Should I ask him before holding his hand if I know he'll have an erection from it?

[Anonymous]

Could be times or cases/places you guys don't want an erection right?

[bzcxx]

I personally don’t think guys get an erection from simply holdings hands. There’s nothing erotic or sexually arousing about it and so there’s no question whether or not he will get an erection. If he does, it’s probably because of something else: your outfit showing skin, sexual talk/flirting etc.
I’ve personally never experienced getting an erection from something as mild as hand-holding. Let me know if you have further questions.

[Asker]

Well it was dark and quiet and there were hardly five people very very far away from our seats in the movies last time. Could this be a stimulus and not hand holding?

[bzcxx]

Why would that be a stimulus? It has to be something erotic.

[Asker]

I seee... Then why did he get an erection hahaha

[bzcxx]

Well that’s why I said the most likely reason would be external stimulus or even his own imagination. I don’t think it’s the holding hands that caused the erection. He could have been thinking of naughty things LOL

[Asker]

oops

[moosesixty]

I don't know who told you that having an erection is a bad thing or that anyone minds having one wherever they're at listen I'll have an erection at a baby shower that's also a funeral for my mother like seriously I really don't care

[Kayla45]

I mean... If something that simple turns him on, then I'd say it's safe to assume that asking him first would be the right approach to that situation.

[Asker]

righttt... thanks!

[Kayla45]

Just a suggestion anyway, ultimately take whatever advice suits your goals.

[Asker]

I don't want to put him to embarrassing situation in public so I guess I'll ask

[God_of_Thunder]

I mean; I've never gotten an erection just from holding someone's hand, but if he does, then I guess it depends on the situation, and/or location.

If he gets hard that easily, then he should probably learn to control himself better, or he's going to have a lot of awkwardness in life. That just seems excessive, to me, but it's nice of you to be considerate of his situation.

[slatyb]

No, you shouldn't. If you want to take his hand, do it.

[bowenw]

Has this happened to him in the past with you?

[Asker]

yeah, we held hands recently for the first time and both of us were aroused. He had an erection (I guess) because he was covering his crotch with my clinical coat. There was a lot of energy. We were at the cinema and its dark there so it wasn't a hesitation scenario because of the dark place. I want to know if holding his hand would be okay in a public place in daylight.

[bowenw]

I think most adult guys can control it and holding hands is not normally enough to trigger one. Please feel free to PM if you wish.

[Asker]

He's 27. Adult yeah. but it's probably the first time for both of us to hold hands so a lot of energy

[bowenw]

I think you should just go for it. Hold hands and see what happens.

[Asker]

alright! thanks!

[bowenw]

I'm sure it will be fine.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, just go for it.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Lol give him a handy before hand holding
I had some pretty intense hormones growing up but couldn’t get a girlfriend till later in life.
I feel his pain

[Asker]

We want to practice abstinence till marriage, so hahaha that's not possible! but yeah first time holding hands for both of us is pretty arousing

[ambayside]

It could be quite uncomfortable for all at a swimming pool or the beach. Surely he can manage this himself?

[Asker]

can he manage it himself? I mean is that biologically possible for him?

[Anonymous]

wtf?