#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?

Its a hypothetical question so put yourself in some miserably hornyy spouses shoes and play along. I’ve had sex outside of marriage but I’m not crazy about it so its easy to turn down the temptation. One of my reasons to marry is so I can go crazy on the diick without further religiously guilt-tripping myself. Lets say if things are going good year one but we have a kid and the sexxx completely stops year 2... then Houston, we have a problem. You get 3 months to get your shit together. You better eat right, get in shape, go to counseling, tell me if i’m the problem, etc but do whatever tf you gotta do to revive that sexxx drive. Having kids should not stop us from banging eachother til exhaustion! Like i told a special someone, I can easily wear a skirt and you can slip your dick out of your boxers and pound away. Since the kids will be young at the time, they will just assume mommy and daddy are just cooking behind the kitchen counter or that mommy is just excitedly bouncing in daddys lap as he cuddles her on the couch. But shiiiit in reality, mama is gettin it iiiin and together she and daddy are gettin it on!! Wouldn’t be the first time I’ve had sneaky sex and certainly not the last 🤷‍♀️ I mean, i hope to never divorce once married, but i fckin will if things don’t improve and get back to what they used to be within like a year...
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#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
#Scenario If you were in a sexless marriage would you stay married just for the children?
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I’d stay married in hopes we figure it out (but for how long?)
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I’d stay for the kids
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I’d leave if things haven't improved within a certain time (what time is that?)
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Reeeeally was not expecting to see open marriage listed below so many times. The thought of someone cheating didn't even cross my mind. Like just leave if your partner isn't enough for you because getting it from someone else while still with your partner is not true love. Like wtf
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  • If the sex dies so does the relationship is the way I look at it , being horny and not being fulfilled by your partner is a horrible feeling , I was married
    To one to find out she was cheating on me , so if I ever ended up in that situation again , the chances of me staying with her will be very slim. Sadly to say this happens a lot in relationships and marriages these days , to the point I am not sure if I ever want to get married again , I have slept with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , I have met women that confessed straight up that they were married but only in it for the kids and said they are not happy in their marriage and they wanted to have sex with me , I turned them down but then part of me thinks why did I? I know that sounds crazy but with the shit i experienced through my lifetime and the shit i witnessed through out my years of life and shit even when I worked as a bouncer at a bar, I have witnessed some crazy shit , so it made me really question if people can actually stay faithful to each other , Even couples that been together for years slip out that they fucked around behind their partners back and say it was a mistake but what they don’t know doesn’t hurt. So I just shake my head and think wow people are fucked up, I know couples that are happy and have sex all the time with each other to find out 1 of them is cheating on their partner behind their back like WTF? I am not saying everyone is a cheater but to find that non cheater is very hard to find these days whether they did it once and never do it again, they are still a cheater is the way I look at it , just because they say they will never do it again means shit to me considering they already did it, what is stopping them now , sad world we live in , so my thing now is you can’t beat em so you my as well join them , when I meet someone attractive and we spark up good conversation and have good chemistry and connection that’s all that matters to me , whatever they are hiding or keeping secret is their problem not mine is the way I look at it , I am just looking to have fun and if it comes down to me getting laid then I’m sorry I am getting laid , not my fault your wife or girlfriend is sneaking out on you not my problem , it’s your problem is the way I look at it , I’m sorry to sound so harsh but life is to short to worry about someone’s secrets or lies I just go with the flow

    • Its best to turn them down to avoid committing adultery

    • I am not committing anything , it’s the girl that is committing adultery , again it’s not my problem but yes I have turned them down but the ones that lied no I didn’t , cuz I didn’t have a clue I just assumed they were single , so pretty much I am just saying it really doesn’t matter to me anymore because It isn’t my problem if the girl wants to cheat or if she is unhappy in her marriage all that matters is if she is coming on to me and I find her beautiful and we have great chemistry that’s what matters , I don’t meet people to run background checks on them especially when I am at a bar having some brews and having a good time , if I can continue to have a good time by meeting a beautiful girl that wants to ride my cock that night then so be it lol

  • Yes I would divorce. Now i get it, sex drives change with time (testosterone levels drop, stress can kill ones drive too), but no sex is a choice. I would not accept that at all, frequency may decrease fine understandable with kids you have to find the time, but none at all is them saying to me that I don't matter, they don't care about me and I'm just a paycheck and that is not acceptable under any circumstances. I'm patient, I'm understanding, but that doesn't mean you get to not fix the fucking problem. So yeah, unacceptable and if they continued to not care about me I would divorce them.

    • I agree

    • Marriage with kids is a giant erection/wetness killer. Fairly unanimous knowledge. You’d be lucky enough to get the urge to dry hump. Once you have kids, it’s no longer just about you anymore. It’s a whole different ballpark. And you’re going to be too tired to even think about sex. You’ll be too occupied. You basically have to spend the rest of your prime being entirely devoted to them. This is why men fear commitment. Because they don’t want the responsibility of taking care of kids and would rather have sex wherever, whenever the urge strikes them.

    • @Ninjazzed Not at all. If you look at the stats men want to get married more then women and its women who are responsible for initiating most divorces. Men don't have a fear of commitment, they fear commitment to the wrong woman (as they should and as women should). Having kids is not an excuse not to be intimate with your partner, that is absurd. Obviously frequency drops, their is no doubt about that, but refusing to have sex with your partner isn't about kids, its about you refusing to uphold your marital duties. Imagine if men said this to women, that they would keep a roof over their head but they are just too tired, they would pay the bills but the kids kept them busy? We would never tolerate that (and rightly so).

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  • It's not all about just you two anymore. That's the big issue. When a kid enters the picture there is a big adjustment in everything. Babies are highly time consuming and interfering. The first year after you have a child is somewhat miserable. You have to schedule time after the baby's asleep, etc and that doesn't always work. Babies wake up.
    You have to be flexible and play it as it lays. Tired people have MISERABLE sex. It's better to put in on hold while everyone's getting used to everyone. By the end of the second year, the only thing that could be interfering with your sex life is if you've been too lazy to make your child sleep in their own bed. Fatal mistake.

    If you have your child sleeping on their own, except during thunderstorms, you have the possibility of having quiet sex at home. When the darling is at preschool, live it up. Have weekend midnight dates. Make sure your bedroom door LOCKS. Children should learn to knock on your bedroom door. Privacy is important concept.

    WHen they've passed their terrible twos and threes, you should be rolling along at least as well as before. But make sure to give each other space to be tired or disinterested because of work/school/worries... A married couple is completely different than a couple with children. Be kind to yourselves.

    • I prob wouldn't shut my bedroom door until the kid is age 8+. I’d push it up if anything. I prob would teach them to knock. And I've taken care of other ppls kids for the first 12 years of life for a good 12 hours a day. Its tiresome but it wouldn't slow me from having sex once married. I have to keep both baby and hubby happy.

    • 24 hours a day is a different scenario and it's YOUR child. You worry. You make plans. The plans fall through. You don't have enough money... Ummm... 8? SHUT YOUR DOOR. Three year olds understand that concept. UNLESS IT'S A THUNDERSTORM. Then doors are open. My parents had an upstairs bedroom with no door. Nobody went up there after bedtime without saying, "Mom, dad, can I talk to you?" And I'd sit on the stairs and chat for a second, then go back to bed. There was no need to invade their space. We understood that inherently. A 4 year old understands too. They don't LIKE it, but they understand.

  • I'd stay and figure it out. We already have kids and have kept a normal sex life so far. Maybe the 3rd baby will change that but I doubt it.
    I never understand couples when they say the kids killed their sex life like it really must be a excuse cause my kids are pretty big cockblocks yet we still manage to find the time and energy to do it a few times a week.

    • Exactly girl. MAKE IT HAPPEN 👏

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  • I would first try to work it out with my partner have a decent talk about everything, if again it went no where, I would tell him it is not working out I did not sign up to be married to a roommate but for a partner in all ways. I have a neighbor that lives like this and has for over 10 years, I dont get her? her kids are grown she literally hates her husband and even sleeps in her very own room? said she wants a boyfriend. I asked her why even be married then? she said divorce was too much work? just insanity to me, leave and let both sides be happy with another person, if it was really meant to be you will work it out with that person if not then move on and be happy with someone else.

  • I’d give it a good try. But if after a long while and counseling nothing changed I think we’d have to part ways. I’d have to see him trying to compromise.

    • Right on

  • In my opinion I would talk to to my partner first & fore most & I would lay it out if change didn't happen & none of it was medical then it's over. I'd rather be alone then be alone with someone ✌️

    • I agree

    • Thank you 💕

  • That was one of the options my ex husband suggested. I never heard... then I read about it. I said no. Marriage ended. Family broken. Love broken.
    I took a long time to bring the pieces back. Then got him to work together to put kids first.
    once again with my head back on my shoulder, heart open, kids first, that’s all that matters.
    we are all in a position with the kids doing excellent as well as me and my man and him with his girlfriend. I did pick the right man to be the kids daddy.
    I also pick the right man to be their future step dad
    His girlfriend is just as good. The kids are fortunate.
    I don’t know what would happened if we stayed. look forward, be positive, with an open heart and an open mind, things will fall in place.

    • Your husband has a girlfriend?

    • Ex now We have been divorced

    • You are like me. Don’t read to comprehend lol

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  • Umm huh duh, I don't Know , can you repeat the Question Again or wait a min , no don't, um if you wanna fuck just say fuck me , and if you don't, then just say go get fucked. , or waif I remember you said play along I've been playing for 12 hrs now , how long do I have to keep playing

  • I would stay weather we got the sex life back or not. I’m not religiously tied and I live in the US. people r having sex daily at 16-17. Worse in college. I feel sex gets over rated after a while anyways. Not to say it’s still doesn’t feel good or is nice. But when I think back on the sex I had in college compared to now... I’m definitely not fucking 3 times a day anymore. Actually I wonder how th hell I had that type of stamina to cum that much. 😂

    • Unmarried Sex is overrated, i agree

    • It is. I think having pre marital sex really killed the excitement of having sex after marriage. I had a lot of sex when I was younger because it was new, interesting and exciting. Sometimes I think about if I had waited would my partner be getting the eager, excited, let’s have sex all night version of me?

    • I've always wanted to wait but failed with 2 partners. Still, i spaced that out many years apart so that it’ll still feel New and exciting with whoever i marry

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  • Open marriage dose sound like the best option.

    In that scenario there is no option that is fair to everyone.
    It sure ain't fair to the kids, it's not fair to the partner that wants sex, the partner with no sex drive and refuses to have sex is being VERY selfish, so the least they could do is let you find someone to be your fuck buddy.

    Sex is a big part of a relationship, it's not all a out sex but it is a very big part.
    I didn't get married for the sake of marriage, I didn't find someone just to give me kids, we aren't together for tax breaks, I would only marry someone I thought I was compatable with so waiting until we are married then doing a 180 would make me loose almost all intetest.

    So I'd ask about an open relationship and if they said no it may be time for divorce, I sure as hell ain't going back to masturbating for the rest of my life, I refuse to let someone act like they did me some sort of "favor" cause they fuck me once a year when they dont really want to.

    Honestly divorce may be best, it would be hard to love and appreciate her at that point, i wouldn't want to do anything for her on Valentine's day or treat her anymore.

    Can't work with someone who's so selfish and unwilling to compromise, sticking around is basically setting yourself up for failer.

    • I’d never consider bringing in a 3rd party if married. Im not gonna commit adultery, permission or not

    • Yeah if your religious it may not be an option, but isn't divorce against region to? I'm not religious so it's not adultry if I have permission

    • Like i said, if he's not doing what he should be as a husband, i will leave him if he doesn't het his shit together

  • I would remain married until I didn't see any way doing so would continue to benefit the children. That at the very least. But I would also want to factor in why it was sexless. Did one of us become ill resulting in an inability to enjoy sex? In such a case I probably would stay married. Is it sexless because she decided she liked the neighbor's 19 year old son better? Then we might want to re think our situation.

    • I mentioned above that the excuse is that having kids has taken away time to have sex

    • I wouldn't leave a woman over that. If the reason is due to being too busy with kids all the time I'd find a way for her to be less busy at least once in a while. Every woman needs a little time away from the kids either to be alone or for sexual relief. Even if this means hiring a baby sitter and then going to a motel room together. And if sex is just not going to happen, I can always jerk off.

  • The correct course of action would be to work with them in resolving why they are going through what they are. Marriage is about DOING TOGETHER. Not "You're on your own until this passes". Marriage is about getting each other through the best of times and the worst of times. You are best left single if, "You get 3 months to get your shit together. You better eat right, get in shape, go to counseling, tell me if i’m the problem, etc but do whatever tf you gotta do to revive that sexxx drive." is your idea of resolving issues in your marriage.

    • It takes two to tango. If he's not gomna try to improve, i have the right to set a limit of youve got 3 months to make a move

  • Once im married, im married for life.. only would leave if he was unfaithful or abusive but I dont believe it will happen with us cause his love is the closest thing to what I imagine Gods love to be like.. his love is unlike anything I have ever felt what I thought never existed... what I prayed for.

    • Awwww ❤️

    • I agree fully!!! I feel the same way!

    • Im soo glad you have that too! Its precious! Best wishes to you and your family!

  • Probably B. For kids a warm family is so important that I'd most probably do that.

    • I see

  • No sex? No oral? I don't think I could. Sex is a big part of a relationship and connection for me.

    • Understandable

  • I think I've made this clear I'm not getting into a relationship for the sex so if my partners sex drive's low I'd be kwl with it, if it were loveless or what I got into it for is no longer there only then will I dip

    • I mena my sex drive is controllably low while unmarried but once married that would change

    • Have you ever considered hoein I've been paying attention and commitment might not be for you

    • I wouldn't hoe. I said on a post yesterday that if i lacked morals and religious guilt, that i’d fck around. But clearly i dont lack those things. So what else made you say that

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  • In reality, sex gets better after kids. Marriages get sexless because one or both of the partners stop showing gratitude, get fat, stop communicating.


    Source: personal experience.

    • Right on

    • ✌🏾🍄🌈

  • Nope. I don’t particularly like kids. Even if I did I’m not going to stay in an unhappy relationship to avoid having an awkward conversation.

    • I understand

  • Sexless isn't the problem for me. I could be happy in a sexless relationship. If it's an unhappy relationship, then it's far more beneficial for the kids if we spilt. It is SO stressful to live in a house around two people who don't like each other or who fight all the time or who barely talk anymore. It's much better to grow up in two happy households than one unhappy one

    • Same here I agree fully, I can also be happy in a sexless marriage!

  • I would stay because I love my wife. If she got hit by a car on a car ride and was unable to have sex anymore, or any number of medical conditions I would stay with her. I would hope she would do the same for me.

    If things are perfectly normal and its sexless, then need to have a talk about it or do therapy.

    I'd stay to the end, no matter what... till death do us parts means that literally to me... barring any adultery, that's pretty much the only thing I'd get divorced for.

    • Im not referring to illness in this case. Just people who use kids as an excuse not to have sex

    • Never heard of people using kids to not have sex, usually its "I have a headache not now dear."

    • I asked this question because a handful used the excuse on my last post

  • I still would stay because I don't beliefs in divorce. But he gotta fix himself and fulfill my needs as a wife I can't put up with sexless marriage seeing you fine every single day. there's something wrong if you won't make love with me

    • Yassss haha 👏

    • Do girls masturbate as much as guys?

    • @alvinaaron she's 16 so please ask someone else

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  • You don't have to worry about getting into a sexless marriage if you follow the Bible and God. Scripture is clear that sex is very important!

    • Trueee but some people will say they can't get it on now that kids are in the way

    • I've only heard that from wordily couples. Christian couples balance it well. God cares about the details and He leads us even there in our day-to-day if we ask Him.

  • I would not care if my partner wanted stopped having sex, as I would never get involved with a person or married to a person for sex, but for a lifelong companion and relationship, so I am fully okay with no sex from experience. If people thinks relationships is for sex and sex only, I will continue to stay single!!! I do not know how people can just be in a relationship for sex, I am in it for other reasons.

    • Yea sex isn't a biggie to me while unmarried but once married, oh its gonna be on and poppin

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