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Shall I leave them both and just focus on myself?

I had a friends with benefits since June and he said he does not want a relationship and just uses me and we go out to hotels and then he just leaves straight after and drops me home so i always feel a bit sad. If i had a friends with benefits i’d want to go out with them and have the friends part. Anyways i started getting close to his brother and me and his brother have kissed many times and been spending time together. They both don’t talk so i have no clue if my friends with benefits knows. Although the brother does know. But the brother does not want a relationship since he just gave out of one and my friends with benefits always ignores me when he is dating someone which hurts. I really want the brother though and we have been speaking everyday for a week but i know he has just came out of a relationship from 3 years. Shall i just leave them both or carry on trying with the one i want? my friends with benefits is ignoring me at the moment though so it makes it easier to speak to his brother
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Superb Opinion

  • Unfortunately someone always catches feelings in a friends with benefits situation. Never fails. Since you have feelings for the friends with benefits guy and he ignores you except for the sex, I would just move on from it. There is nothing to be gained further. End of story.


    Now, as for the brother, you are free to do what you want so give it a try, if you want. However, you’ll need to be understanding of his situation of coming out a relationship and don’t push him and set yourself up for failure. Take it slow.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Why be friends with benefits if you want more then that he dont use you he simply does what the arrangement is and as for the brother I'm not sure why you thought more would come from it if the brother was fine with you fucking the friends with benefits and not caring he was never gonna get with you

    • The arrangement wasn’t to just have sex it was to go out for food and stuff yet he’s never taking me out. Also the two brothers don’t talk they had an argument once and never really spoken after that.

    • Yet you stayed with him after you found out it was only sex so you allowed that to happen even if the brothers don't talk why would u fuck one and want to date the other it seems any guy that gives you attention you want to be with

    • I did not know that i’d end up wanting something with the brother. Me and my friends with benefits met about 6 months ago and i just met his brother a month ago at my friends party. if i were to get with the brother id delete his brother (friends with benefits) off everything

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Most Helpful Girl

  • That’s not your friends with benefits that’s a dude that’s using you. I would date the brother out of spite and cause he’s a user. But that’s me I’m petty as hell. But definitely get rid of the user he’s not even your friend he’s just using you as a toilet

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  • I would leave them both. This sounds like it could get very unpleasant if you stay. Also you deserve to get what you want and to be treated better. Right now you're effectively a play thing. If someone really likes you they enter into a relationship with you

  • Yeah

  • That’s a decision you must make for yourself.
    If you want a boyfriend, then end the friends with benefits.

  • Dump them both and move on you know you deserve better

  • are you an ugly woman?

    • No not at all lol

    • Then you have all life ahead you there are many great people out there

  • wtf did i just read? what kind of brother is that? the one u kissed, has to be some weird as brother, i honestly feel sorry for the friend with benefits

    and by the way friends with benefits isn't to be in a relationship
    you guys bang bang and bye bye till the next bang bang
    i never went out with any of my friends with benefits

    • They don’t talk so i don’t think they have loyalties to one another

  • Yeah I would try to move on if I was u.

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