Sex befor Marriage Y/N MAYBE?

[smilelots]

Do you ladies and gents think sex before Marriage is a good thing or bad and if so how either way.. thanks for your replies..

[Lliam]

Yes. If you don't have sex with your partner it means that you aren't committed to the relationship.

I wouldn't even consider marrying someone unless were were in a long term, fully committed relationship. You don't need a contract if you truly love each other. Requiring a legal contract in order to commit to your partner shows lack of trust. And trust is the cornerstone of love.

I wouldn't take a chance on getting married and finding out that she was frigid or had so many inhibitions that sex was a drag. Sexual compatibility is extremely important if you are going to be with someone for the rest of your life.

Saving sex for marriage is based an immature fantasy. It doesn't make sex more special. It doesn't guarantee future commitment. I've heard proponents try to justify their virgin fetish by cherry picking articles that claim that people who have had sexual partners in the past are more likely to cheat. I think that is utter nonsense. They are trying to rationalize their preconceptions.

Those people tend to be insecure and afraid of life in general. And they may have low libido and not have much interest in sex.

In reality, I think people who have never experienced life, including sex, before marriage are likely, at some point, to wonder what they may have missed out on and decide to cheat. They may have a mid-life crisis or be more easily tempted if they have an opportunity, especially if sex with their partner becomes boring over time because of the lack of knowledge and experience to keep it fresh and exciting.

I think people who have experienced sex with other partners eventually realize that one body is similar to another. They've been there and done that. So, once they understand what is of value and find a partner that they respect, trust, adore, and connect with on an intellectual, emotional, spiritual and sexual level, who shares similar values, ethics, hopes and dreams, and they know that they would be happy spending the rest of their life with that person, they have no desire to experiment any further.

Being in relationships is the way people learn and grow more mature. They learn about people and what is of value. They get better at spotting the person who is their perfect match. They don't project their own fantasies onto the first person who pays attention to them or says what they want to hear.

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. I learned a lot from each one. I wasn't interested in having kids because I didn't want the responsibility, so I wasn't in a hurry to get married and didn't even start thinking about finding a life partner and settling down until I was in my mid-30s. By that time, I was mentally and emotionally mature and financially secure.

I met my future wife when I was 40 and she was 38. Like me, she had lived a full life before we met. I don't think either of us would trade our early lives for anything.

We both considered marriage to be a lifetime commitment; the most important decision we would ever make. After getting to know each other very well, we got married two years after we met. We've been happily married now for almost 26 years and have built a wonderful life together. We have had LOTS of fun and stored priceless memories. We look forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

[WaterIsland]

Ugh. It’s tough. I honestly understand both sides of it. I lean towards indifference tho. It’s not a requirement for me. I wouldn’t ever breaking up with someone over sex. That just wouldn’t happen for me. So it’s not like a requirement to get married.


Before I get married I want to be absolutely sure that I’ll never break up with someone, and all my questions are basically answered. And sex isn’t a reason I’d break up with someone.


That being said. It’s the most intimate thing people can share. So I do think it can strengthen your love and affection for the other person.


Overall, it depends on my partner, and the conversations we have about it. The emotional side of things is more important to me than the physical side of things. So I’m overall kinda indifferent.

[DizzyDesii]

I think sex and oral should wait til marriage but i dont think everything should. Did i follow this? No. But i still know what i wouldve preferred

[computer_nerd]

how would you feel about dry humping before marriage?

[DizzyDesii]

@computer_nerd absolutely fine

[computer_nerd]

@dizzydesii cool just curious how about rubbing over panties

[DizzyDesii]

@computer_nerd anything outside of sex and oral is fine

[computer_nerd]

@dizzydesii any guy will be very lucky to ahve you as his wife

[EmmaMary]

Let's just put it this way... You wouldn't go out and buy a new car/truck without test driving it first, would you!

[smilelots]

very true EmmaMary ,, but lots of people still think old fashion ,, for some sex is very important for others its a chore ,, I would rather be married to someone that feels about as I do or me as they do , it only makes for a possible better life with them,, what do you think? and thanks for responding..

[EmmaMary]

In a simply nutshell, it's everyone's right and prerogative how they feel and what they wish to do. However what is more important is the fact that both parties have to be on the same page/wavelength etc.

[smilelots]

yes both have to feel the same about what they do and thats what matters most as long as there of age to make the right choices.. adults.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[RobT312]

i think its a good thing. i think couples should be compatible sexually as its a big part of being a couple

[SnowedIn]

I think it really depends on the couple. So, maybe. Works for some and doesn't work for others.

[Swollerbear]

I wish I saved myself for marriage. Would have made sex a lot more special. When you sleep around prior to marriage, you desensitize yourself to how sex is actually supposed to be. You'll have a much more fulfilling sex life in marriage if you avoid the slut phase. Sleeping around prior also causes a ton of issues that will arise through time. Sex is a sacred bond, and sharing that bond with only one person makes it better. Virgins are much more attractive to men in regard to marriage.

[humanearth]

Got to ride the cow before buying milk

[UncleBilll]

Always everytime

[bananathunder]

fuck yeah... sex before, during and after lol

[Anonymous]

It's a good thing, but only in committed, monogamous relationships. I would not marry a woman before having sex with her because sexual compatibility is too critically important to a healthy and lasting relationship to leave it to chance.

Having said that, casual sex and promiscuity is a bad thing and a major red flag.

[Anonymous]

There is no good argument for waiting for marriage.

[Anonymous]

It's a very smart thing.