Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Everyday I get on this site, it's the same shit from women:
-"Why do all these guys keep sending me private messages? I'm not here for that"
-"My avatar draws too much attention and all these creepy guys keep contacting me via private message."
As a nearly 25 year old virgin male, I am living proof that if a good looking guy doesn't talk to a girl... he will never meet women or get laid.
Men talk to you, because you are good looking, and it is within our nature to make the first move... because we know you will never make the first move to talk to us guys.
Women are more driven by emotion. To get a woman interested, you have to be good looking, but also get them interested in you emotionally. For men, we are very visual creatures, if you either look nice, are very curvy, dress nice, have big boobs, are half naked... you have our attention.
It's just like in real life, I always see women complaining men are staring at them and keep trying to talk to them:
They go to the gym dressed like this:
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"Oh my god... why are all these guys talking to me and staring at me?"
You go to the clubs/bars like this:
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"Oh my god, why won't these men go away?"
You wear yoga pants out in public:
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"Oh my god... all these creepy guys keep staring at me"
And some of y'alls avatars be like this:
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WHAT THE HELL DO YOU EXPECT!
Also, ladies... an FYI... if you take your avatar image URL and paste into Google images, people can find your social media sites quite easily (sometimes). Sorry the men think you're beautiful and want to chat with you! It happens.
Seriously... STOP playing the victim?
Anonymous
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If you don't want attention, change your avatar. Guys talk to women depending on how visually attractive she is.
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What Girls & Guys Said
35 22yup i highly agree
Yeah, some girls do everything to draw attention and I think they complain about this because it doesn't attract the good men, the ones they're attracted to. And others will just never be satisfied by the attention people have for them. It can be caused by parents that weren't present. Anyway, this is something in their personnality they can't change, as our own defects.
A little of reverse psychology.
Well I can see your point in a way. It's not just this site, but other sites as well. However, I don't even have a profile picture. I just use the default for loner and I've had those kinds of messages from guys. They don't even know what I look like. I don't mind having conversations with them. If someone PMs me with the intent of just talking I don't care, I'll talk back. I just hate the dick pictures. I actually had one guy on here get pissed off at me for not showing him my picture. He took offense to it and said he knew I would act like that because all women act like that with him. I told him it had nothing to do with him, it was because I don't like showing my picture not even in private messaging. He still seemed to take offense and he acted as if all women do this to him. He even has an insulting username for himself, so I think it says more about himself then women.
I think it sort-of goes both ways, in my opinion.
Women need to be more conscious of what they wear, because let's face it. Right or not, if you're walking down a dark alley in a tube top and mini skirt, something bad can very likely happen. On here, I don't think it's an issue if a guy just messages a girl. I only get irritated if a guy is bluntly saying "Hey, want to see my penis?", because that's disrespectful.
That being said, it's not just women's fault either. Men do need to exercise self control. My picture doesn't show anything bad at all, and yet I still get messages from creepy guys.
I don't understand. If you want to have sex and you're 25... why not just go to a bar and just!!!
Because I don't want to have sex with just anyone. I'm not looking for a girlfriend of wife. I just don't want to give it up to someone I am not attracted to.
That's Bull.. Pretty, ugly, fat , skinny, some men on here just want a "good time"
Exactly! The men that message women aren't looking for a date, they're looking for nude/sexy photos to get their rocks off. They're looking for sexual pleasure. It'd be different if someone messaged you to try to get to know you but I doubt that's happening or else women wouldn't be complaining about it. And I'm not "playing the victim" by saying this because it hasn't happened to me (knock on wood).
You're so right and they don't understand because no males have reported females throwing themselves at them, they'd actually enjoy that
Best question/rant ever - expect angry women reporting you or downvoting or whatever for the truth :)
Yeah. I know. I don't care what they think XD.
that is exactly your problem almost 25 years old virgin. You don't care what woman think, you are just very frustrated questioning us because you didn't have sex and you see beautiful girls everywhere.
@Ivy_Nicole attacking sexuality or lack thereof doesn't constitute an ARGUMENT.
I can see both sides of this. I agree that provocative photos draw attention and people should realize that. But it's really not what this site is for and some guys do message some really sleazy stuff.
If you look like a slut you will get treated like one.
Lmao!! This guy has explained it all :-) *clap clap*
Jesus christ. What, like guys are just uncivilized animals who can't stop themselves from staring? That's bullshit. Maybe instead of teaching girls that they need to "cover themselves up" to avoid unwanted and inappropriate attention, we should be teaching boys to be a little more respectful, and maintain some self-control.
"Respectfull" "self controll". I'm sorry to shatter your ilusion but we're stoneage people pretending to live in the 21st century. Our bodies are in fact still stuck in the ston age. It's instincs for boys to look for a propper mate, and they look for signs of health, just as it is an instinct for girls to seek protection. Here's the deal, if a guy looks at you it means you look healthy. We are hardcoded to look, and demanding us not to is forcing us to ignore what we are. Sure, respect an self controll are virtues, but if you intend to flip out every time someone looks at your arse... Well, it's going to take a few million years before guys can potentially avoid that (unless you genetically modify humanity). Here's the deal, men will always look at what's apealing, same will you girls. Perving over someone isn't good, but you should accept some looking. Hell, take it as a compliment if we look at you! That's what we do if we feel girls looking at us in approval!
I don't flip out everytime someone looks at me. Sometimes yeah, it's flattering. But if a guy is leering at me or sending me inappropriate messages, then I have every right to feel objectified and offended. And I don't understand why any guy would want to make a women feel uncomfortable like that. Or even think it's okay to make a woman feel uncomfortable like that. The fact that some do means that they think of women as property and objects as opposed to real people with real feelings who deserve respect. And that's really pathetic.