She wants me to breed her and leave her?

I met her on Tinder, she had a few bad experiences with her previous boyfriends, she just wanted someone to be with, some kind of male best friend. A few months later, we spent a good night together. After a couple of nights, she said she wanted it to stop, because she didn't want to develop feelings. But she was so happy with me and how it went that she didn't want to forget me, or have another guy after me, so she asked me to breed her and leave. I spent a week trying to get her pregnant, she's not, and I'm beginning to regret my choice. So, I wanted to know. Am I doing something which is wrong? Is it dangerous legally for me? (my best friend told me she might want me to pay some kind of money regularly for the child) I know her well enough to trust her with that, but I still have a little doubt and I'd like to protect myself, because I'm definitely not ready to be a father. Thanks for your advices
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  • Why would you want to have a child that grows up without you. She is clearly not in any right mind herself If she wants this for her child. Unfortunately some of us arnt lucky enough to even have the option the men/women just choose to leave without having a choice as you are being given. But don’t do it. She didn’t want you. She clearly dosnt no what it is she wants. Don’t be doing this unless you want this women in your life. And yes you will be paying for the child for 18 year... and yes you will be expected to be a parent besides you will be a dad weather uou like it or not. If you like the idea of having children but not having them yourself go and e a spent doner there is many women who can’t have children with there current partner or lesbian women that would love a child... don’t mess it up with her. X

  • Just tell her your not ready for being a father be honest with her tell her you do want to be there for her but as a friend not a boyfriend if you feel pressured into anything don’t let her control you tell her you can’t give her a baby because you don’t feel the same way as she does at the end of the day are you gonna be able to see the child? Will she let you? I’m very concerned that your gonna get hurt and I wouldn’t want that

    • Thank you

    • No problem

  • It’s probably best to get something in writing saying she won’t come after you for child support or whatever the terms of your agreement is. It’s best to listen to your buddy as that could go south fast.

    • What do I need to give legal value to this paper?

    • A witnesses signature, her signature, and your own agreeing to any and all terms written down.

    • Thanks

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  • You'd be a fool to get her pregnant bro. She can fuck you over in the courts afterwards and demand child support from you afterwards. If a woman ever has an agenda like that, they need to go to a sperm bank if they simply just want to get pregnant and have a child. Never ever let any girl do that to you ever again. Perhaps one of you are infertile for some reason and no pregnancy happened this time, so you've been warned. You would quickly regret it when and if she ever turns on you, because you won't know for certain only until after she is already pregnant.

  • Yeah you've stepped in it a bit. If you're not ready to be a father, or able/want to pay child support, don't get involved with her anymore. You don't have to be married to be required to pay child support. It seems like she doesn't want a friend anymore, so why are you taking friend requests? And if you have regrets don't do it anymore, it's probably for the best for you to both go your separate ways.

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  • That is a really stupid thing to do.

  • WTF is wrong with you? If you get her pregnant you are legally liable to financially support her and the child. You fucked up!

  • Just no, "breed her and leave her" that sounds to weird there are better more legal ways such as sperm back, you wouldn't have and legal obligation with the child of you don't want it

  • If you're not ready to be a father, DONT BREED WITH HER. Why is that even a question?

  • I wouldn’t do it in case somewhere down the road she uses your future shared child to hold over your head.

  • yeah that's messed up, clearly she has issues and yes if you get her pregnant you will be forced to pay child support if she asks it and you cannot fight it. Either get her into a relationship if you really like her OR leave because you don't want some one that messed up in your life because it will ruin your life.

  • It depends on the individual.
    When I decide to have a kid one day I will do that same thing.
    I want nothing to do with the male afterwards, just wanted the pregnancy.

    • Thanks, but how are you going to prove to the "semen provider" that you're never going to come back and ask for money? The idea of the legal contract is kind of attractive, but I'm always open to other solutions

    • The man will never know I'm pregnant. And if he finds out I am, I'll just say it was from another man.

    • Ok, thanks for your opinion

  • When u try and get someone pregnant, it's not just u and her it's u, her and the child. Remember that, or one day the kid will grow up and come back to haunt u.

  • Yup, definitely not a bright move. And yes, you could be held legally liable for the child.

  • I think she already pregnant just m doesn't know father maybe know but daddy doesn't. care

  • I swear to God, getting screwed over is becoming its own fetish. 😑

  • Its not illegal in any sense but watch out for the maintainence if she changes her mind. Breeding is quite common in the fetish world but do not do this unless u have 110% trust in not only her sticking to it but also you trying to get in touch later. Its a lifestyle only for the strong minded. B very very careful

  • Very risky in the future the child will probably want to know it's father you ready for that plus there could be medical and financial implications for you

    • Ok, thank you

    • Your welcome I really hope you sort it out

    • May i ask you every woman wants to breed whoever have to accept this?

  • Don’t do it. Just don’t. She wants a kid she can go to a clinic and get a sperm donor.
    I’ve heard borderline horror stories of women entrapping men.
    Not to say she means to do that right now, but later on when she realizes the power she has over you, it might come to that.
    I really just would not.

  • In most countries yes - you would be liable for child support not only for 18 years but also through school beyond and, if the child has a disability, for life. The mother cannot actually waive this claim and it could be claimed 15 years in the future that you’ve owed it all along.

  • You're ok with being a deadbeat dad? People who do not want to be parents should not be, simple as that!