Sexually confident women are scary to men? 🤔?

Men claim to love sluts, but do they really? How many men can say they're comfortable with a woman that's had several sexual partners and engages in casual sex outside of relationships? Why do/don't you like this?
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  • You're conflating two different things.

    GENERALLY (and that means that there are exceptions), men prefer women they want to DATE/be in relationship with to have fewer sexual partners, and in particular, to have less/little in the way of casual sex. This is because being in a relationship means being emotionally vulnerable - trusting her not to hurt or deceive you - and men are not used to being emotionally vulnerable and generally avoid being emotionally vulnerable. It takes a lot of trust to allow that, and so we tend to only want relationships with women who respect boundaries.

    However, (and, yes, there is some hypocrisy here, I'm not denying it), most men who AREN'T in a relationship still have a strong sex drive and are perfectly happy to have casual sex in between relationships - and for girls who you are only having casual sex with, sluts are great, because you can get casual sex without a lot of hassles or expectations. Thus, the "men like sluts" concept - except, that's not the whole sentence. The whole sentence is "men like sluts when they are only looking for casual sex." When they are looking for a relationship, they will NOT be looking at sluts.

    Sexual confidence is a different issue. Plenty of men think it's great in a woman, but some men are intimidated by it, and a few even turned off by it.

    • This is an amazing answer

    • I'm glad I didn't offend you - I wasn't trying to - and that you took my answer in the way I intended. 👍

  • There are so many misconceptions sweeties - let me take them one by one -
    1. Men love to fuck sluts - not really love them.
    2. Sexually confident women does not mean that they spread their pussies for random dicks - sexually confidance means to be proud of her sexuality and not being shy or ashamed to have a female genitals. Its about loving and enjoying the sexuality. It does not mean to be a slut for dicks.
    3. Relationship is faith - one who ventures sexually outside is a cheater and not worthy of any relationship. If you think that relatioship is about dick and pussy then there is a serious issue.
    4. Do you love a man who fucks girls when in a relationship with you.

    We love sexually confident women and we are not scared of them. It is just that we love women who are proud of their sexuality but its not about being a slut.

    • I worded this badly, but that's more so what I was going for. Not so much about body count, one night stands, amount of partners etc.

    • Dear, I love women who are sexually confident and know what a relationship would be. Though if on some point she gets so horny and had a one night stand - there is nothing to bother me. Love is relationship and a body count can not break it if she is really into me.

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  • Being sexually confident is different from being slutty.

    For example a monogamous wife who married as a virgin mastered her sexual confidence after a decade with her husband.

    But a slutty girl could be lustful for sex but not sexually confident.

    She may pretend to be "confident" by imitating porn stars. But it's a turnoff to many guys.

    We can tell between enthusiastic sexual confidence from pretentious slutty acts.

    The former is attractive, while the latter scary.

  • Men like women who are sexually confident like this

    Sexually confident women are scary to men? 🤔?



    Aka seductive. We want to be seduced. The ammount of sexual partners Has very little to do with it unless you go around bragging how many guys you fucked.

  • A sexually confident woman can be a turn on. However, a sexually aggressive woman may not be.

  • I'm fine with it.

    I like it because it makes us compatible.

  • maybe it's the type of men that are in the area, tbh
    it might be different in a different area, but i dont see anything wrong with you on looks, I can't comment on your personality though as I do not know you

  • For me its that in social situations I'm not used to a woman doing the moves. In nonsocial situations I love it and wish more women were that way.

    Its like ridding a skateboard backwards its hard till your used to it.

    Is that how it goes with you sometimes?

    • Shit yeah, I will like approach a guy in public. I've asked guys out too

    • For some that is a huge issue to thier ego. For me I enjoy it and date the girl if she does that. Dating is so hard cause we have no idea what the other wants or likes. Sometimes is just a small thing that kills it.

    • Yeah, I've had made tell me I emasculated them

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  • It totally doesn't bother me, if she wants to engage in casual sexual encounters outside of relationships then go for it. So long as she's loyal once in one then it doesn't bother me

  • Men love sluts as they provide easy access to sex. But they don't want slutty women for committed relationships / family building.

  • I could care less. This is a non-issue for me.

  • Well I’m abstinent so I’d like my partner to be too... but if she’s been Around a time or two and is willing to wait until marriage, then I won’t mind

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