Should I be alarmed when my boyfriend suddenly want to use condom?

Question

My boyfriend n I have been dating for the past 6years but never use condom but suddenly he want to use condom! should I be worried he has someone else?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You should be concerned. That’s a red flag. One of two things is going on. He’s either having unprotected sex with other women and is trying to protect you from disease or he’s worried about pregnancy. Have you talked about wanting a baby? He may think for some reason that you’re trying to get pregnant against his wishes or your relationship could possibly be in trouble. I was with my ex for 2 years. We never used any precautions during sex other than my shot. One day he started pulling out. The first couple times I didn’t question it because I know guys like to sometimes cum on their girl but then he was doing it every single time. I was suspicious and kept questioning him about it and he’d just say he liked it better that way. It just didn’t feel right. Come to find out, he wasn’t happy with our relationship anymore but was keeping me around until he could find another regular partner. In the meantime, he didn’t want me to figure it out and try to trap him by getting pregnant. Try to talk to him about it but you may not get honest answers.

tinydiva1991 · Accepted Answer

Most definitely girl! Have him get tested !

ImHere22 · Accepted Answer

Okay, I'm not defending his actions - he should really talk to you about why exactly he's using a condom all of a sudden. My wife and I use condoms most of the time, but that's because we're not trying to get pregnant at this time. And also we live in an area very, very hostile to women, but especially women of which my wife is the demographic in most risk of death during childbirth. So we take things seriously.

Also, condoms protect against the spread of STIs and HIV, so honestly, I would go get a full panel STD lab draw asap, just to be on the safe side.

SamIam96 · Accepted Answer

Hmmm. You should be concerned and ask questions. I've never heard of a guy suddenly  wanting  to wear a condom after doing it bare. There are many reasons he might want the change. He could be concerned about pregnancy. Or, he could be concerned about giving you or catching an STD. Maybe it's a kink. Talk to him and keep an open mind. Please post an update with what you learn.

razelove · Answer

Indeed, there is no positive aspect to using condoms if you're a guy. If you're worried about getting a woman pregnant, a fake name is better protection. The only reason to suddenly put the idea out there for using one would be having unprotected sex with other women, then getting the drippy dick from one of them.

TonyV · Answer

Did you say something about wanting a baby? Men can't be too careful about that shit, once a girl is pregnant we are treated as second rate citizens and get no say in what happens with our lives.

If I thought a girl stopped birth control I wouldn't touch her without a rubber.

spartan55 · Answer

You should be worried that after being with him for six years you can't talk to him about it? You didn't say anything about it at the time?

boggboss · Answer

Only thing I could think off is him catching a sti and now being scared to pass it on if he can't give u a tangible reason

Bricealan · Answer

This...

Agape93 · Answer

He might have cheated and caught something

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

Hahhaah my boyfriend used to use condoms and now he sometimes wants without... Who knows... Men☕

collie22 · Answer

Yes red flags

kellytheman · Answer

Maybe a little bit he might want to wear so you don't get pregnant. He might be wearing so you don't get a STD but then that might there could be another girl.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I don’t think so. Can get to the point where you feel like you’ve been too risky

swettannie · Answer

red flag !!!

yuviii2012 · Answer

Its a BIG RED FLAG🚩🚩 dear

KrakenAttackin · Answer

He probably thinks you are going to baby-trap him.

noohair · Answer

This question is for him. My take is that he has been dipping with someone else.

Pudsmucker · Answer

You have been doing it with the other condom for 6 years. I would say he was out enjoying the field a little bit more and may have come in contact with somebody that has STDs. That's usually what happens

Joker_ · Answer

that is alarming

dragoblack · Answer

You both should be practicing safe sex anyway. No you shouldn't be worried. in fact, there are many different types of condoms that have different textures, different materials, different lubes that can be used with them. Sometimes condoms can make the sex life better. But to be honest he's probably worried about getting you pregnant