Scared to orgasm?

[Anonymous]

I've never experienced it. But i get close time to time. I'm so afraid that I might lose consciousness, make weird facial expression or weird noise that turn him off. My first boyfriend didn't care whether i had mine so it was no problem but my current boyfriend is frustrated the fact that I do not want to reach climax because i'm too afraid of it. Have you ever with someone who scared to orgasm or have you ever been afraid of it? Is there anyway we can overcome this? :( either i can persuade him that i'm fine without it or i can move pass this fear of orgam?

[Tammy94]

I can understand your feelings. In fact, my boyfriend and I have both, in the past, been scared to reach orgasm (at different times, and for different reasons). With my first boyfriend, I was afraid to let myself go for some of the same reasons as you. The fact is that having sex with someone else, and having an orgasm with someone else, is just about the most intimate thing you can do together, especially if it happens during intercourse. You are both literally and emotionally/psychologically completely naked and open at that point, and if there isn’t trust, it can be scary.

My boyfriend was a virgin when we started dating. T first he was self-conscious, and then when we began having intercourse he worried about a possible pregnancy. He eventually relaxed enough to climax easily inside me, but when we quit using condoms his pregnancy fears returned for a while, and in fact they still resurface near the end of my cycle. Again, it comes down to fear and trust.

I think you need to work on both of those issues. Learn to feel comfortable with him and know that your orgasm won’t make him uncomfortable--probably the opposite. Work on being open with your guy emotionally and breaking down any barriers. People make funny faces and weird sounds and such during orgasm. It’s natural and nothing to be ashamed of. And the more you do it the easier it will get. Best of luck!

[Asker]

Thank you

[mistixs]

Maybe you should try orgasming on your own with masturbation.
And don't worry I don't think anyone has died from orgasm lol.

[Tdieseler]

Its been long since i heard of this... the insecurity boundary. Its usually either facial or vocal. I usually recommend to just let go and let the body do its thing. regardless of whatever you do, your man will know it was an orgasm and will love that he made it happen. Don't be selfish now... just relax... let it happen.
Warning: he might tease you about it later but, screw it, you had an orgasm.
If you keep refusing like you say you do... eventually he will feel small and incapable of satisfying you and guess what?
He'll Leave. Your choice.

[AustinMan]

OMG, girl!! Just go ahead and cum already. That's what he wants more than a nice face. You won't pass out. Next time you feel it cumming, remember this is what we both want and power through it.

[Asker]

I don't feel comfortable to cum i get almost panic attack when it is close :( i'm not sure how to overcome it

[AustinMan]

If you can't just power through it, maybe with the aid of a judicious amount to alcohol, I suggest you find a good therapist and explore where the fear comes from.

[Asker]

Thanks i will try

[AustinMan]

Thanks for the MHG! What happened?

[Jared____]

Don't be 😂 It's awesome 💁🏻

[ElvenMr]

He will find it very hot, whatever face you make, or whatever noise you make during orgasm.

[Asker]

Or his dick might go soft from looking at me during orgasm 😩

[ElvenMr]

I don't think it's a possibility :D

[Asker]

:( i will try to not stop him next time but i'm still pretty scared lol but i will try. Thank you

[ElvenMr]

No need to be scared from orgasm, it's a good feeling, you are in the finish. Look at me having problems asking girls out, cause i just know all of them whom i'm interested in will simply ignore or reject me... no matter where i try, on the internet, or irl. And they say im not unattractive, well i don't know then what is it. And back to you again, you have much smaller problem than i have, it should be easy to overcome :)

[KaranSharma55]

don't be afraid just make it happen

[Anonymous]

Guys have it when using the pulling back method.

[Opinion Owner]

And it can become a reflex later, when switching to BC

[Anonymous]

u hav to experience an orgasm. u r really missing out