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Said he wants to plant his seed in my womb?

Short version is the above title. Long version. So a casual thing with a guy for 11+ years. Started when I just turned 16. He was 24. Casual hook up but no relationship as he 'couldn't give me what I needed'. Was true and I have grown a lot since then. Got pregnant with a different guy at 18 after that. Relationship was shit. Glad it is over. Reconnected briefly but he was living interstate with work. Went to visit him but he stood me up and I was furious. Didn't talk for a few years. Met and married husband, had 2 more kids. That relationship broke down. Only happened because I got pregnant and felt trapped. He got nasty when drunk and one night broke my trust. Was shattered, had a breakdown and took a long time to recover. During the recovery I reconnected with the original guy and started sleeping with him again. He moved interstate with work again but we have stayed in contact, sexting, visited him twice and he came back here once. Coincidentally I have been trying to move to the same place (family support there) but a slow process with my children's fathers. He is aware that is a possibility. Last year after a visit I found out I was pregnant but miscarried almost straight away. His only concern was the logistics of it all. Not super fussed about the scare. Although at the time I assumed it was because pregnancy was already over when I told him. Last night he told me that it feels like a waste if he isn't cumming inside me. And that he 'wants to plant his seed in my womb'. Knowing that I am not on BC and I already have other children/super fertile. He hasn't been in a relationship any time that we are in contact. This time it has been 2 years. But we also aren't dating. There has been no emotional commitment. So why the interest in knocking me up?
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Most Helpful Girl

  • Sounds like he wants to become a father and is interested in parenting with you. I wouldn't bring a baby into this world until the two of you figure out your relationship. Whether you are going to attempt an actual relationship or if you had a kid if you would just co-parent.

    • Having already had kids, I am aware that I do not want another complicated parenting arrangement. That is not my goal. Just want to figure what is going on in his head. I would never have assumed he wants kids. He has specifically said the opposite in the past. Hence being comfortable with him as a casual thing.

    • How long ago did he say that though. Maybe he feels ready now.

    • Was before the miscarriage/pregnancy scare... 18 months or so ago? But we still live in different states and are not in a relationship. I don't even have his mobile number, just messenger type apps. So confused.

Most Helpful Guy

  • He wants a child! And all of the emotional attachment along the way..

    • What do you mean? Like the child part I kind of get. But the emotional attachment? I'd assume it was just a casual thing and that was all he wanted. So the child part seems weirdly commitment-y

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