Should I be alarmed when my boyfriend suddenly want to use condom?

[Joan30]

My boyfriend n I have been dating for the past 6years but never use condom but suddenly he want to use condom! should I be worried he has someone else?

[Anonymous]

You should be concerned. That’s a red flag. One of two things is going on. He’s either having unprotected sex with other women and is trying to protect you from disease or he’s worried about pregnancy. Have you talked about wanting a baby? He may think for some reason that you’re trying to get pregnant against his wishes or your relationship could possibly be in trouble. I was with my ex for 2 years. We never used any precautions during sex other than my shot. One day he started pulling out. The first couple times I didn’t question it because I know guys like to sometimes cum on their girl but then he was doing it every single time. I was suspicious and kept questioning him about it and he’d just say he liked it better that way. It just didn’t feel right. Come to find out, he wasn’t happy with our relationship anymore but was keeping me around until he could find another regular partner. In the meantime, he didn’t want me to figure it out and try to trap him by getting pregnant. Try to talk to him about it but you may not get honest answers.

[Joan30]

I'm really confuse with his request n i hope he will at least give me an honest answer soon even if he don't want to be with me so he is using this excuse

[tinydiva1991]

Most definitely girl! Have him get tested !

[ImHere22]

Okay, I'm not defending his actions - he should really talk to you about why exactly he's using a condom all of a sudden. My wife and I use condoms most of the time, but that's because we're not trying to get pregnant at this time. And also we live in an area very, very hostile to women, but especially women of which my wife is the demographic in most risk of death during childbirth. So we take things seriously.

Also, condoms protect against the spread of STIs and HIV, so honestly, I would go get a full panel STD lab draw asap, just to be on the safe side.

[Joan30]

Okay

[SamIam96]

Hmmm. You should be concerned and ask questions. I've never heard of a guy suddenly wanting to wear a condom after doing it bare. There are many reasons he might want the change. He could be concerned about pregnancy. Or, he could be concerned about giving you or catching an STD. Maybe it's a kink. Talk to him and keep an open mind. Please post an update with what you learn.

[Joan30]

Okay thanks

[KrakenAttackin]

He may think you are screwing some other guy.

[Joan30]

Without him seeing me doing that?

[SamIam96]

It may be harmless. Don't assume something awful until you talk.

[Joan30]

Okay

[spartan55]

@Joan30 Why would he need to see you doing that? He can be suspicious without that.

[razelove]

Indeed, there is no positive aspect to using condoms if you're a guy. If you're worried about getting a woman pregnant, a fake name is better protection. The only reason to suddenly put the idea out there for using one would be having unprotected sex with other women, then getting the drippy dick from one of them.

[Joan30]

Okay

[spartan55]

You should be worried that after being with him for six years you can't talk to him about it? You didn't say anything about it at the time?

[Joan30]

There was nothing to say about it then cus the condom issue just started n not during our six years courtship

[spartan55]

Huh? Nothing to say about it? So why are you asking here then?

[Joan30]

You getting me wrong in all aspects! seems you didn't understand my question

[spartan55]

I don't think I'm getting anything. I asked why you can't discuss it with him since you've been together six years... what am I missing?

[TonyV]

Did you say something about wanting a baby? Men can't be too careful about that shit, once a girl is pregnant we are treated as second rate citizens and get no say in what happens with our lives.

If I thought a girl stopped birth control I wouldn't touch her without a rubber.

[boggboss]

Only thing I could think off is him catching a sti and now being scared to pass it on if he can't give u a tangible reason

[Joan30]

So what should i do since he still insist on condom which I also dont prefer

[boggboss]

Tell him that it looks shadey and u require a actual reason

[Joan30]

Okay

[Joan30]

Thanks

[boggboss]

Good luck

[Bricealan]

This...

[Agape93]

He might have cheated and caught something

[PrettyPriya]

This...

[Joan30]

Cheating was what I was thinking but i might be having a wrong perception

[Agape93]

Nothing else makes rational sense. Nobody does something in a vacuum.

[Joan30]

Okay

[SarahSizzle]

This was my first thought too! Especially if he won't give you a straight answer, seems very weird to me. Don't panic though and just ask for a genuine answer, there's no way anyone prefers to use condoms

[CoolCatMar1]

Hahhaah my boyfriend used to use condoms and now he sometimes wants without... Who knows... Men☕

[Joan30]

Complicated gender

[collie22]

Yes red flags

[kellytheman]

Maybe a little bit he might want to wear so you don't get pregnant. He might be wearing so you don't get a STD but then that might there could be another girl.

[Joan30]

Okay

[Caliguy88]

I don’t think so. Can get to the point where you feel like you’ve been too risky

[swettannie]

red flag !!!

[Joan30]

How?

[swettannie]

did he gave you any reason of why he want that?

[Joan30]

No reason at all

[swettannie]

yeah, he just had sex with another girl and now he's scared to have std. and if he gave that to you, you will know for sure

[Joan30]

That's what i am also thinking

[swettannie]

that's definitely the reason

[Joan30]

Okay thanks

[swettannie]

i'm so sorry

[noohair]

This question is for him. My take is that he has been dipping with someone else.

[Joan30]

Can that be the only reason?

[noohair]

No, but that is what comes first into my mind. There could be other reasons but I don't know anything about him. I used condoms to last longer.

[Joan30]

Okay

[savagewolf22]

He had sex with other girl n she get pregnant so don't want to take risk with you.

[Joan30]

No lady is pregnant for him to my knowledge

[savagewolf22]

Lol you're his girlfriend then it's obvious that he will keep it secret from you. I bet he cheated you.

[Joan30]

Okay

[yuviii2012]

Its a BIG RED FLAG🚩🚩 dear

[KrakenAttackin]

He probably thinks you are going to baby-trap him.

[Joan30]

Lol okay

[Joan30]

Six years relationship n he is now scared i will trap him with a baby?

[Pudsmucker]

You have been doing it with the other condom for 6 years. I would say he was out enjoying the field a little bit more and may have come in contact with somebody that has STDs. That's usually what happens

[Joan30]

Okay

[Joker_]

that is alarming

[dragoblack]

You both should be practicing safe sex anyway. No you shouldn't be worried. in fact, there are many different types of condoms that have different textures, different materials, different lubes that can be used with them. Sometimes condoms can make the sex life better. But to be honest he's probably worried about getting you pregnant

[Thirsty4more23]

Maybe he wanted to try it just to try it 🤷🏼‍♂️😂

[Joan30]

What makes him want to try it now?

[Thirsty4more23]

Has he always gone bare with u? I know u said you guys have never used them before.

[Joan30]

Yea we have never use it before

[Thirsty4more23]

Yeah that’s strange. Have u asked him about it?

[Joan30]

He couldnt give me a tangible reason

[Thirsty4more23]

Hmm yeah that’s weird. U don’t go from not using them to all of a sudden using them.

[Joan30]

Yea that's is my exact words to him🤔 or maybe he is cheating

[Thirsty4more23]

Yeah I hope not.

[Greenbins]

I doubt it.. maybe you have a little funk going on down there and it's bothering him

[Joan30]

No it ain't my fault cus it being a month since we had s*x then suddenly he want to use condom now?

[Greenbins]

Why is it his fault? Why is it always the guys fault? You should ask him..