Sexy vs Slutty - the Difference and Similarities

Sexy vs Slutty - the Difference and Similarities

Why do these two terms get confused? I'm just working through this train of thought after I read a question on here. My apologies if the argument seems scattered, but I would welcome discussion and opinions on this matter.

Slutty would be more of an internal desire to attract attention by the way a female acts, dresses, talks, etc. She may be just trying to tease through these various factors or attempting to procure a sexual experience as a result.

Sexy would be the way a woman carries herself that isn't so much a lascivious desire on her part for sexual fulfilment but portraying a confidence in the manner that she dresses or looks.

I could dress up to go out with my female friends and manage to make myself feel sexy, which doesn't mean I'll feel slutty. Also, I could just feel sexy based on the underwear I may or may not be wearing, which wouldn't be privvy to anyone else. I could shave my legs, wax my bikini line, etc to feel sexy for no one else than myself. So is being sexy more of an internal thing, whilst slutty is being projected outwads for attention?

Could I be dressed or behaving in a sexy and slutty fashion? Is it possible to have both? For some reason I have always seemed to consdier them as separate adjectives, almost degrees of sexual appeal. I could be sexy, very sexy and if I was actually after sex, then I could turn up the notch to slutty.

Clothes could also be labelled as such (for it is really just a label, isn't it?), with a mini skirt being sexy, and a micro skirt being slutty, especially if the lower curve of my ass cheeks are revealed. A low cut top that is only being held in place by two-sided tape - that's debatable, as you'll see celebrities wearing such garments on the red carpet, but you will never hear or read fashion commentators as saying that it's slutty. They might say provocative, call it a fashion faux pas, label it as revealing, but never say it's slutty. So, do the terms also depend on who is pulling off the sexy or slutty look? If so, objectiveness is out the window, and those words may or may not be thrown about not with the definition by which they were originally intended, but by how we want to create the most effect.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Okay.
    Sexy
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    Slutty
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    Not so much the women's looks or their bodies but how they present themselves.

    • Nice examples of both...

    • I like the 2 one way better but that bra is making her boobs way bigger then they actually are

    • I'm talking about how the women look. Just the way they're presenting themselves with wardrobe choice.

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  • Nicely said, particularly toward the end where the scatter seems to have settled. Good job!!

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  • I think when a woman feels sexy and confident in herself, guys pick up on it and find her sexier than the slutty girl who's trying so hard for his attention. Sexy girls are more mature and mysterious, they leave the guy wondering, whereas slutty girls throw themselves at men and constantly look like they're ready for sex.

    • I like that, the mysterious aspect... sometimes it's what we don't show that is desired

  • I think the difference is in behaviour. You could have two twins dressed up the exact same way on a night out. For argument's sake say they are both looking for sex. One acts like a lady and knows that she'll get attention. All she has to do is wait and then be selective about who she returns the attention to. That's sexy.

    Slutty is acting like a horny teenager.

  • So is Beyonce sexy, or slutty?

    • That's a good question... I think the question would be based upon the event or character she's trying to pull off at the time... I know that last year a girl band, Warpaint, had labelled both Beyoncé and Rihanna as slutty. If you look at Beyoncé's performance at the Grammy's, how would you describe her?

  • Yes, I agree with u. There r sexy models in our country who have perfect body line and take photos sexily. As our country is a little old-fashioned, most of the people gossip about them as they think women who wear or act in a sexy way are sluts. But, in fact, the fact u talked is the truth. Being sexy and slutty has a great difference between them.

    • Could sexy be more than just looks?

  • i think you are right, they are 2 very different things!!!
    Slutty implies that a girl doesn't have self respect and sleeps around with many partners

    Sexy implies that the woman is very attractive in a sexual manner

    • Interesting point of view... so, sexy is appealing while slutty is not?

    • well slutty is appealing to certain guys who just want to have some fun and sex To me sexy is more appealing it shows a willingness to have fun without jeopardizing self respect usually slutty girls are a little too out there, with the way they dress and behave...

    • You've expanded on that nicely

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  • I agree with @jag420. Sexy is alluring, while slutty is invasive to others' comfort.

    • True, slutty is a bit more 'in your face'

  • I'd do both, sexy & slutty if I met them at a bar :)

  • Sexy: you want to fuck her.
    Slutty: you KNOW you can fuck her without necessarily wanting it.

  • Slutty needs attention while Sexy draws attention. Slutty relies purely on physical stimulation while sexy uses her personality to enhance her physical attributes

    • So, sexy and slutty has to do with the subtlety of attraction, or lack thereof as the case may be?

    • More in the way they deal with their sex appeal through their attitude and ways they go about using it

  • Tis terminology is utterly ridiculous.
    There's nothing to be slutty but only mindset.

  • sexy is coy, clever and classy
    slutty is the exact oppostie brazen, dumb/desparate and trashy.

    • I like that distinction

  • Love the slutty look

  • I like tha slutty look

  • I feel like the big distinction here, is that women see the difference and most men don't. Because to us Sexy girls are very desirable, and therefore must be having loads of sex with guys which therein makes them sluts. I know it is super shallow, and I try not to think hat way, but my reaction when I see a girl dressed sexy or slutty is that she is slutty and I don't take her serious.

    • So, in your opinion, a lady can't be sexy and classy?

    • I don't think think slutty and classy have to be exclusive either. But classy for me can mean two things. One would be like a really nice dress, which depending on how she ears it, could be sexy and therefore slutty. classy could also mean reserved or conservatively dressed, which is not sexy and therefore not slutty (but can be cute).