Serious question: Child Rape/Sexual assault victims, have you or anyone you know ever been a victim, but developled positive feelings?

This is more if you were a child, but I guess any victim as well. In the case where you were personally close to the attacker (as most victims are), where some may feel repulsed or shamed, or nervous around their abuser, is there ever a case where the victim at some point becomes enamoured with the abuser? Again, I'm pointing this more towards those who are survivors of child rape or sexual abuse, but again, I'll take answers from anyone who is familiar with this. I'm not looking for hypotheticals, I can create my own hypotheticals. I am looking for real experiances.

Yes, I realize this isn't the most scientific place to go, but I'm hoping for some real answers from some real people.
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  • I spent about 8 years working at a counselling centre.

    It was aimed at 12 to 25 age group and we would get a number of those having been abused (both genders by either gender).

    There is a thing called a Trauma bond, the link below explains it.

    it often depends how it grows and what is happening.

    https://www.nfa.co.uk/story/story_category/what-is-a-trauma-bond-and-how-can-it-affect-children-and-young-people/

    Also between siblings it can be fine for years and then suddenly one realises what had been happening, it can be guilt or a feeling of abuse.

    It can take years for someone to come forward and admit to their abuse, often their life is spent hating themselves.

    on the whole there is a feeling of hate rather than love, however because it’s at an emotional level weird things happen with our brains.

    There is also a link for some between sexual arousal and historical abuse.

    The important thing is that people do seek help early, as some don’t open up and admit they have been through it until later in life, even 80’s, with guys being the least likely

    https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/child-abuse-survivors/

    https://www.rainn.org/articles/adult-survivors-child-sexual-abuse

    depending on the country you live in, there are various support agencies, it’s worth contacting them for more in-depth information.

    on the whole, the feelings are not positive, however our minds are complex things and trauma bonding does occur.

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  • I was never sexually abused but I have heard a story which involved behavior from the victim.

    I had an uncle who remarried and sexually abused the daughter of the woman he married. He was very manipulative and I'm guessing it was seductive or coercive rape rather than violent, forceful rape. The way he was found out was that the victim who was 12 years old at the time was observed by others doing things like walking out of the shower or her room naked while my uncle was present and doing so in ways designed to get his attention. The uncle was a not an empathetic person at all and was never interested in keeping in touch with family. One of the only people interested in trying to get in touch with him before his death and organising a funeral for him afterwards was that abuse victim.

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  • That would be Stockholm syndrome.

  • Yeah, it's called, Stockholm Syndrome.
    I have no intention of ever seeing my abuser ever again and I kinda think that might even be impossible. He would be in his mid to late `80's, by now or dead.

  • i was raped by my late sis ex boyfriend from age 7 to 13 it was hell now im to scared to even let a guy near me if im naked and i also have cronic ptsd due to him

  • Is this your personal case?

  • Most females get emotionally attached to a sexual attacker.
    Oxytocin is a weird chemical.