Sex with an ex ... as meaningless as casual sex?

[Anonymous]

If the breakup wasn't completely horrible and you two are still on talking terms, guys, is sex with an ex still as completely meaningless as casual sex with a stranger? Let's say it's not an ongoing friends with benefits thing but perhaps a one time thing. Would you treat her more warmly than a one night stand? Or actually colder in order to prevent her from being attached to you afterwards?

[Cryostatic]

If you're not trying to have a relationship with the person you're having sex with, then there really isn't any meaning in it beyond the sex act itself, now is there?

So by that definition, yes, it's pretty meaningless.

The problem with having sex with an ex is that you never know what their motives are. Breakups are rarely truly mutual, and usually you have one party that's pretending to be okay with it, and it can take months to a year or more to move past that. If one of the people felt hurt or betrayed, he or she may try to take advantage of the opportunity to "teach you a lesson" in some form or another. Exes are generally exes for a reason, and it's best to leave things alone.

[Anonymous]

It all depends on the girl and how she takes it. If it was just a one time thing, then I would just leave it be. If you talk to her too much or do it again then that leads to the question why did you break up in the first place. So if you want to stay broken up, I'd say just be casual about it.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

It would be more warmly since she knows me well.