Sex with a new person for the first time, what if I’m rubbish?

I’ve only ever been with one person in my life which was a partner of 10 years from a young age. We have broke up and I’ve been flirting with a mate. We have kissed a few times and agreed we’ll keep it causal and see how we feel after stepping it up a level. Only downside to this is they’re very experienced and their past doesn’t bother me, however, I only know what one person likes. They already know it’s preferred in the dark due to confidence but I also don’t want to be rubbish at it. What should I do? How do I approach this because I do want to do it. Lol
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  • Regardless of your experience level, every person and relationship will be different, so you can't expect to be "good" (or them) the first time. It BECOMES good/great as you get to know them and what they like and don't like. You can speed this up though with open communication, but lots of people are "afraid" to talk about sex. Especially women. But a couple of other points... your body confidence needs to improve. You know how you like confidence in men (most women says this), we like it in you as well, especially body confidence. And I know most women don't have it, but it's a HUGE turn on! And, he is likely insecure about his own body as well, especially the first time. It won't be all about you. We guys are also visual, so in the dark is not going to be good for him. He needs/wants to see you and you'll judge your own body far more than he will, guaranteed! How you can improve your body confidence? Try spending more time naked in general (not just with sex). And even with him (such as you're watching a movie on the couch, do it naked together. This will make you both more confident and comfortable not only with each other, but being naked.

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  • Is your body erogenous? Do you know what feels good? Then do that to him. Be sensual.
    Let him pleasure you, too. Gasp, sigh, even tell him what feels good. Lose your inhibitions.
    When it comes to the fucking part, savor his cock inside you and show your pleasure. Fuck back; move; maximize your own pleasure because that will maximize his.

    I know what it's like when two people already know what each other enjoys. But you don't have to worry about it with someone new. That's something two people learn about each other in time. The only thing you need to worry about is enjoying YOURSELF. Don't second guess. He'll love it if you are simply responsive.

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  • Tell him that the first few times it’s his treat, and to lead the way.

    That way it’ll all be ‘on him’...

  • The thing that makes girls "rubbish" in bed is when they worry too much about the guy's enjoyment and ignore their own. The way having only one partner might be problematic to that is if it results in you making certian assumptions for what he will do and are disappointed if it doesn't happen.

  • You re a girl, you re not obliged to do very much. Just suck him off kiss him give him your ass and look him in the eyes a lot and moan. Thats all you gotta do girl

  • Stop thinking so negatively and focus on the positive and having fun.

  • Honesty. Most guys will understand, espeically if this guy is a mate he prob knows you well enough to know you were in a 10 yr relationship

  • There is a learning curve with everything new. If you are not communicating about this you should not do anything.

  • Have fun and don’t worry about any downsides because there won’t be any

  • Then you're bad. You move on to the next guy

  • just fuck freely.

  • Don't work

  • My guess is you have been sexually active since your teens

    • Late teens but the point of the question is that I’ve only ever been with one person so it’s something different with someone else

    • So you were probably 18 or 19 when you lost your virginity, I was being sarcastic because I envy and resent people who got to date that young because I didn't