Self-Control and Responsibility

Self-Control and Responsibility

This, hopefully brief, 'MyTake' is about something that apparently very few people even recognise anymore: self-control.

Since becoming a member of 'GirlsAskGuys' I've noticed one outstanding (and rather disturbing) characteristic of the kind of questions that are asked here, and that is the extent to which they reveal a complete and utter lack of self-awareness and personal maturity of the one asking the question. Questions of the calibre of, "Should I cheat on my wife/husband if my next-door neighbour is hot?", or "Why don't women realise they don't belong in the workforce, but in the kitchen?", and of course the interminable (and utterly boring) questions about dick size.

In a recent DM conversation I had with another GAG member, the topic was about the domination/submission dichotomy, and I was asked by the other person to which group I belonged. I said neither, because I thought the whole thing was rather silly, and it got to the stage where I told him that, "Because we have free will, and don't need to automatically fulfil our instincts and impulses", to which this person replied with, "So like you should restrain yourself from indulging into kinks? Is that what you mean to say?"

My first thoughts were, "Ummm... yeah? Of course. Is this really such a novel idea?" Wow. Absolutely incredible. Judging by this specific reaction, I was given the very strong impression that this was the very first time that a thought like this had entered this person's mind, and it left be truly baffled. Have concepts like self-control, the responsible exercise of free will, and just behaving like a sane adult become things of the past now? Do people still understand that the world isn't about fulfilling each and every desire and impulse that may occur to them, and is actually about being considerate, responsible, and generally not causing harm or trying to blame others for the mistakes that no one but yourself are actually responsible for?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Honestly, I think a lot of these people are just trolling. If they truly believe this stuff though, that is very concerning indeed. And you mean to tell me you've been talking to other Gaggers? :{

    Anyways... I feel we live in an age of entitlement, where people feel if they don't act on their feelings every time it's the end of the world. it doesn't even necessarily have to be about entitlement, but also feeling they'll never get another opportunity. But if you're specifically talking about sexual stuff, "self-control" is easier said then done. If you don't have a legal incentive, you need to at least have a moral incentive, or at the very least some feeling of shame. I think online it's a lot easier to lose self control because the consequences for doing so aren't that severe. In real life however, I feel only people who either have nothing to lose, or for whatever reason feel they'll get away with it, have no care for self-control.

    • Yes, I talk to other GAGers. Quite a few actually, including our very special mutual friend Ms. Cool Cat. :)

    • I know 😉

    • Thanks. Didn't seen like you had much of a choice, but thanks anyways 😊

Most Helpful Girl

  • Great take

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  • As Sgt Schultz of the old TV show "Hogan's Heroes" used to say... verrrryyyy interesting.

  • Meaning actually we're always responsible for our deeds. When we know ourself well enough without jugment about any tendency, we can choose whether to indulge into some impulse or not. That's the meaning of the word responsibility for what we do or not.

  • very well thought out and very true. Great MyTake 😃

  • How did you make the leap from your conversation with this one guy on the internet, to..."apparently very few people even recognize self-control anymore"?

    Nevertheless, I agree with you about the importance of self control and a sense of personal responsibility.