Sex only. Once a month or less?

Hello I'm 27 years old and my miss is 23 we been living together 1 year. We only having sex once a month or sometimes less. Even if we have sex she's always dry. That's makes me wonder if she just forces herself to do it just to make me feel good. Once I suggest her to not have sex for hálf a year she didint think long and said yes that's a good idea
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It's just strange cause she always comes to me after work gives me kiss hugs me and stuff but in bed is diffrent story I don't want to be selfish if she's not happy with me maybe she would be with someneolse I just don't know how to ask her and if I ask her she will just try to make me feel good and wouldn't tell everything but like her body says it all she's. Not aroused like newer
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Nowadays we. Fighting a lot for stupid things but than after long fight she comes back to me and gives me hugs and saying that she don't want to fight with me
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  • Well, your lady does not care too much for sex and if she is satisfied to make a break of 6 months, that means that she is not interested in being intimate. That is fine because there is much more to a relation than sex.

    You can have the same quality relation just cuddling, kissing or holding hands. There is no need to have intercourse on a given day or schedule.

    Perhaps you should have cleared this issue before you got together with your miss. She could be asexual or aromantic and be satisfied just being in a platonic relation.

    Talk with her about those possibilities and if it disturbs you that much, perhaps you should consider separating. There is no need for the one or the other to be unhappy because they either have to force themselves or withhold their desires.

    • Well I don't want to be in platonic relationship and ilat the same time II don't want to be selfish cause maybe she can find something better than me in that case

Most Helpful Girl

  • The problem is that since it since you only have sex when she's dry, her body remembers that sex = pain and now even when you initiate, her body probably clams up from sheer memory (the same way we learn to flinch when people hit us).

    What you need to do is make it a point to get her wet, and be willing to suspend you own needs for as long as it takes so she develop the pattern that sex is actually something to look forward to. Until you figure out how to get her off first, she's only going to learn to hate sex more.

Most Helpful Guys

  • We al have different sex drives and libidos. Start with just foreplay and getting naked a lot with her. Use lube when you have sex.. it really makes it much more enjoyable. Try KY or Astroglide or something like that. it works wonders. Were either of you a virgin when you got together? Maybe it is a good time to mix things up with different positions etc. Otherwise how is the sex with her?

    • No we weren't virgin it's okay I always start from kisses and foreplay I give plenty of time but every single time she's dry she would like her hand and than rub her.. To. Make it wet and that its just turn off for me its just makes me think that she's doing this for me and makes me feel that I'm not a right man for her which is sadly but I think it's true

  • Are you using lube? Has she visited her GYN and talked about this issue. Vaginal dryness and lack of libido can be a symptom of several different medical conditions and this really should be investigated.

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  • Have you considered that she is asexual? I think you need to have a conversation with her about it.

  • As is either not attracted to you or really not sexual

    • Clearly u have to have a conversation with her about sex if is a lssue for u

  • use a LUBE... she can't enjoy it if she is Dry, and may not know about lubes... be a prince, lube your cock before you slide it in... don't tell her and don't ask, she will be too shy

    • But she. Could tell me that she don't. Like itt and she wants to try something new I don't want hurt her and at the same time I'm just thinking I just have to brake up and than she would find better man than me

  • Sounds like it's been easy for you to get laid most of your life

  • idiot she does not like you

    SHE IS A PROSTITUTE USING YOU FOR MONEY

    its all over the internet look into MGTOW and REDPILL