Sensitive Question about "private time" when in college?

Hi all, While this might be a bit embarrassing please be kind but honest. I'm going to be a freshman in college in September in a dorm with a roommate who I have only texted with, but have not met. For those who have to share a dorm or any room with someone new how does one go about finding private time to masturbate. Like all guys my age I need relief often. I have always had my own room while in high school so this will be new to me. Please do not laugh. Any hints or suggestions on how you dealt with this? Thanks much!

Updates:
11 mo
I had a video chat with my new roommate. He sounds like a fun guy. As we talked he also mentioned that "it will be an adjustment sharing a room with someone since he likes privacy while at home." So bet he is thinking the same thing as me... when will we find private time to jerk off. I'm sure we will manage.
11 mo
I just had a long video chat with my new roommate. He sounds like a good person. It is funny that he said "it will be an adjustment to sharing a room with someone since I have always had privacy in my own room." It sounds like he is thinking the same thing as me... when can we get private time to jerk off! I'm sure we will manage...
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  • Well when I was in college, my dorm had a communal kitchen, a communal living room, a communal dining room, a communal laundry room and 6 private bedrooms with en suite bathrooms.

    So if you’re going to a college like the one I went to then you should have your own private bedroom and bathroom.

    But bare in mind, the majority of college dorms are co-eds. I was living with 2 other girls and 3 boys and sometimes saw someone running to the laundry room naked because they’ve left their clothes in the washing machine. So be prepared for seeing things like that. Also, this shouldn’t happen to you but it happened to me so I’ll warn you just in case. Sometimes ones of the boys who lived in my dorm who was on the football team would come into my room and try it on with me. I did eventually begin to fancy him too so after like 12 failed attempts, I let him in and we began having sex a lot, and I mean a lot. So be wary if you have any girls in your dorm, they may try it on with you.

    • Chloe... thanks so much for replying I appreciate it! I'm not sure how our dorm rooms are layed out. I know it is a co-ed dorm but maybe it is by room or by floor. It sounds like u had a lot of sexual fun with the guy. I could only wish something like that happens to me! Frequent sex is every teen guys dream! Pls stay in touch... I'm still learning about what college will be like and am still learning about sex ( I'm not a virgin but am still inexperienced) so I might appreciate a girl around my age to chat with. Would it b ok if I could follow u?

    • Sure

  • Hey, 20F girl in college here, and I’m going to be real with you. There’s almost no way you’re going to get that time without risking being seen. Your bathroom will either be shared with your roommate and the people in the room next to yours, or it will be communal (public). I found for me that that struggle wasn’t as present in college. When you’re making friends and doing schoolwork and living your life well, you don’t feel the need to fill a void with masturbation. College gave me the chance to break away from those fleshly desires and focus on the good and healthy things in life. Consider taking a break from masturbation and seeing if you can find fulfillment in better things.

    • I really appreciate the comments thank you! I guess I have a lot to learn. I know u are not a horny teen guy but I have always been use to some self pleasure. But I plan to get involved with sports (swim team) and hopefully will find a girlfriend to have some "fun" with. Is it ok if we stay in touch? I do not want to sound like a perv however... I'm still learning about all this stuff.

    • @earearear Damned good answer !!!

    • @Bricealan I agree with u. Thanks for adding to it.

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  • When you're in bed, that's the time to masturbate. Do it under the covers. The trick is to make sure you have a heavy bedspread, and the color should be dark, so no one can see your hand movements. At least then you'll be able to masturbate as soon as you go to bed, and once in the morning. And you might even get away with it if you pretend to take a nap during the day. I did this and never got caught, though I had a cool roommate, and even though he never caught me, he probably knew. I know he masturbated, but then again, people are more mature in college, usually.

    But trust me, dark bedspread, under the covers, can't go wrong. I know every trick in the book!

    • Leap fantastic advice... yeah I'll probably try to do it quietly when he is asleep. Everything will be new, making friends, learning a lot, adjusting to being "free" and trying to get laid! But you must remember what it is like when u were18... the hormones... yikes!

  • When I first got to college, I had the exact problem you describe. In high school, I had been accustomed to doing it first thing when I woke up.

    At college, my roommate and I got up at the same time and had breakfast together. So, that busted my routine until it dawned in me that I could enjoy myself while he was at class. I know... Duh.

    The next year, I had a room that was very dark at night. I learned to be very quiet and did it under the covers.

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  • You will find out is surprisingly easy. I had a hyper sex drive in college and was doing that all the time. Either during the day when you have different classes or at night sleeping, or in the shower…. and it’s pretty easy to find a girl to date or just have sex with in college…have fun man and don’t worry about it

    • I appreciate the answer... thanks I still have a lot to learn about what it will be like

    • You just have to experience it… nothing to worry about or learn beforehand

  • Bathroom or when your roommate is gone

    • That , makes sense Apple. Do girls have the same "problems" just curious... I'm still learning things. I am assuming girls my age have similar needs?

  • You could do what we did when we were freshmen and we would have something on the door to let the other roommate know not to enter. This was for hookups mainly but it worked.

  • Yeah. Good question.

    I dealt with this in boarding school for high school and at college and in the Navy.

    Shower is always good. If not in the dorm, then the gym.

    But also, when your roommate is out. Remember, they'll be wanting the same space. And, you're going to have to figure out if there's a time one of you wants to have sex.

    If those fail, play with yourself under your blanket and cum that way.

    • Thanks Snowedin I can hardly wait for the sex. I have only had sex briefly with 2 girls... but lots of great handjobs. Hopefully besides learning a lot in college and having fun there will be some good sex.

    • You control your destiny there man! Best wishes with it.

    • Fingers crossed! I have some prospects where I'm working this summer at a sports store.

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  • I've had to grapple with this challenge in the past, and I came up with a new technique that's much harder for other people to detect when I'm playing with myself. I lie on my back in bed and instead of wrapping my entire hand around my dick, I just press down on it and rub my palm and fingers over it. This creates a lot less motion and is safer than the traditional method.

  • in the shower but not in bed.

    • Good idea... I'm not sure if we have private showers in each room or if they are like locker room showers like I had in high school.

    • in dorm usualy seprate shower stalls except by pool and gym.

  • Maybe at night... when lights are out

    • Why did you like my opinion after 7 months?🤣

    • Just checked on some of my old questions that is all

  • Just jerk off. Wtf? Do it while he has girls over for bonus points.

  • Hi Alex- I bet you and I are not the only ones that thought about this. I was in college many years ago but it was a real thing and I can remember it. After a while you will know exactly when your roommate has class. There will be times when he has class and you do not. You can use that time as an opportunity to take care of business.

    • That is good advice. Maybe we can post our schedules or something like that. If he is a horny guy like me he may want to have time to jerk off in privacy also.

    • @alex-snow Alex- don;t be weird about this. Keep your eyes open and play it cool.

    • Exit thanks for the kind advice I really appreciate it.

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  • Lol I'm sure you'll be to busy with college life to worry about that class's, homework, other activities.

    Though if you really feel the need to if your bathroom has a lock on it or shower I suppose.

    Though I'd imagine if you do hook up with someone you could just shoot them a text and make sure they aren't there and ask em to stay away for a bit while you do your business.

    • Phoenix... thanks for the good advice. U are right I will be busy with classes, making new friends and learning about life, but u probably remember what it is like to be a horny 18 yr old guy! I'll manage somehow... thanks for answering!

    • Lol I still have the same sex drive today that I did when I was 18 ( high testosterone ) I just have my own ways of taking care of it. I'm sure you'll manage part of growing up is learning how to adapt and overcome what life throws at you after all. Adapt, Improvise and Overcome

    • Way cool thanks and it is good to hear that my sex drive will stay alive at this level for a long time. I exercise every day and try to eat well so fingers crossed. Anyway thanks for the kind words I appreciate it!

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  • Showers I think are best bet from what I've seen in movies😂. But also have worked for me because I had to live with my little brother for a while. And brothers can be kinda invasive.

  • I would say go somewhere private. Or get your own apartment.

    • My own apartment is not going to happen. We are not wealthy... just barely middle class. I'll manage Akam I'm sure all guys go through the same challenges so to speak.

  • The shower for sure. Turn the water up all the way and enjoy yourself

    • I will figure something out. Remember how horny u were at 18... well that is me right now so I need daily relief. Thanks for answering I appreciate it!

  • Come on man that’s a personal thing

    • I know that is why I was kinda embarrassed about asking it

  • Two guys it's not really that big of a deal if you just do it when you do it. Part of the bro code. He won't care if you do it and you probably won't care if he does it. By Thanksgiving you'll both have girlfriends staying over in the room and all those activities, not really out in the open but you will hear things. If you're still uncomfortable do it in the shower or when he's in class.

    • That makes sense Jeremy... I have found out that all guys that I know my age jerk off so I guess it will be what it is. Thanks again I appreciate it. I can't wait for some more sex!!!

  • In this case, having fun will not be as easy as it used to be. My advice to you is to do it quietly at night, come to the room before your friend and you make, do it after your friend goes to school (you may go to school a little late, but this time you should have enough time to take a bath). Maybe you'll have girlfriends and you don't have to masturbate. I don't know if men gather in a room and throw masturbation parties in dorms. But this is not impossible. Be careful though otherwise you might be gay

    • I'll try to have fun. I'm def not gay and can only hope I will find some girls to have sex with.

    • Yes, it will be very easy for you to find girls to have sex with in college. If not immediately, it will certainly be in 2 years. You can also find older girls

  • This is why I didn’t stay in a dorm…. or even go to college, for that exact reason.

  • I'd just go to the bathroom.

    • I guess I'll figure it out... remember how horny u were at 18 that is why I am asking the? Thanks for replying I appreciate it!

    • You're welcome. And I'm just as horny now as I was then. Just more control of it.

    • In regard to your update. Don't worry. The two of you will figure it out.

  • I think it is about time you grew up. You are going to college and this is what you are concerned about?

    • Not at all. I have the same worries as many my age like how will I do in school classes, money issues (we don't have a ton), will I make friends, will I find a girlfriend. Those are things I can talk to friends and family about I can't really talk about masturbation to them. Does that make sense?