Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I felt it was important to do a take about the topic of sex. For reasons which I will get into later in this take. But the biggest reason is: *Some people act like sex is a sin, or a bad thing....
It's not the sex itself that is sinful, it's people that make it that way...
I've seen posts about Masturbation being a sin, posts that use words like pervert or slut to describe people that like sex. Being sexual or sensual doesn't always have to mean someone is a pervert or a slut....
The actual definition of a pervert:
noun
/ˈpərvərt/
a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.
Not every man or person who likes sex is a pervert, yet whether we use it negatively or positively, can't we just stop using it out of it's original context?
Why do we need to use these labels to describe an act that is not only natural but can also be beautiful as well as healthy? Which leads into the next reason....
*Health benefits of sex
The Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life
Lower blood pressure.
Better immune system.
Better heart health, possibly including lower risk for heart disease.
Improved self-esteem.
Decreased deprfression and anxiety.
Increased libido.
Immediate, natural pain relief.
Better sleep.
More about the health benefits of sex for men and women can be found with provided links....
https://www.healthcentral.com/slideshow/7-benefits-sex-men
https://www.ohsu.edu/womens-health/benefits-healthy-sex-life
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/beauty/g19954276/skin-benefits-of-sex/
Besides the enjoyment of sex and the health benefits of sex there's also the benefits to having a healthy relationship....
*Sex and relationships
While sex itself is not the most important aspect of a relationship, sexual compatibility is. If sex and frequency of sex is important to you, it's better to pair with someone with the same sexual needs. If intimacy in the relationship is more important than the actual sex, it's better to pair with someone that feels that way as well.... How important sex is in a relationship depends on how important it is to both you AND your partner.....
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/is-sex-important-in-a-relationship
In a culture where we are so quick to label or judge, we should think what affect that may have on people that may already struggle with their sexuality or what is considered acceptable or not....
Now myself... I'm personally grown enough now to the point that at 48 I'm comfortable with myself, my sexuality, I don't seek out or need acceptance or approval other than from a partner... Anyone else either accepts me or they don't... But I wasn't always that way.... It gets easier when you get older and realize all the time you wasted worrying about things that shouldn't matter, like what society or others think about what two consenting, legal adults do in their sex life.... But can't we make it easier for people that still worry, care or struggle with that?
In closing, stop shaming others for their sexuality....
But, damn if you do want to shame people shame the RIGHT people...
Like people who CHEAT...There's so much debate on here about what's considered cheating, but keep it simple....
As always thanks for reading 💜🌹
"Brainsbeforebeauty"😘
What Girls & Guys Said
28 84Yeah - let's give a cheer for that oxytocin keeping up happy and pain-free!
😂 lololol although I'm not having sex which is funny because just cuz posted this take people assumed I made this to justify my whorish behavior... 🤷🏼♀️🤔😂😂 When it was more because Of things I've seen on here 🤷🏼♀️ females called slut just for talking about sex 🙄 guys called pervs they don't even have to be talking about sex, they just got to disagree with a female, and they get called pervs 🙄 if I know a lot about sex, umm it's cuz I was married for 20 years,2nd hubby, and was with my first (ex husband) for 5 years, but yet I'm a female so I MUST be a slut 🤷🏼♀️🙄😂 people these days I tell yah lol
Whorish behavior? How so?
That's what I'd like to know 🤷🏼♀️😂😂
Absolutely right!
Thanks! People automatically equate our assume that means promiscuous or lots of partners. Liking sex or having a lot can still mean with just one person. Exactly why did this take. The assumptions people make for stupid reasons. Just talking about sex or saying I feel that's people's own business what they do sexually if they ain't hurting anyone or committing illegal acts, don't mean I'M that way, or a "slut". Damn, ain't even having sex. Lololol yet some people still missed the point of this take and tried to say I'm justifying my behavior. Lol what behavior, tho 🤔I was married to the same man for 20 years and we both remained faithful. 🤷🏼♀️
@brainsbeforebeauty I agree 💯! I am married to the only man I have ever had sex with. I feel no guilt saying that not only do I enjoy masturbation, but I love having sex with my husband. Does that make me a slut? I don’t think so.
yeah it's so funny how people always say the bible opposes adultery, when it also says that "a man can have as many concubines as he can care for in his house" xD quite the double standard. typical christian :D
Lol right
Ok hang on that last pic is a load of bs.
So if I'm out of town and I'm texting a guy friend that I've known for years that would be just as bad as me actually having sex with him?
If you're that sensitive and untrusting that texting someone is considered cheating well that's fine. I'd rather be single and text whoever the hell I want without reporting it.
You know damn well what that last quote meant... If you secretly texting someone if the opposite sex and have to hide that from your SO
It didn't say anything about hiding. Out of all the words they stuffed into that pic they didn't say hide. I don't have to report everyone I text. That's just stupid...
And I quote: "If you're secretly texting someone because you're bored our out of town..." Come on, you know that don't mean texting your male buddy... That means the guys or gals that travel for their job and at em texting/sexting other people because there supposed isn't around... Or when the spouse at work... Secretive/hiding, in that context it means the same thing
*and are texting/sexting other people cuz their spouse isn't around
Ok well if I'm talking about guy stuff with my friend that I don't want my girl to know about. Isn't that still considered keeping a secret? And would that be considered cheating? Like exchanging nudes and sexting is obviously wrong. I'm talking about just chatting here.
That's what you're talking about... That's not what they meme was taking about... And wouldn't you be taking guy stuff with a guy? Why would that be a problem... Even if it's a girl that's a friend, but if he have to hide texts between you and a girl "friend" from your "girlfriend" usually there's more than just friends going on our wouldn't have to hide it 🤷🏼♀️
Lol yes it is. It says if you're texting someone secretly that's considered cheating. Doesn't specify sexting or a mistress. It just says texting. I can have a friend that's a girl and hide the conversation. Why is it considered cheating if I only do it with a friend that's a girl?
Why would you have to hide texting a girl? Why hide, keep secrets in a relationship? So would you be okay with your girlfriend hiding that she's texting other guys? Would you believe it's just innocent and just friends if she's hiding it?
And obviously if it's a quote about CHEATING, they mean texting someone you shouldn't be, come on it shouldn't have to be spelled out you just splitting hairs, or playing obtuse...
Well if I say I'm going out. Without any context you can interpret that in many different ways. I could be going out with with the guys, I could be going out with coworkers, or I could be going out with a side chick. Again I'm not going to report every conversation to a girlfriend. Cause maybe the friend is talking about I don't know family troubles. Maybe they're talking about something embarrassing like pissing in the sheets. So I'm not going to tell her about that kinda stuff. Again if she thinks that's cheating well I hope she finds a guy that lets her read him like an open book.
Omg I'm done lol you know damn well what that meme meant... There's people that think it's only cheating if actual sex happens and not true, if you hugging, kissing, cuddling another girl when you got one at home, that's cheating... If you sending, sharing nudes with anyone other than your girl, that's cheating, if you sexting telling some other girl they make you horny you wanna fuck em, that's cheating... And if you think not then just remember what's good for the goose is good for the gander...
Well my point is it's a bad meme. That just isn't true.
I agree with this, under the context of marriage. In that sense it should be celebrated and practiced as much as you want. Go crazy with it! It's a beautiful and natural thing, and those who have lots of sexual desires should not be shamed for them.
Outside of marriage, I do believe it is an action that is sinful. Not everyone who does it outside of marriage is sinning, because you have to know it's something is a sin in order to have committed that sin. That's a separate topic though. In terms of the action itself, I think it's not something that is healthy. I understand the natural desires for it, but it's better kept inside the marriage.
One thing I will say, is that if someone does have sex outside of marriage I'm not going to treat them differently. I'm still going to love them and still going to show them that they matter just as much
sex is never a sin @Brainsbeforebeauty
Didn't say never
@Brainsbeforebeauty i know i'm just saying what ithought
But it is when rape happens or sexual assault... Or people that cheat, those are sex sins...
@Brainsbeforebeauty very true
The thought of sex being a sin is made by humans.
Right,!!
I do not believe in all that stuff so I'm gucci.
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How didn't they yet manipulate people, that eating is also sinning (how was it? killing is murder/a sin? The animals we eat are no exception. I say it's the food chain). Maybe that's how the vocal vegetarianism functions.
Evolution would be more than happy to wipe out those, who believe sex/eating is sinning. This is sweet evolution and natural selection at it's work! 👍👍👍
For these little guys - what even is god and sin? Are those edible? 😁😁😁👌👌👌
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Right?
How dare these "shameless" carnivorous and omnivorous cells eat each other and kill them in the process? And don't think for a second, that the herbivores can get away with it because they eat plants and plants are living beings too! All shameless sinners.
Not only that but they are also mating out of the wedlock. They don't even have marriage! How will god ever forgive them 😂
On the upside however they do not have any gold diggery :)
They simply eat and mate and are maybe even happier than us complex human beings with mass depression right now.
Right! Lol
Ms. Triple B, contact me please. I want to ask something in private.
yea its the first goddamning sin mankind ever had. because it cuzes we survive
Totally agree , despite being celibate for the rest of my life , not too much of a price to pay for my decision to be a single parent , consider myself very fortunate to no longer desiring this " filthy act that will send you straight to Hell !! " like I used to. Good riddance to my Male Curse.
Sex doesn't have to be seen that way tho
Yeah, or else God doesn't treat the two genders the same. He is supposed to.
Not if you're doing it right !!!
Good point! Bad sex is a sin 😂😂
... and its own punishment !!
Hahahaha right
Agreed. There are sexual sins, but a single girl who isn't bethrothed/married having sex with a single guy is who isn't bethrothed/married isn't a Biblical sin.
Sex Between Two Singles Isn't a Christian Sin
It definitely is not. How do you know if you are compatible with someone? Mentally and emotionally go so far. Having sex is very healthy... to know what you both like and if you are compatible :)
This sudo Christian view on sex being filthy or wrong or immoral is just backwards.
God made sex how can anything he made be bad.
He made it to be ENJOYABLE for a husband and his wife.
The good book has a lot to say about sex actually some call the song of Solomon erotic,
Now what we've done with sex is what is wrong. We've perverted it made something beautiful ugly. God forbids sex outside marriage, sex between family, sex with animals, and sex between the same gender. Outright condems all of that.
It isn't that God is a tyrant that dosnt want us to have fun. He said it because it was in our best interest.
If humanity listened to God, you wouldn't see abortion ratesso high, there'd far less people with stds, no children out of wedlock, less broken homes, no pornography, fewer broken Hearts 💔. On it goes.
Sex has never been a light weighted thing to toss around it has some heavy consequences. Society tells us to do it all wrong and with whoever then tells us no its something special in the next breath.
We where never meant to have a hook up culture and it has damaged our society and its damaged people.
Now all that is if you believe in a God, as I say if you don't believe on anything, then you believe in nothing.
Whether I believe in God or not, I agree/believe sex should be in a relationship/marriage... I also agree this hook up culture/friends with benefits is demeaning and running what should be a beautiful thing between two people... I agree with the STD, and broken homes... I will say if people are into same sex relationships that is between them and God to decide, not me...
I agree,
Except that apparently there will be no more romantic partners or having a sexual relationship or activities in Heaven. If I die a virgin here, guess I am truly forever unable to experience it.
I don't know bout that
Statistically or anecdotally, that is what I heard and read the majority of Christianity interprets it as.
Welp im a virgin, i die go to heaven imma fuck a succubus
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LMAO. It very much is a sin (outside or marriage.). Read the Bible.
"of"
Maybe you should reread the Bible
I think you should, actually. You can't decide what is a sin and what isn't based on your own personal opinion. You have every right to your own views, but you're not entitled to edit an entire religion.
I'm not... So please don't say I am
Okay. Then be careful using the word "Sin.". Because that has religious implications for a lot of people.
www.christianbiblereference.org/...emaritalsex.htm
Obviously you didn't actually read the article that you just shared.
But if you want to know the answer, go to Deuteronomy 22. It's right there, plain as day.
Don't need to, but thanks anyways and Yes I did read it, the whole thing... Did you 🤔 you can determine what you consider soon for YOURSELF, and let others or good determine that for others...
I did. All of it.
Sin isn't an individualized thing. Sin is sin regardless of whether you think it's okay or not.
And not just because you think it is... Again, life according to your beliefs and let others live account to theirs...
*according to theirs
I agree.
@jamie05rhs Maybe just stop being judgmental, and live your own life, and focus on your own sins, rather than judging others, which I recall is ALSO A SIN!! Matthew 7:1-5 “Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. Judge, and you will be judged, so don't pretend to be so self-rightious!"
@JackSmy lol how does that mean premarital sex is not a sin
Thank you, @Marish01.
@jamie05rhs first, this was not meant as a post to get all religious... Whether you feel premarital sex is a sin or not does not give ANYONE the right to call people sluts or perverts... This thinking we have a right to make those decisions for others and maliciously label people who don't share you same religious beliefs, how Christian is that? Like the user you're thanking... She's been blocked so thank her somewhere else because I will not put up with someone accusing me of messing with little children just because her views differ from mine... And accusing someone of something that is not only fucking sick, and morally wrong, but illegal and a crime is not only not okay, and not very Christian, it's defamation and libel... See either always religious people that don't practice what they preach. Whether premarital sex is a moral sin, when it's two legal consenting adults, it's not ILLEGAL, while defamation and libel/slander IS
@Brainsbeforebeauty What am I missing here? Were you accused of something?
Me to the user:
First off, this take didn't mention wether premarital sex was a sin... It said SEX ISN'T A SIN... Second off, that is how people learn about their bodies... Third, if you are going to insult, your replies will be removed of this post! If you can't discuss things rationally, be careful who you say is the sick one 🤷♀️ This was a take about sex NOT RELIGION, but thank you for your reply 🙂
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You were talking about SIN.
You did use that word.
And you think children need to explore sexuality.
Have you helped them do that?
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@ www.fatherly.com/.../
And if you ever come at me like I'm some PEDOPHILE again you will be reported!!
Learn the facts before you become a parent.
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You approve of children Exploring which means for you it doesn't matter that they are kids. Your views about children are very sick regardless of whether you want to have sex with them or not
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@ you've already been reported... But sweetie learn what libel and slander is... Because you crossed the line from insult to libel... Not shaming children for exploring their bodies, and anyone who thinks that implies someone says that because they enjoy that, then maybe they're the sick ones... Now take your craz unfounded accusations off my post...
I'm glad she did that tho... Cuz shit like that there was the whole point of WHY I did this take...
@Brainsbeforebeauty I read though your entire Take, line by line. I didn't see anything in there about children. Were children mentioned somewhere else?
I sent you the thread, read it again... I said it's also like people who say Masturbation is a sin and self rape and reach their children that, to which she thought that was okay to pretty much insinuate I get off in children masturbating. Even though provided a link that shows children exploring their bodies is natural and healthy. What is not healthy is when parents shame their children for that it tell them they're going to hell of they do that. And it further makes sure you're child won't be able to feel comfortable talking about things if a sexual nature with you... All things I would of discussed and explained rationally to said user till she made those unfounded remarks... It's always the sick crazy ones accusing others of being that way though isn't it 🤷🏼♀️
@Brainsbeforebeauty I read everything you typed here. You must have left something out.
A different user: For telling people they are going to hell for doing natural human things. And because religion. Religious people are the worst, the judge the most. Because religion tells them too. Religion is the worst thing ever invented by man. Continue reading Reply 4 h Her: for doing natural human things? If that is the case then married people go to hell too. Oh wait. Marital sex is not a sin Me: yet some religious people teach their children masturbation is a sin and self rape... Which can have a detrimental affect on them growing up when it is something natural and healthy... Continue reading Reply 3 h How does that mean premarital sex is not a sin? Also do you think CHILDREN should masturbate? If you think so then you need help To you: you know you could just read the whole thread yourself, it's still there
@Brainsbeforebeauty Thanks. I don't think you were directly encouraging children to masturbate. I also don't think it's necessarily wrong for teens to masturbate. But that's not something I make comments about either publicly or privately since it's none of my business. (P. S. In the future, if you want to add details and share evidence, you could always just cite a reference. AKA "See Mark's comment.")
Umm I did with a link
@Brainsbeforebeauty You can't link to a comment on GAG. You can only link to a question. (But there were no links in any of your comments here.)
Not true
www.fatherly.com/.../
@Brainsbeforebeauty Wait a minute... Are you ADMITTING that you were purposely promoting child masturbation?
Ok fucking stop right there!!! I said not true to the fact that you can't provide links in replies and then I proved it by sending the link!! And you just need to quit now, read the link, go ahead, and then talk to me...
And what you all are calling Masturbation is how children explore, learn about their bodies... It's not sexual to little children, it's adults that shame that makes it that way... And that's not coming from me it's coming from experts 🤷🏼♀️
@Brainsbeforebeauty I already read it. It's a great article, and I agree with what the author is saying. But my response to you was based on your very own words. I said, "I don't think you were directly encouraging children to masturbate." And then YOU said: "Umm I did with a link"
Bullshit...
@Brainsbeforebeauty You can't link to a comment on GAG. You can only link to a question.
(But there were no links in any of your comments here.)
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Not true
www.fatherly.com/.../
TRY AGAIN...
That's the thing about PUBLIC thread! You can try to lie or twist my words, but the proof is there... Question is why are you trying to do that 🤔
(P. S. In the future, if you want to add details and share evidence, you could always just cite a reference. AKA "See Mark's comment.") Continue reading Reply Brainsbeforebeauty Brainsbeforebeauty 26 min Umm I did with a link
See the difference? I said umm I did too providing a link... Not what you're saying I did...
@Brainsbeforebeauty Calm down. I'm not twisting anyone's words. That's exactly what you said. It's all here for everyone to see. If you didn't mean it, you shouldn't have written it. (by the way, I personally believe you and truly don't think you meant it that way.)
Wait a minute...
You were responding to CITING A REFERENCE?
Ay yay yay...
Sorry, BBB. I completely misunderstood you.
Damn straight you did and like you said it's here for everyone to see 🤷🏼♀️👀
No I wasn't and yes I did and I'm done with this conversation, the thread is there, for all to see, as I'm sure GAG did when reported... Because accusing someone of being sexually Inappropriate with children crosses the line from just an insult... And that I won't stand for... I made no false accusations about anyone that was her and now you! Disagree with people but quit with false accusations!!
And yes, I removed your last comment!
@Brainsbeforebeauty Very mature of you. And I still haven't accused you of anything.
Don't come at someone's maturity when your own is in question, what do you think saying I falsely accused her is when I didn't, when that user falsely accused me all because of differing opinions? How mature is that... But again calling someone stupid out ugly is petty it would just be an insult, but when you say someone gets sexual enjoyment from children masturbating, that's crossing a line! That you can't understand that, again don't question my maturity.. I have a right to remove threads that are falsely accusing me of things I didn't do! And you have a choice to just stop responding or don't answer my posts or block 🤷🏼♀️ people can their them Insults, but don't twist my words, tell lies, or falsely accuse... Thank you !!
@Brainsbeforebeauty I like you, but you can't read very well. I never accused you of anything, and I never accused you of falsely accusing her.
I also have no intentions of blocking you, because I have no ill will towards you. And I'm sure this whole thing will blow over in a day or two.
Omg are you drinking? Lol you did and even@ mentioned her when you did, but okay nothing to blow over, people just need to know they can't go around throwing out those accusations at people and think people gonna take it... And I read and comprehend just fine, I wasn't there one twisting things around just saying 🤷🏼♀️
I didn't, actually.
Okay okay whatever you say... I'm really done here now... I'm on here to discuss converse like adults, and maybe politely debate.. Not to insult, bicker or fight with people, not my thing...
Let's not talk like the Bible dictates all that is a sin or not.
@ThisIsMyOpinion right!! Prole only follow the parts of religion they want to and ignore or justify the rest...
@ThisIsMyOpinion You always like to give your opinion by it's always wrong. Lol
I am sure it is...
Haha! The sexual urges of miss brains muffins are calling 😂
Anyways, sex is a sin when it's done outside of marriage, also sex without love and the blessing of god in a marriage makes us like animals so the most beautiful sex we can get is after marriage and only with the spouse 😊
Ofc sex has lots of benefits for men and women and that's why it is necessary...
Excellent mytake miss brains, but you forgot to add a muffin to all of these, because without a muffin a man cannot live to bite the forehead and eat the muffin maker alive 😈
There's a fundamental problem with your piece. "Sin" is a religious concept. Many religions define some of the things you refer to as committing sins. It's not a matter of opinion that they are considered sins in these religions, the ARE sins. It's not open to debate, it is a matter of religious dogma.
It may be you personal view that these things are not immoral, and you are entitled to that belief, but that doesn't mean that they are not sins to believers in these religions. Your conclusion that these things are not sinful is dismissive of the facts. They ARE sinful to those who believe in the tenets of these religions.
But then the same could be said f for religious people right? Religion doesn't give you the right to sit in judgement on others, Isn't that God's job? Calling people sluts and perverts, yeah that's real Christian.
No. You misinterpret the logic in my comment. I am not making any judgement about right and wrong. I am simply stating that the kind of sex you are talking about is considered a sin in many religions. That's a fact. It is a fact that in the opinion of those religions sex out of wedlock, between people of the same sex, sex for reasons other than procreation, etc. is immoral and a sin. I'm not saying that you have to agree with that opinion. But I am saying that they are as entitled to their opinion as you are to yours. By implying that your opinion is the only correct one, as you do in your post, so therefore theirs is wrong, you are demonstrating the exact same close minded and judgmental view that you accuse them of having. It's an opinion. They are as entitled to theirs as you are to yours, and since it is about a moral judgement, you have no way of proving you are right and they are wrong. Correct morality cannot be proven, it's subject to opinion. Matters of opinion have no right and wrong. They are opinions not facts. So judge not lest ye be judged.
Nowhere tho did I bring up religion tho did I, nowhere other than one pic did this take even mention premarital sex... Do you know women on here have been called sluts just for asking or answering a sex question. Guys have been called perverts.. That's what this take was trying to address
You think premarital sex is not a sin because that is what you WANT TO BELIEVE
No. It's because it isn't.
double standards is what holds us back
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