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I have a theory I have developed about how some (not all) sexual kinks are formed. That theory is: many times they are a survival mechanism.
The brain is an amazing thing. Take for example Disassociate Identity Disorder (formerly called multiple personality disorder). During regular, severe childhood abuse, the mind literally creates a new personality to shoulder that burden so the person can continue to live their life. Because how could a child live and function during these abusive episodes without having an escape.
I theorize the brain can have a similar reaction when forming a kink. Take these case studies for example
1. Small Penis Humiliation (SPH) Kink - A guy told me a story once of a time a girlfriend got him naked then locked him in her yard with a bunch of girls laughing at and making fun of the size of his penis. That obviously had the potential to be very damaging. It was very distressing to him at the time.
Now he is in a healthy relationship and he enjoys when his girlfriend masturbates him and talks about his small penis. I theorize this is because under normal circumstances, the man being the the center of a surprise penis humiliation party (pure evil in my opinion) would want to die. So the brain, the amazing organ it is instead turns the trauma into a sexual kink. Whereby now having his penis made fun of for the size in a sexual situation is a very exciting experience. While the initial event was very damaging, I see no problem with his caring girlfriend now indulging him.
2. Cheating Kink - I had another guy tell me about catching his first wife in the act of cheating. This in and of itself could for obvious reasons be a devastating discovery. And while he and his first wife are no longer together he does enjoy engsgong in “cheating” role plays with his second wife. A safe space, in my opinion, to explore the kink that was formed from the trauma.
3. Circumcision Kink - I know another guy who was strongly encouraged by his parents to get circumcised in the midst of puberty for religious reasons. He had been an early bloomer and mostly developed at the time leading to a very painful, traumatizing, scaring procedure which affected his sensation and function. He now enjoys talking about circumcisions on sites and forums and it has become a kink for him but I know deep down he wishes the procedure had never happened.
4. Penectomy Kink - this one I think seems to stem from a deep-rooted childhood trauma, often relating to a parent shaming or punishing a male child for masturbating or touching their penis (which is a very normal part of adolescence and body exploration by the way). I’m not even sure what the female equivalent would be, possibly vaginismus, but I am so very thankful my parents told me it was ok and just to go to my room. Could have been incredibly damaging otherwise. Examples:
- A parent threatening to cut their child’s penis off if he does not stop masturbating. (Don’t do this!)
- A parent telling a child they will go to hell for masturbating (their little mind thinks, subconsciously, the only way to stop for sure is cut it off).
- A parent making any other number of threats in attempt to thwart their child from the natural act of body exploration.
There you have it. My unofficial, unqualified kink theory (I only took one psychology class in college) but I am very fascinated with the human brain and unusual medical conditions. I saw a connection and had a theory and wanted to share it with all of you.
What are your thoughts and theories? Do you have a kink that developed from a trauma? A kink that developed another way? No kinks? I’d love to hear from you. Thanks for reading.
What Girls & Guys Said
11 43I’m so surprised you didn’t mention foot fetishes. Any ideas on that?
Yup! Read part 2 :)
I can't find it
How Other Kinks are Formed: A Follow-Up to my Previous MyTake ↗
What about pee fetish or Rimjob
Good question. I see fetishes differently from kinks. I think the ones you mentioned are just people being sexually adventurous.
Most of these are hot kinks, and small penis humiliation is the hottest, I agree with you that when specific condition apply to person it might become his kink.
What’s your kinks and why
I am still uncircumcised... I don't like circumcision but my foreskin very tight
Should When I pee pull back my foreskin everytime
I’ve said this many times. See a doctor and don’t force it.
Thank you very much
Circumcision kink interesting.
Maybe dunno
I absolutely, 100% agree - in my experience, my niche kink stems directly from something I experienced that was difficult initially.
Where are you from🤔
@Recinhoo where are YOU from? 😂
guess 😂
@Recinhoo Brazil?
I like to be dominated and I feel like it might stem from being sexually assaulted as a kid. The thought of it stemming from that makes me feel sick
❤️❤️❤️❤️ I am really sorry. Your body did an amazing thing helping you recover from that.
I used to hate my penis and wanted it gone as a child I was often humiliated and threatened and punished for masturbating
Precisely what I am talking about
Ye I think it's horrible to humiliate an punish a child for that it really scarred me
It is horrible. Child abuse in my opinion. I am sorry.
Yes my mom took the door of my bedroom would have one of my sister's keep watch on me
The worst was when I was like 14 I would sneak off to this little garden shed we had a do it in there. Till one day my mom cought me made me strip naked an told me if I wanted to do it so bad. Now you can do it in front of everyone. So I had to masturbate with my hole family watching. It was so embarrassing I wanted to die. But I didn't do it for a long time after that. And I still have a lot of resentment for her
That is really abusive. Your mother sounds mentally ill tbh.
I don't no if somethin bad happened to her or what but it was like she hated me because I had a penis
Maybe she was abused by a male as a child. 😔
I was definitely treated differently then my sisters were
That could be but I don't really care
It’s no excuse to treat you abusively. I hope by “I don’t really care” you mean you came to terms with it. It was not your fault.
By that I mean I don't care what her reason was an I don't care about her
Understandable the way she treated you
Oh, that's quite interesting!
I have a fetish too, some people would think it's weird, but I think it's hot as hell.
My fetish is about seeing a woman dominate a white girl, sit on the white girl's face and make her swallow her farts. She must turn the white girl into her Fart Slave B*tch.
I'd enjoy watching white girls get beaten by a dom woman as well.
Any theory about those fetishes?
Hmmm. Why white girl and what is the race of the dom? That is a very specific fetish.
I can tell you how I think mine developed if you think it would help your theory.
Yes! Please do! I would love to hear. Follow and pm if you would like.
I sent a follow but I can’t pm it looks like
No worries. I found you. Send a reply. :)