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Sex on the First Date
For as long as people have been going on dates, there has been the debate over whether it’s OK to have sex on the first date.
Last century, it seems it was decided some first date friskiness marked you as “undateable,” and you then were branded for life. Some “older and wiser” woman - Mom, Grandma, cafeteria lady, etc. - probably told you men won’t buy the cow if the milk is free.
Well, guess what? As a woman living in this new millenium, you are not a commodity to be bought and sold, and you get to decide what happens with your “milk.”
There are actually quite a few reasons you might want to let your first date end with some milk:
1. Find out if the two of you are sexually compatible
Maybe you like it rough, and he’s more of a gentle soul. Maybe you’re always ready for four rounds, and he’s tuckered out after one. Maybe he busts out the whips and chains as soon as you step into his bedroom.
There are lot of “maybes” when it comes to sex - answer the questions early on so you don’t invest your efforts into someone whose kinkiness doesn’t mesh well with yours.
Speaking of investment...
2. See if he’s worth your time
Not only does sex reveal a lot about someone’s preferences but also about their personalities, as well as how they feel about you.
Does he listen when you say what you like? Is he an attention hog? Are you just not as attracted to him when his clothes come off?
These are some important factors in whether you want to spend your precious time on someone who may or may not be worth it.
3. Avoid the awkwardness
Don’t you feel like you’re in school again when the sexual tension is right in front of you, and you can’t do anything about it? Well, you can.
Don’t feel pressured to brush it off or nervously joke about it. That man will be just as relieved as you are if you’re willing to move past the tangible tension and into the bedroom.
Once that weight is off your shoulders, you’ll be able to better enjoy one another - in more ways than one.
4. Take a new adventure
Maybe you’ve never had first date sex, or maybe you did and it led to feelings of guilt/shame/etc.
Well, ladies, this is the 21st century - in a society with Google Glass, surely you should feel in charge of your sexual desires.
Be willing to take the leap, do what you want and enjoy yourself. It’s your life - don’t limit yourself to some sexist, antiquated “ways of life.”
Chamber pots used to be a thing, too. There’s a reason we evolve with time.
Written by Hayley Matthews
Hayley Matthews is the editor-in-chief of DatingAdvice.com, the Web's authority on all things dating. She oversees content strategy, social media engagement and media opportunities. Connect with her on www.DatingAdvice.com
What Girls & Guys Said
15 25I LOVED this article!! So true-I'm into BDSM, so if a guy is creeped out by the idea of making me beg or tying me up, then that's not going to be too fun for me. Even biting my back could suffice though. Point being, those are things that I have to keep in mind, this article rehearsed that for me. :)
Interesting advice. Every relationship is personal, different and highly complex.
Honest communication never hurts.
it seems the op is really into bdsm as dominant ;p , just saying..
The way I look at it if it happens it happens if it don't it don't.
Interesting indeed, but I think that it's not really safe to have sex on the first date.
@kechi So you expect women who want to have sex not to just so that those women who aren't up for it don't seem less desirable. If a girl doesn't want to have sex that's her business, but she should expect other girls to do what she wants.
Second picture from the top scares me and I agree with @LoveandLive
When I went on a first date with my bf we had sex and it was probably the best sex that I've ever had.
Well, you know @Hayley-Matthews is "DTF."
Never did it, but I like the pictures ;))
Well. I'm completely neutral on first date sex. It happens or it doesn't happen, I don't think that actually matter too much, if you end up with her or not in the end.
To me, having sex on the first date is too early, and it can ruin the relationship.
It's amazing the picture GAG allow on here, when they know they've lowered the age to what, 13? 12? get these images off of here
I'm not sure I agree here. It just seems
premature. Further, having sex on the first date will not necessarily clue you in to sexual compatibility!! That's something that takes knowing and trusting each other to really let loose and totally show who you are sexually and what your fantasies/ kinks are. Finally it's kind of nice to let a little sexual anticipation and excitement build while you become comfortable with one another!