Sexual Dom versus sub?

[Lilionna]

I use to prefer being a dominant person hell I still do but instead I’m stuck as a fake submissive because my boyfriend believe only a man should be in control during sex because woman can’t take control properly (which physically in my case is true to to my joint and back issues and massive weight loss) but being submissive irritates me. Sure sex still feels fine (on the rare occasion he actually bothers with foreplay) but I miss being in control. What is your preferred roll?

[ChrisMaster69]

I am and have always been I guess a Dom, with me it’s not just in the bedroom, it’s lifestyle where you have a collard sub relationship.

I tried switching lol, I am the worlds worst sub, really can’t get in to the role and sexually was not really my thing.

some of the Masochist stuff yeah that I could handle but not the full sub side of things, I was an embarrassment to other subs lol.

it is very hard trying to be in a role that does not suit you, it also totally messes up sexual fulfilment and impacts on relationships.

[Lilionna]

I noticed sense I’m a natural dominant and not really a submissive type both in lifestyle and in sex but with my medical issues I’ve lost a lot of weight and physically ability so to my boyfriend that means I can only be a sub. It’s annoying as I’m a terrible sub as well

[ChrisMaster69]

Size and weight or height have nothing to do with being a Dom or a sub. I know a few girls that are full time practicing Dommes, one is about 5’4 and has subs over 6ft. This is why I hate movies like 50 shades, it gives the wrong impression. They also miss the entire emotional link of being a Dom sub, especially if not living the life 24/7. Control is through the bond of through trust comes obedience, it then relies on command voice and not physical strength. Sorry I do get a bit frustrated with how BDSM is portrayed and the number of frankly wrong ideas people have. I can very much understand how you feel. A lot of subs go through this when they discover they are actually a switch and do like being a Domme. Even without the Dom, sub thing, the lack of foreplay must be a nightmare more so than faking sub part.

[Lilionna]

Yeah he tends to think a woman can get off only on penetration like men can. He also looks down on women as weak and inferior. Says girls that act as doms are to guy like for him.

[ChrisMaster69]

Lmao, I’ve seen guys scream for their Domme lol. Women are actually harsher on subs than males. Both at Munches and at parties etc, I very rarely annoy one. I will drop in and out of role but a lot of women are naturally like that, and being chastised sucks lol. Hence my utter bollox comment below lol

[wankiam]

thats unfortunate... i mean im mainly a dom but i love to switch just to stop things getting stale. maybe try talking to him again and see if sometimes he is willing to change roles if for no other reason than to stop it getting boring

[nodnol32]

Sub.

[JosyJosy]

Being dominant as well. But my boyfriend isn't as closeminded, and he's more submissive so

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m dom

[ND4SPD31]

I like being in charge but there are times when I like the girl being in charge too. Haha.

[llcanon]

i can only tell you i am 65 and we were raised to be dominate and it never works out well when the woman is dominate

[Lilionna]

Why do you believe that it never goes well for a dominant female and submissive male?

[ChrisMaster69]

What a load of utter bollox.

[llcanon]

very unnatural for my generation. we were Raised to not do it

[llcanon]

men from my generation and my culture wer e taught not do ever do this

[llcanon]

as a 6 yr old boy i was abused by a Nun and believe you me they were dominate and the temptation would be great for any woman to abuse. I don't trust dominate women and to me one of these is the worst kind of woman

[Luckycharms12]

Should tie him up and have your way fun to mix it up

[nudeNhorny]

I don't agree with your boyfriend and I like the woman to take control

[KananJarrus]

Both..