Sexual history... how many is too many?

In today's world there are people with huge variety in their sexual history. Some being virgins after 25 or more years. Others having sex from ages 15 even.

So my question to you is. If you were to date someone or to make it more generic. If you were just to meet someone. How many sexual partners is too many before you would start to judge them or maybe see them as some kind of sexual deviant.

I have sex a lot. I've had it with a lot of different woman and a few men. Personally I rarely judge. Now doesn't make me some angel. Nothing wrong if someone who has sex with over 100 people makes you feel awkward. If you haven't. Of course it would seem a lot to you.

If someone has never had sex would you judge them... Would you judge them if they in their 40s and have never had sex?

If someone's only 18 and has had sex with over 30 people would you judge them. If they over 40 and have had sex with over 200 people would you judge them then?

At which point would it bother you or rarely make you see them differently. Or if it would never ever bother you. Explain why either way.
Sexual History... How many Is Too Many??
I would never judge. Regardless of how many...
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I think over 10 is abit much...
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I think over 25 is abit much
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I think over 50 is too much
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I think over 100+ is messed up
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If you have sex with anyone other than the one you going to marry. You messed up...
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  • Anything over three I think is a bit much for guys and girls. But that's because I wanted my first to be my only but later I found out she had lied and I wasn't her first so that ended and same goes for the second one. The third girl I was with said she had been with three and her and I stayed together for three years and were married. I'm in the military and while I was gone she found herself a boyfriend so we got a divorce and now I'm back to square one of dealing with this.

    • There was a study done that I'm sure you could find but it more or less explained that the more sexual partners a woman has had the more emotional strings she has to these individuals which takes its toll when she is in a relationship and supposedly is one of the causes for lack of communication, sense of isolation, and is more likely to bail when there are problems. And it explained a woman with as few of these as possible is likely to have a more successful relationship. Essentially saying with each partner a small piece of woman is gone and with too many partners it can cause for there to be problems. How true this is, I don't know but from my experiences In dating women with fewer to no partners are more genuine rather than being compulsive like the ones that had been with many. This is only relevant to the woman I've met and know but there's has seemed to be a steep difference in personality in certain areas when a girl has had 5-7+ partners.

    • Back to the original question. I prefer a woman with less than three partners but I'm not "judgey" of one that has been with more. It's just with my experiences that's not a woman I'd want a relationship with but I don't think poorly of her for her choices as long as she doesn't see them as "regrets" because they weren't regrets they were her choices.

  • Whether or not it is "messed up" depends on perspective which is influenced by the culture of your society. Western societies are more prone to pre-marital sex and people there are more open about it than here in asia. With that in mind, being raised in an Asian community and society i wouldn't want to have sex before marriage or perhaps the most i'd do is sexual outercourse. I wouldn't judge a person if they have pre-marital sex, but maybe might feel a little jealous if you count that as judging.

  • Meh! Most of the comments are. . . full of Hypocrisy. " I don't mind, don't ask don't tell" " don't measure someone's standards" "I don't judge" bish please when it comes to girls having been "around" most guys tease and judge the fuck out them saying they are nothing less but a whore.

    • I think that changes over time. Or maybe it’s just where I’m from. Boys were judgmental as you say when I was under 20, but where I am, nobody around here cares, I haven’t heard the word ‘whore’ since high school. Or maybe men around here do care, but just don’t care enough about people’s sexual lives to talk about it.

  • From a general standpoint, I believe people can have as much as they want with no judgement.
    That being said, when I'm looking for a serious partner, less is better. Not that I'd discount someone with a high number of they were great. But someone who'd partied hard may not be so ready to sexually commit to one person ya know?

  • i think it's something of a bell curve you have to sort of chart out
    X number of partners at Y age

    10 partners at 17 years old seems like way too many but 10 at 37 seems rather reasonable

  • I don't judge, no matter how many or how few.

  • Don't think it matters. Everyone has a past no need to judge anyone on it.

  • This is a great question! Lol! I find myself super judge mental and would judge some one for having more then one... haha! I don’t expect anyone to actually hold to that and know that I haven’t either but that is where my judgement starts...

  • 25 is too much i think but it really depends on the amount of safety u used.

  • I just don’t think it needs to be a topic of conversation

  • This actually says so much about a person that some would believe. It says a lot about their self control, character, and personality. The decisions people make are indicative of their character. The number is important but so is the context.

    • Says more about the character of the person judging the number. Someone wastes to enjoy themselves, that's fine

    • Well, it’s not as simple as that. When you talk about a person’s sexual count, you have to talk about their decisions and the context in which that number was reached. All of these things relate to the person’s character and personality. Someone who engages in a lot of casual sex probably doesn’t have their safety as a primary concern and is apt to make poor judgements and can not control contain their sexual urges. These things are not good for someone and not a good message to be propagating.

    • How exactly is having casual sex related to one's safety. Unless someone is consciously participating in unsafe sex, there isn't really anything harmful about it. It also has nothing to do with poor judgement or not being in control (at least not me)

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  • I would say 5 at most.

    Anymore just seems they are un-faitful and not loyal.

    Or they was easy, meaning they got with anyone who showed them attention, or they moved on to quickly into another relationship, like the relationship they left ment nothing, especially if it didn't last 2-3 years minimum.

  • I wouldn't care as long as they were clean and loyal

  • I used to be so concerned with numbers but not anymore. Their past doesn’t matter to me as long as they are clean and loyal.

    • Yes. The older you get, the less those numbers mean. You gain a perspective that good sex is such a important dimension of our lives. So primal. So existentially important to a satisfying life. Frankly I've never met a virgin over 25 that was truly happy. by the way, is that the Puget Sound in the background of your avatar? My home.

    • No, it’s Alcatraz. I’m from the Bay Area.

  • Your body, your life and your decision, I don't think that anyone has the right to judge someone else. You do you and if someone has a problem with it, they should leave

    • If everyone stop judging. How this world will be like?

  • Honestly, I just don’t ask. I’d rather just not know :)

  • Where I come from if a girl have been with more than two man she is a slut. But for the man there are different rules. I don't find that faire. My family claim that they would never judge me and never try to mess up with my personal life, but they still do it. I can't bring my boyfriend home. I have to hide when I'm with him so noone close to my family will know that I'm dating someone. There are a bunch of things I can't do. It's annoying because everything is allowed to my cousins just becaus they are boys. Now that I'm older and I can suport myself and live alone I have more freedom. My boyfriend told me he have slept with four girls before me and I'm ok with that. And I haven't sleep with anyone before him.

    • No I see them both equally.

  • I try not to judge people based on this sort of thing.

  • I really don't care about mere numbers.

  • As long as she is not a sexual burn out and can still be sensual and have emotional reactions then she is still okay. But I want a full physical when they get too high. A couple women that I knew were very high, really were burned out and they had a common glazed burned out stare. They just seemed to not have any intensity remaining in them.

    • That's called a thousand cock stare. When a woman has too much sex with different dudes, she loses her glow on face. She becomes pale, short hair, masculine face and masculine voice. She looks older than her age and basically you won't feel attraction for her. You won't feel the spark. Its pretty easy to spot a slut.

    • @Hungry_Shark Yep, that's for sure.

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