Should I be suspicious?

[D321321]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. We took a two day break from each other and we started making out. She was obviously horny, but when I reached for her breasts she wouldn’t take off her top. She said she was insecure and she was obviously hiding something. What do you think she is hiding? She doesn’t like to get hickies. She is an insecure person but she also had body odor and let me sniff it, so she isn’t that insecure. Should I push her on this issue further? I tried to push her already and she said I never trust her and she doesn’t think things can work. She said she wanted the stress off our shoulders of romance, of course i refused since romance was a part of our relationship since day one.

[SteveSmith1985]

Suspicious... yes.

I can't say "oh yea for sure she's cheating on you".

But yea this is sketchy as hell. I don't understand why she wouldn't have shown you under her shirt to prove she wasn't hiding anything (even if she tells you she wants to breakup anyway).

Usually, when you accuse somebody of something. They're gonna prove that they're innocent IF it's as easy as lifting a shirt or something. It's like an instict. If you're accused of something falsely, you feel the need to prove your innocent. EVEN if she wants to say "you don't trust me, so we're done"... I would expect she'd have shown you OUT OF SPITE (like a: see asshole I WASN'T cheating, and now you lost me).

Then asking you to basically be friends with benefits instead of having a relationship... with the timing of this... yea... I mean... yea.

Seems like she wants to be free to be able to be with other people physically. She was trying to be able to see someone else without feeling guilty.

I think dude... you're best to just move on from this chick. Too much bullshit even if (somehow) she didn't cheat.

Sorry.

[Bobsyoruncle]

OK, by the numbers...

She just doesn’t want to take off her top. What’a yuh gonna? Rip it off? Just let it go.

Or, maybe she’s been branded by a pimp with a red hot coat hanger branding iron, or her breasts are covered with bite marks and
hickies, or maybe some prison/biker tats, etc. Do you REALLY want to see that? *I* probably would... but I’m ‘funny’ that way...

If you’re going to go fooling around with women you’ve got to be able to at least ‘handle’ (If not ENJOY) whatever shit they dish up for you on any given day.

You don’t ‘own’ them, it’s a motorcycle ride through Hell trying to ‘control’ them. You can’t even ‘understand’ them half the time.

If you MUST have a “SIR! Yes SIR!’ level of obedience from ‘your woman’ and you’ve got a “Keep your fuckin’ dickbeaters off my shirt!” kind of girl, you’re going to have to punt.

[PrettyPriya]

She sounds like she isn't ready to take it further than kissing. Why does she have to be hiding something? Why can't she just not be ready yet?

[D321321]

We’ve already had sex a bunch of times. She loves when I suck on her boobs, but last night she wouldn’t let me anywhere near them. I told her she was acting weird and she just said trust me. I said I do, but what’s going on. It just spiraled downwards from there

[PrettyPriya]

@d321321 Ok, I misunderstood. My apologies. Yeah, then that is definitely not cool unless she specifically stated she wasn’t in the mood. Sounds suspect to me now I understand the situation.

[D321321]

@prettypriya I tried talking to her about this issue but she kept avoiding it like the plague. I know something is wrong but she won’t admit it

[PrettyPriya]

@d321321 Yeah, if she is dodging discussion, I’d be extremely suspicious as communication is key in a relationship. If she has a legit issue/excuse, she should be able to say it.

[D321321]

@prettypriya I will try to talk to her later today. I will tell her genuinely how I feel about the situation.

[PrettyPriya]

@d321321 Agree with that 100%! Approach it positively and politely but say you need to know what’s up. Good luck to you!

[D321321]

@prettypriya I asked her about it and she got pretty defensive. She said a relationship would never work without trust and that I was only asking because I thought it was something to do with another guy. She told me she would tell me when she’s ready. I don’t know. We’ve been having relationship issues and she thinks removing romance will solve them. Basically just friends. But I know she still wants romance and so do I were just seeing if it solves anything

[wittymilf]

I’d leave my top on during sex if it was up to me. Maybe she just wants to start doing things her way.

[D321321]

I’m not sure she usually loves having it off and I suck on her boobies. She said she was insecure so she wanted to leave it on which was strange for her.

[summiter]

I would just ask her what is going on. It is ok to talk about sex after all.

[DonkeyDan]

Ok, have you seen her breasts before? If not then I don't know why you'd be suspicious, she's just not ready. If you have seen them before on more than one occasion then maybe, but only maybe there is something more going on, but you can't jump to conclusions about what. There could be a whole heap of reasons why she didn't want to take her top off. You seem to be implying that she's cheated on you and has a mark or something that she doesn't want you to see from that encounter, that's a mighty big assumption to make based on that. Trust is the corner stone of any relationship, and if you don't trust her then the relationship is doomed already.

[rcljr]

Yeah, she’s hiding something. Guaranteed

[Anonymous]

Sounds like it's an easy for you to get a girlfriend most of your life