Sexual things a male and female can do together without using the female's sex organs?

Looking for ideas. Do you know any fun sexual activities a male and female can do together that don't use the vagina/clit or the female's boobs/nipples?

The main ones I can think of are ass-related, which is fun but I'd also like to try some different things. Maybe something involving toys?

Thanks for any help.

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  • Partner dancing is inherently sexual. Girls can and do orgasm during it and guys can ejaculate. For men it is essentially frotage - dry humping to music in other words.

    A back to front dance i. e. the girl's ass to the guy's groin is pretty good fun. You've disallowed breast/nipple contact which limit where the guys hands can roam - and is disappointing frankly. Wrapping her body to yours is I presumed allowed. Feeling the movement of the girls body against you is damned hot exciting tease.

    I do think you should allow hand roaming over your front.

    I've only known girls to orgasm in between partner front to front dance. Between partner means her leg is between his legs and his leg is between her leg and she pivots on his thigh.

    The first time a girl orgasmed, came as a big surprise to me and I was pretty much WTF? Obviously something to explore and it turned out to be highly repeatable.

    OK the steps along the way. Starts conventionally with the girls hands on the guys shoulders and the guy's hand on and around her waist. As both get more relaxed into the rhythm, the girl's hands tend to go to the guy's neck and she sort of hangs from it. In time, the girl gets more relaxed and her back arches so she is hanging at full arms length from his neck with her breasts pointing delightfully skyward.

    At this point if I ran my hand from her waist up and over her breast she would orgasm.

    It is quite mysterious as to why. My thigh would be between her legs for some time leading to this but it was not as if there was direct contact with her pussy/clitoris so that doesn't seem causal. I think the relaxed state the girl gets into is highly helpful and breast orgasms are a thing.

    Rhythm seems to be important to orgasm according to a researcher Adam Safron (google rhythm + Safron). This skill never did me any good as the girls were embarrassed and not so interested in my horizontale mambo as I had hoped.

    Anyway you might enjoy exploring and not be embarrassed by public orgasms. Good luck!

    • Ooh that sounds really fun and sexy, I'll definitely look more into it. As for hands on the front or dancing front to front that wouldn't be an issue cuz there are no breasts to touch, tho leg between leg could be difficult but hey it's worth a shot at least. Thank you for the advice! I'll bring this up and hopefully we can try it at least in private if not at a dance class or something else.

    • Partner dancing is sex on a stick :)

      The between leg thing isn't difficult. It is so you move together as one. Your groin is on his right thigh. As he steps forward on his right you feel that on your right inside thigh and move it back otherwise you might step on each others toes. Keep the body contact the whole time. No space between you.

      I had a look for a YT but i was all too non-dirty with too much space space between partner. If you look at 0:10 to 0:30 in the first clip you'll see how close. Her pussy is on his thigh! But ignore the turns they are doing. My super slow mambo just goes backwards and forwards turning slowly to the right. It is slow for the reason of just relaxing into the rhythm. None of the turns, twirls and speed of a real mabo - make it super slow and pick slower music. I'd have both my hands on her waist and hips to pull in tight to my thigh and her arms on my shoulders. Dance it about a beat a second. It's OK for your right thigh to brush his testicles :)

      The slow dance next is a bit more like it but I'd step forward and backward instead of sway. More thigh.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qk6-eWYveO0

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1qp7r99DcE&t=444s

    • Yes that's what I mean, direct contact with the pussy is not what we're wanting. Maybe close but not actually against the leg would work tho? I don't know but it still all sounds very sensual and I'm sure some version of it would work even if not the exact same moves. It looks very nice in the videos & not too complicated to learn or at least start, so thank you again! I definitely want to try this soon.

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  • Ideas:

    1) naked chefs - cook, eat, clean together, naked. Remember to close all the curtains.

    2) shower of blessings - lather, wash, dry each other in the bath room. Make sure all body parts are washed, throughly.

    3) Cruise two no-wear - wear a butt blug for each other then go for an hour or two (train) ride. No underwear. Eat in the destination cafe. Then wash and lube up again. Wear a bigger size plug back.

    4) hips don't lie - play a game of chance. Loser has to pose by lowering a body part onto the floor, except the hips. The rest is your creativity.

    5) Eros Tour - visit any part of the naked body, except the private parts. And come out with an act for it the next time you have sex.

    Have fun!

Most Helpful Girl

  • Foot worship, guy can always suck your toes!
    Clothed facesitting I guess too.

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  • I think it's strange you wanna do ass things, but not the other parts that would turn both of you guys on. I get not PIV since it sounds like you aren't ready for that... But boobs, nipples, fingering and oral sex (when you are ready), aren't that bad if you're already thinking of butt stuff.

    • It's not an intensity issue as we've done all that stuff before. It's just a personal preference.

  • Watching each other masturbate from across the room.

    Buying a male masturbater and using it on him

    Strip poker or any gambling, board or video game mixed with disrobing.

    Naked Twister

    Giving each other erotic massages.

    BDSM or Shibari (Rope play) but learn the safety rules first and do your homework.

    Laying across from one another naked and telling each other your sexual fantasies.

    Reading a steamy romance novel to each other while potentially using it as a script for roleplay that doesn't cross your boundaries.

    Going to a burlesque show.

    Letting him watch porn while you touch him in ways similar to what he sees on the screen. Even better if he has a VR headset.

  • You can try role play, but make it dressing up and meeting in hotel or in pub or something, flirt with each other,

    dress up in something sexy or job related, role play it out. Then there is oral on the guy linked to the role play.

    depending on both parties kinks there are other things than can be tried.

    • Role play maybe could be fun, I don't know if I'd want to do it in public though. Thanks for suggestion!

    • It’s fun in public, as it’s pretty much acting, living out a mini fantasy. The risk and the being in the open make it more erotic and fun.

    • That does sound kinda fun.. I don't know. I will consider it though fs

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  • Massages or whipped cream

  • I didn't see blow jobs mentioned but that seems like an obvious one.

  • Not on my menu, but anal intercourse.

  • for the female doing the guy there are all sorts of thing, hand, blow footjob, all sorts of fun things to do, but in return if the guy is stuck in a no-fly zone there isn't much they could do to a female to make her eyes roll back in her head and speak in tongues because the fun zone is off limits.
    Even the best results for toys are off limit.
    So it would be a pretty one sided event.

    • Yeah that's kind of what I'm worried about. I know you can stimulate anally even though technically it's in the vagina, but besides that there's not much explicitly sexual areas left to work with.

    • so why is there a no trespassing zone? just asking, you can still have clothes on and manual stimulation, vibrator without any penetration. If you don't feel like answering that is fine. Just curious that's all.

    • Well the vagina one is because of personal/internal reasons, just causes bad feelings. The boobs one is just because there's no boobs so it's not an option. 🤷‍♀️

  • Watch pornos, play strip poker, take naked walks, skinny dip, ride bikes naked, play volleyball naked, go to a nude beach or join a nudist colony. nude sunbathing, talk about each other sexually.

  • Blowjob, hand job, anal, put on a show for him while he masturbates, prostate massage, pegging, footjob if he has a foot fetish.

    What are you willing to do? Blowjob or anal seems like the logical option, are you comfortable with that?

    • Yeah blowjob and anal are good.

    • Yep love a good blowjob and no chance of pregnancy from it so win win.

  • Use your hands, mouth, or toys, but obviously that won't help you. Please feel free to DM if you wish.

  • Just use the parts, there's really no point of avoiding it if you are willing to give up the other holes

    • It's not some weird virginity thing, it's just an arousal thing. Why should we use those parts if the person who has them is turned off by it?

    • If it's like that then the person just sounds gay, they like booty but not pussy, if he is gay then maybe you are just wasting your time

    • Look man if it was my parts I would agree, I'd just use them. I honestly don't understand it. But it's not my parts and I don't have to understand the reasoning to respect the decision to not use them. Sexuality is a different issue and we've already gone over that, thanks for the suggestion tho.

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  • Hsndjob, oral as inblowjob, foot job, anal

  • Toys are great. Shower with facecloth / hot towel massage is 🔥🔥🔥. Facial massage is SO relaxing - cheekbones and ears. Food can work or ice cubes / hot stuff. Body paint or oil is FANTASTIC! LMK how it goes!

  • Yeah fingers are pretty sensitive maybe rubbing you stomach and hips, maybe a little kissing on your neck or that special part by the shoulder blade. Also caressing your hair czn also be a turn on maybe tangle each other legs together.

  • Toys that don't involve her tits or pussy? Most toys are designed for that, unless she's into pain, humiliation, and/or discipline. If she is, there's a lot you can do, besd on how far she's willing to go with it.

  • Oral
    Handjob
    Use a vibe to stimulate him

  • Are boobs sex organs?

    • Secondary sex organs, I think

  • Guys can cum anywhere. No toys needed.

  • talking about the future of italy and watching the novel grow again

    • Dirty talk is definitely fun, but I was thinking more of physical things to do, maybe while talking or watching something sexual but not necessarily.

  • sure - she can give him a blow job.

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