Should a "master" like/care for his "slut" in a bdsm relationship?

[Anonymous]

He's been my master for about half a year now and it's pretty awesome. Sexually, we're perfect for each other. The thing is I've never really been able to cut off feelings from sex and since the beginning I've always liked him. I had assumed he at least liked me a little too. For example, when I'm really against doing something he understands and backs down. He recently asked me why i liked him and im always very open about that kind of thing so i told him the many reasons why i did. I asked him why he liked me and he told me "who said I liked you, you serve me" that hurt a lot. I'm not sure if I should have expected it. Is this what a master/slut relationship is supposed to be?

[kheserthorpe]

I'm not sure there's any 'should'.

The only kind I would find appealing is where I used her and pushed her but also cared for her and treasured her. Where I wanted her to be the best she could be in all ways. Where I'd be proud of her. I don't want to push her down in general I want to raise her up which maybe makes my dominance over her even more thrilling. I think I'd find it hard to do long term without developing incredibly deep feelings. When I -used- her it would be thrilling because I know she's so much more then a sex object and her wanting to submitting to be one for me is amazing.

But that's me.

No doubt for some women that would be too caring and would ruin the whole thing.

Different strokes.

[Asker]

aww (: that's exactly what i want and had hoped for him and I... I guess that's not the way he sees it though.

[kheserthorpe]

I have no idea how common what I'd want is.

[Asker]

sigh i wish it was more common.

[gotc147]

It's a bit more common than you think.

[gotc147]

Depends on what the two partners are looking for.

This one is apparently not into it for a relationship, he's just looking for something to play with, which is fine if that's what you're looking for as well, but it doesn't seem like you are.

As a Dom, I find things to like about my subs, I might like their obedience, their discipline or their willingness to explore, or all of the above and more. This guy probably likes things about you (like the fact that you kneel to him) but it doesn't sound like you and he are on the same page, you need to talk to him and go from there.

If you're looking for a Dom to be in a serious relationship with, there are many to choose from.

[PrettyBama]

He probably does like and care about you but masters aren't always loving and caring. I think It's a persona of his choice.

You may want to transition to a daddy dom. They're more loving and caring. They punish but they are kind at the same time.

[Asker]

yeah i guess haha I wish i could find a youngish one tho lol

[PrettyBama]

I know a young daddy gagger.

[Asker]

oh ok lol

[Asker]

wow aha i actually found out today i slept with someone twice my age (he lied), and he's into the "daddy" thing unfortunately he's not dominant and not interested in trying ):

[PrettyBama]

So he just what's to be called daddy all say but not act like a daddy? 😂

[Frank_B]

He should care, since you are playing sex games, which can be fun but they are games, not reality, and that might be a good thing to remind your partner, along with the fact that in such sex games, complicity is very important, otherwise, those games quickly loose their meaning, and thus, their flavour. That's something your partner must learn, otherwise he will end up alone with regrets.

[spiffy11]

Yes that's it he's the master you serve him as a slut that's it he doesn't care only about being served

[Anonymous]

Wow. Lol. Yeah. Your his bitch. Just keep your mouth shut and wait until your contract is over.