Saw my husband kiss another woman on livCam, what's the best way to deal with it?

Husband went on holiday with his work friends. I Googled the Cam in the area where he is staying. I saw him and his friends with some women. Then I saw my husband passionately kiss another woman. Should I let him know while he's away what I saw, or wait until he returns home?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • When he comes home!
    1. Don't give him time to come up with an alibi or excuse.
    2. His nonverbal communication once you tell him will say more than his words.

    What you need to do is ask yourself what YOU want to do about it.
    If you want your marriage to be OK after this, then you need some way to give him an out... or, as Asian cultures say, "Save face". That's really important to a man otherwise he will get defensive and things will get much much worse - more than they needed to. I am not saying to let this slide if he is guilty, but he needs to stew in his own juices and fell contrite rather than feeling attacked by you

    dictionary.cambridge.org/.../save-face

    save face
    idiom
    to keep your reputation and avoid others losing respect for you:
    We said he left "to pursue other interests" to let him save face, but actually we fired him.


    www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/save%20face

    save face idiom
    Definition of save face
    : to avoid having other people lose respect for oneself
    He tried to save face by working overtime.

  • I would probably begin separating all my finances and property before he got home.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sell all his clothes on facebook. Make a profit and go on vacation!:)

    Leave that pussyboy. You deserve better.

  • Wait until he returns home and then decide what you will do.

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  • Here’s a thought: Divorce his cheating ass. .

  • Divorce

  • This why there should be "at-fault" divorce. The cheater should not get half of everything.

  • Wait till he returns home and lay into him.

  • Doesn’t really matter when you let him know…if you’re 100% sure it was him then it’s probably over. I’d wait though and at least give him a chance to confess

    • It was d3finitwly him. It was clear as day. They stood cuddling fur a while too. It was as though he knew her. Not as though they just met.

    • Sorry to hear this

    • Thanks. I'm heart broken. My friend said I should take a flight put there and not tell him I'm coming. I didn't recognise the woman, but it really looked like they knew each other. They were in view for ages

  • what type of kiss was it buy buy kiss or i love you with a big hugs

    • it was a I love you kind of kiss. Thecway they were together looked like it wasn't the first time. More than a holiday romance

  • Tell him now.. ruin his trip and make him sweat!!

  • Find a new husband.

  • Wow I bet it's more than a kiss. Text him and just say I watch you and another woman on can don't come home

  • Wash his underwear then dry them with a piece of fiberglass insulation in the dryer!

  • Send him a photo of you kissing a hot guy.

  • The ideal solution to this is to screenshot the kiss and e-mail him the photo. Do a yard sell with his stuff, change the locks, and use the money to help you hire a good divorce attorney.

  • Tell him now and divorce him.