Sex with sister in law, am I wrong to have done it?

[Anonymous]

My brother and his wife are separated, he moved into an apartment while they are waiting on a divorce. Likewise my girlfriend moved out a few months ago, but we weren't that serious. He asked me to go by the house to pick up some extra things he had lying around because he didn't want to get them. I agreed and his wife was easy to get along with as always. We always had a good relationship. She said she'll miss my family cause we were always so good to her. We shared a beer or two and it was a great conversation. A few days ago she sent me a text and asked if I could meet. I knew I shouldn't but I did anyway. We had sex like almost right away. It was an amazing experience she is just a fantastic woman! She loved how "similar" my body was to my brother in many ways, she found that "cute". We haven't talked since but I really want to. Is it betraying my brother by being with her, since he has cast her away? I haven't had much luck with women and she just takes my breath away.

[Anonymous]

You are worried rightly. Many a times it happens. Spouses separated for a long period do have sexual desire but no one is there to satisfy it. Brother's wife is easy to talk, have jokes and touch. If she desires sex, she would silently encourage such a move which ultimately ends in actual sex.
Here I am of the opinion that prolonged process of separation (if spouses don't intend to unite) often leads to incest or out of wedlock relations.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for selecting me MHG.

[Asker]

Welcome

[confusedgirl672]

I'm sorry but it's definitely betrayal to your brother. Whether or not they're together, they were married. It's not like they were simply dating. And plus, they only separated just recently.

[Rissyanne]

How would you feel if your brother did that to you? Probably not to happy about it.

[Asker]

He did think my ex girlfriend was cute but yeah I wouldn't have liked it

[3gmoney3]

I'm not saying it was "wrong," per se, but I'd keep it between you and her and keep it to a one-time thing. It's not like your brother dated her a couple of times a few years ago, they are technically still married. If your brother found out he'd likely be really pissed. There's also probably a lot of vulnerability on her part, and you're filling a need for her that's, psychologically, pretty messed up.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she was just using you, trying to get back at your brother for hurting her

[Asker]

I thought about that. Is that why I haven't heard back from her since?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably

[Youdoyouboo]

no question about it... betrayal lol

[Zygum]

As she is going to divorce your brother, so no problem if you had sex with her. She is no more member of your family

[Anonymous]

you fucked up. But you can't change it, so you should be worrying about the aftermath instead.

[Asker]

What aftermath? I'm not telling brother! I don't think she'll tell him either... at least I hope not

[Opinion Owner]

You can't run away forever if you're serious about this woman. Dude's gonna find out sooner or later and you have some choices to make.

[Asker]

I'd love to be with her but I have a feeling she's just using me

[Opinion Owner]

That's very likely. To me, it seems like a vindictive move on her part. Just the fact that you asked this question means that you know, deep inside, that you fucked up. But that's not important because like I said, it's done. It happened, can't change it. Now… Is your relationship with your brother's wife based on lust? Do you love and respect your brother? Are you and your brother close? Do you have anything to lose? All of these are some of the things you should be pondering. In any case, our choices and actions have consequences.

[Asker]

Was it lust? Well yeah, she's way sexy. I'd love to spend more time with her but I'm starting to think she just used me and seriously a relationship isn't a reality. My brother and I aren't close but we are brothers does that make sense?

[Anonymous]

Bad idea. This will make family gatherings pretty awkward and might jeopardize your relationship with your brother.

[Anonymous]

You f***ed up bro...

[Anonymous]

just shit or get of the pot dude

[Anonymous]

Oh no! But you will hurt him and bros before girls right? You don't want to hurt your brother ?