Should a girl be concerned with a guys body count in the past?

[Anonymous]

[razelove]

Yes, women get a lot more shit about that then men, but being a slut is universal in my book. I know I was a complete slut for a long time, to the point I don't know how many women I slept with, just that it's low triple digits. You pick up a lot of STDs that way, even if you do wear a condom.
That shit should be concerning, you've got HPV, which guys can't get tested for, herpes which can be a false negative, hep C is lifelong unless you spend, I think 50k to get the cure, there is no vaccine.
I just got extremely lucky and only picked up bacterial ones and herpes. Still, the mentality from that is one that doesn't go away easy, when I go to another city or meet new people the instinct is to use a fake name (if you knock a woman up it's the safest protection). The idea that you can always toss someone away when it gets tough was one to battle for a long time as well, I've been married for over a decade, but it wasn't until we had kids that I felt replacing her was no longer an option.
I'd say it is something you should be concerned about.
Personally I think the people who start sleeping around should be more concerned about the consequences of their actions. It's something you can just lie about when getting with others, but not to yourself. I don't regret it, but at the same time feel like if I'd have spent that much time doing pretty much anything else it would have had a more positive yield.

[MementoMori777]

I don't think I have the answer to this but it depends on the person I would assume, if someone is willing to just ignore the past then I won't see why they would have a problem starting something with the person but I would think most people don't forget the past so that would mean they probably wouldn't want to start something with that person, it all depends if you want to let such past go and try to forget about it.

[Simslover92]

Yes. I wouldn't want a guy with a high body count. Luckily I found a guy whose body count is pretty low like mines.

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on his age, his body count, and how recent they were. If he poked three different girls last week, you damned sure should be concerned.

[Summeroflove]

It’s reasonable to not want to date a whore

[Asker]

What about the guy having the high body count and not the girl.. double standard of society thinks it’s only wrong the girl has it bad on her end but what if she has a low body count and his is high? I think that’s a male whore.

[Summeroflove]

No Asker nowhere did I say that. Please don’t put words in my mouth. If you read what I say. I’m equally disgusted by men who do it. It’s not how I live and I don’t want a whore woman. I think it’s totally reasonable for a woman not to want to date a man whore or a fuck boy

[DJB72]

Yes.

Even if it's only a few, can you ever really be sure he's not with one of them in his head? Can he say the same?

I'm 51 now. If my marriage ended - no matter by death or divorce - I'd want to remarry if I find another woman I love, but if she's had more men than birthdays that's a hard no.

[Cj_Shway]

nahh

[Bricealan]

Guys tell BS anyway. So women should believe about half of what they say.

[glennos89]

Someone's Body Count tells a lot about a person. The more sex partners someone has makes you certainly a less special that's for sure. Personally I wouldn't want someone that fucks everyone. So I like my girl to have a little as possible in their body count.

[megabamse]

Could be a good idea. It all depends on how many and over what amount if time.

[Kabluie]

Never, and it works the other way around with girls, as long as they are safe, STI-free is all that matters.

[Sparkie460]

Chances are the guy has a high body count.

[Asker]

He does, should I see it as a red flag of dating him?

[Sparkie460]

I would be cautious going forward with him. Is he just trying to use you for sex or is he looking for a relationship? Let's call it a yellow flag

[Asker]

Yeah.. same. He mentioned at the time he was in a bad place emotionally and he lost count of how many girls he was messing with at the time. I didn’t know how to take it, I was just trying to be kind and understanding of his situation and that’s what I’ve been doing. My real concern is if one woman would be good enough for him and if would be able to commit to me if we ended up dating.

[Sparkie460]

That's what I would be concerned about too.

[hbg84]

Yea kinda. You never know how many dirty nasty std riddled women he had been with. If he's out banging more than one chick a year I'd be concerned.

[Asker]

We’re both 24, he’s the 4th guy I slept with, meanwhile he’s the same age and lost count after 20…yet most people assume a girl my age would have a high body count but all the guys I slept with I was either dating or in a relationship meanwhile he had this phase where he was sleeping around. Red flag?

[hbg84]

Huge red flag. I suggest you both have an std screening done.

[LogicBomber]

What?

[In_Trance]

None of her business

[Asker]

But it’s always a guys business for a girls?….

[In_Trance]

Absolutely not

[Guardian45]

Nope. Past is past. Talk about now & tomorrow!

[najekim]

IMHO, this "body count" crap, both guys & gals, is pointless and is only somewhat relevant IF the person wishes to disclose it willingly. Otherwise, it's past history that has no effect of the present. You're looking towards the future is what matters.

Folks thinking they "need to know" body counts are insecure about themselves and their own lives, IMHO.

[abc--123]

Nope.

[Greenbins]

No not at all.. it doesn't change his penis so it should matter

[karekaaaa]

Why?

[Anonymous]

Definitely, it shows how risky it is to have sex with someone.

[Anonymous]

Yes 💯% no sluts or mansluts

[Anonymous]

I think both genders should be.

[Asker]

If he has a high body count is it a red flag I shouldn’t date him?

[Asker]

He has over 20 girls and lost count last year, I’ve only slept with 3 guys, he’s the 4th. We’re both 24 but obviously mine is lower.

[Opinion Owner]

It would be to me. It's like I always say to women. If I'm talking to her I ASSUME she's a decent person. Decent means they don't sleep with people they don't love. So if a woman has for argument sake slept with 20 guys. Well then she's told 20 guys that she loves them right. Well how good is her word after 20 times? I mean if I'm 21 I have to assume there's going to be a 22 and I'm just temporary. So why would I choose her. You can apply the same logic to men.

[Asker]

The thing is, I’m trying to be kind and give him a chance and get to know him and not judge him for his past. I think at the time it was an addiction for him like he mentioned and he was having sex with different girls as he was single and messing around and he was in a bad place emotionally.. he is clean of any STDs and told me he’s always been responsible and gotten tested and of course in society it’s frowned upon if the woman is upset or were to feel insecure but my concern would be if he would be able to commit to only me and if one woman would be good enough for him..

[Opinion Owner]

Time will tell.