to switch back to seeing their wife as 'their wife' and not 'kid's mom' just because of how busy things were. A big system shock, lifestyle, and culture. Some take time to remove the label from 'mom' from with you too because nobody wants to associate their mother in that way. Oh, and one guy took a while because he accidentally saw into the C-Sec and... there's her organs! Uff. I'd just ask

  • Its not an issue for me personally, especially if my partner gave birth to our child. I would love her body just as much and it would not be a turn off in bed.

  • Not at all

  • How long it has been that you delivered the baby

    • 8 months

  • Let’s reverse the q, if your husband had saggy skin would he be less sexy to you?

    • No, and he does have saggy skin.

    • So if that’s the case why worry that he thinks you are no longer sexy? Is it because he appears distant

    • Yes, although he isn’t the best apple it’s mind boggling how I can be throwing myself at him or I will just do myself up and the whole thing and him not appreciate it. Like i feel like if a man that doesn’t have the best looks had a woman that was confident and sexy would ignite something, because they do that that but it’s not an effect at all.

  • I'm sure I'd lime the pre Baby body, but I also find a gals post baby body very attractive as well, especially if it had been mine she was carrying.

  • You bring up an important point, likely unrelated to your physical appearance, in that you feel that your husband is more distant from you since you were pregnant. Touch base with him about it and find out what's truly going on. One's aesthetics is one of the least important factors in what makes someone "sexy." How are you feeling since you were pregnant? Any sign of baby blues or, worse, post-partum depression? Talk to your healthcare provider if you have any doubts.

    • Yes I am in counseling and I am on depression meds. It’s literally been driving me crazy though because the one man I have to impress, isn’t even impressed when I do things or try to lighten the mood. Thank you for your comment… you have a great mind set.

    • In the end, it will likely help most to talk to him about it. Otherwise, you'll race your mind with anxieties worried and wondering what he is thinking. Uncertainty is often much worse than reality.

  • Dude what is your husband complaining about i personally woudnt mind saggy skin

    • Really?

    • i would not mind a saggy skin.

  • Not at all. You are so hot. Its all in the mind.

    • Well let me ask you this, is that something men pay attention you in bed?

    • Yep. Off course. Love matters. If i loves you truly. You will be still beautiful to me... What ever your shape or size.

    • You are sexy. Don't get anything to your mind. Please be calm. I m here for you.

  • My wife was that way also. She join the diet group and started exercising. She used Beachbody and it is quite extensive exercise program. $100.00 a year. There are programs for men also.

    You do not look ugly, but sexy Mama. To you are a turn on. With those nice tits.

  • Sexy is not a look, it never has been. Sexy is an attitude of confidence no matter how you look or what you like. It is a confidence of if you don't like it so what... If you want me then you will learn to like it... ;)

  • Big tits sag. I love them. Do you know how many big sagging titties I sucked on with a huge erection? You’re still sexy, don’t worry. You’re fine and stretch marks are sexy especially on your ass.

  • If I'm being honest yes.

    • Yes to what? The sagging breast and stretch marks make you unattractive?

  • Sometimes a guy does not know how to approach their wife after they gave birth because because they don't want to hurt their feelings and most of the time they don't know if they're happy or sad the or sad this is what I would do Put a sexy outfit on and see what he does

    • You know I have the complete opposite affect. I will dress in a corset and some panties… I’ll receive good comments then won’t even get banged or he will just no longer be interested in trying to escalate it into sex. How does a man constantly reject a woman if they are quite literally throwing pussy at them.

    • Sometimes it just can be other things

  • I’ve been with my wife since we’re were home 18, 22 years now. I’ve seen them go through all stages pregnancy included, she’s been over weight for many ‘em years and recently lost 55kg, they have gone from 2 hands each to east cupped with one hand. They are saggy but honestly there’s something so sexy about mature women. I never loved them more.

  • That underboob still hot as fuck tho

  • Realistically it’s not attractive but if he loves he should overlook it until you get back in shape

  • Big breasts sag. As a big breast lover; I appreciate saggy breasts.

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