Should I be upset about my boyfriend not wanting to go down on me?

So I approached my boyfriend about him refusing to eat me out. I love going down on him and I do it whenever he asks with no problem. He barely does any foreplay with me. He MIGHT rub my butt or finger me a LITTLE bit while I’m going down on him and he just taps me whenever he’s ready to start having sex after I’ve gone down on him. I’m not wet enough sometimes before we have sex and I end up super irritated down there from lack of proper lunrication fue to lack of forrplay.

He never eats me out. He’s eaten me out MAYBE twice in our whole relationship and we’ve been together almost 2 years. He’s given me so many different reasons for why he doesn’t eat me out. He’s said things like, well we can 69, well I don’t like doing 69, I don’t like eating girls out, then he said he feels like he’s not skilled enough in that area, THEN he brought up my STD. I do have herpes but it’s hsv1 except for it’s on my genitals. I haven’t had an outbreak since January. He does get a cold sore every once in a while if he’s sick. So I feel like he has hsv1 as well.

he said he’d eat me out with Saran Wrap…..

I just feel like that wouldn’t even be satisfying lol. So I’m just really baffled and kind of hurt over this. What should I do?

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  • Well, that takes some explanation.

    I have always liked eating a pussy, BUT, that said, each girl is different. Then too, after TWO YEARS, those 'differences" should have been resolved a long time ago.

    My list of sex partners was, for the most part, short lived relationships, and NOT long term like yours has been, and I had sex with probably 15 women before I was 40. Now, not so much.

    I had eaten out a girl, once after about a year, (when I was 25) and she and I were just "casual friends", before she and I were "going together". Other guys were fucking her, but I liked eating her anyway, in spite of that. Later, we were 'a couple' and I was eating her every time we went out, and at one point I was eating her ass also.

    Keeping in mind, most of my 'relationship' were short term or 'one night' stands, and I believe I only ate three women on a first date. You, on the other hand, you are 'two years in' and should be past that hesitancy in him eating you. AND he should be.

    You need to take a 'time out' and talk to him, face to face, and find out WHY he is not eating you, and GET AN explanation that you can, or CANNOT live with.

    I would be glad to talk more if you wish, as I would not let that continue.

    • Ugh I just don’t get it. I understand the herpes thing I do, but if I’m NOT having an outbreak & haven’t had one in almost a whole year, I don’t see what the problem is.. actually when we first got together I didn’t have an outbreak at all!! I only had an outbreak RIGHT after getting infected with COVID & my doctor even told me that COVID was likely the trigger of that outbreak. He’s NEVER brought up my herpes as to why he won’t eat me out until now unless I’ve forgotten another time he brought it up. He told me like 3 or 4 DIFFERENT reasons why he won’t eat me out. He got so annoyed with the conversation that he said “ugh ur making me just wanna go celibate.” I then walked out of the room. He came & found me & told me that he didn’t mean to say that & that he was just frustrated. I’m honestly not even talking to him right now because he tried to say “there’s nothing else to talk about” so I’m honestly just kinda hurt right now with how lightly he’s taking this… it’s a big deal for me & he doesn’t understand it.. I don’t know any other friend girl of mine who’s man or partner doesn’t eat them out & it makes me feel so self conscious & like something is wrong with me. Then he tried to say that most guys don’t like eating girls out which I think is BS

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  • If you have washed yourself really clean down there and shaved then I would have no problem.

    You can only get hsv1 once and the virus will stay on the area it first infected. If he had been boinking you then it's probably a good idea to see if he has it or he has resistance to it.

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  • Girrllll leave that man. Tbh I don’t think he fully accept you having Herpes. If he did he wouldn’t mind still giving you oral. Also, if he can’t turn you on or get you wet enough even without giving you head let him go!!! Yes he may be a good guy but that man disrespected you completely but if you stay the don’t complain about what he isn’t willing to do.

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  • I love getting blowjobs by my lady and absolutely love to eat her beautiful pussy, your guy is selfish and I don’t get men who do this to their ladies

  • The first thing you can do is talk with him about it explicitly so that you know his feelings about it. If something needs to be fixed (grooming, hygiene, etc.). Do it. Then cut way back on fellatio. Don't do it freely. If you want oral in an ongoing relationship, you should expect it.

  • Firstly, your partner is very selfish and is only thinking about getting his sexual needs met 🤬

    Secondly, the fact you've mentioned that he gets cold sores means that he has oral HSV-1. Because you both have the same herpes infection (HSV-1), with yours being genital and his being oral, neither one of you is at risk of reinfection.

    So with that said, your boyfriend can eat your pussy and bareback you till his hearts 💕 content without worrying about using barrier methods like condoms or dental dams.

  • Yeah, that's selfish as fuck. That shit pisses me off

  • That seems crazy to me. I love eating pussy. It makes me so happy. I get hard licking her clit and tasting her juices. I can't imagine not doing it.

  • If he does not want too. Don't force him. Just respect his decision.

  • if that's the case don't go down on him or better yet don't do anything "not tonight i have a headache" 🤣😅😋

    • Lol yea I’ve thought about doing that but then I’d be missing out too. I could say “okay ur not getting head since u don’t wanna give me any” but then how will the sex start if we’re BOTH not giving any type of head? Like this just sucks

    • get more flirty with guys focusing your attention off him and watch how fast he will submit to you

    • I doubt that will Happen He’s very stuck in this way seems like

  • Through your explanation, I am now sure that he is disgusted with your pussy. But the smell is not good.. Or the wrong color Or your camel toe is big or black Or if you feel uncomfortable, contact him without hesitation. Find out why Take more care of your personal hygiene Invite him to use the female condom.. Use lubricants with a good flavor.. Put some chocolate or honey let him lick them

  • sorry to hear that... I never understood why guys don't. It's one of my favorite things to do

  • Yes you should because it is very beautiful and pleasurable

  • Time to move on, say goodbye

    • I would hate to leave him because he’s a great partner otherwise but I feel like we are not sexually compatible sometimes

  • Yes you should, and you should stop giving him head until he changes his mind.

  • I’d be upset that’s for sure. I love that.