Sexual Surrogate Partners - Prostitution In Disguise?

Question

Wikipedia says the following about Sexual Surrogate Partners:

"Sex surrogates, sometimes referred to as surrogate partners, are practitioners trained in addressing issues of intimacy and sexuality. A surrogate partner works in collaboration with a therapist to meet the goals of their client..."

Some sex surrogates are known to go up to having sexual activity with their patients.

While the primary goal of the therapist is noble in helping people with their sexual problems, the fact that those surrogate partners are on a payroll makes them official prostitutes according to the definition of the term and should therefore be punished by law in many countries or states.

What are your views on that controversial situation?

Sexual Surrogate Partners - Prostitution In Disguise?

TarrAva · Accepted Answer

While it is correct that prostitution is illegal in many areas of the world, surrogate sexual partners are trained and certified medical personnel whose primary aim is to assist those with sexual disabilities and to a certain extend with major sexual issues impacting their daily intimate relations within the couple.

In most cases, therapy is done with the regular partner when the patient is in therapy.

The sexual surrogate partner would most probably only intervene on patients not in a relation or having a regular sexual partner. Also, it is my understanding that those therapists are not having sexual, full penetrative intercourse, but then, I am not a MD or psychologist.

One may think that if there is a consensual sexual penetration from the therapist (male or female) one would not consider it as prostitution since the primary aim at the therapy is not the personal enrichment by the therapist resulting in sexual intercourse in the same context as prostitution would.

Although prostitutes are a very important group of persons that are indirectly responsible for potentially lowering criminality by selling their body to people that otherwise could commit either domestic violence or worse. They should be credited and respected much more for the ungrateful work and the immense risks they are taking. Most of them are victims and there always a tragedy behind their choice (deliberate or not) to perform that profession.

ashley_85 · Accepted Answer

Just a question but so I'm new to the concept of a sexual surrogate is this really a thing everywhere?

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

First off, surrogates are not the same. There are men that have serious mental / emotional issues with sex and women. They are trained and educated on a lot more then sex.
Second, why is it that I can't go up and offer a woman $XXX for sex, but yet I can take her to dinner, drinks, etc... and if she has sex with me, that is somehow different? Or I can pay her $XXX, turn on a camera, and now I am a movie maker, not a john?
Now I could never go to a whore because the word just makes me think of a large swirling mass of STD's. Even though the pro's get tested often. But I was married 25 years. I have been single 5. I am enjoying being single. Sure I have dated now and then, but overall, I like being able to do what I want, when I want, and not have to deal with all the shit. The only 2 things that suck is that it gets lonely and I miss sex. So it is nice to have a woman to talk to and do things with. Sex is such a tiny, though important, part of a relationship. The only people that think it is the be all/ end all of a relationship is young people. For me, I really don't care all that much about the sex. 1x or 2x a month would be more then plenty most of the time.

Drumlin2001 · Accepted Answer

For some people with real mental blocks it can be a real difficult journey to meet someone, break down the repressed desires to be intimate with someone. I was a 35yr old birgin. I looked onto surrogate partners a few times. I had some psycho therapy for some other stuff, we touched on this area. I was fortunate, i had met someone who i had had an odd friendship/relationship with for 7/8 months. My journey to being intimate, took a lot of soul searching and some tough conversations, took me a couple of months with her to get there. Without her, the idea of meeting a complete stranger, telling them everything, it would have been really tough. I would have considered a surrogate. Its a form of therapy. Its not prostitution in the sense of doing it for pleasure

Kurαȷ · Answer

I have never heard of this before.
I looked up some "surrogate partners" and it seems they are just glorified whores whose "qualifications" include being liberal and traveling to India to learn tantric practices.
No real medical qualifications of any kind, of course.

So, yep, seems just like a loophole to sell sex.

Dargil · Answer

I think it is institutionalized prostitution. Some men go to them for socio-sexual therapy and surrogates do a better job because they are trained and don't bring "the life" with them. I don't oppose it. It is consenting adults exchanging value.
Look at it this way, Hospice is carefully regulated euthanasia. They don't kill patients. They enable them to die peacefully.
Surrogates enable a man to become sexualized without the trauma of conventional prostitution,

Makeushiver · Answer

Usually sex surrogates work with licensed sexologists. I've used one for learning Yoni massage. In order to know what you are doing you need to practice on someone since there is only a small portion of learning it that is academic. She got well paid for having multiple orgasms which isn't a bad deal.

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genericname85 · Answer

no, cause you don't fuck the surrogate partners... if your wife can't have a child, you can have a surrogate mother but you don't fuck her. it's gonna be artificial insemination.