Should I be worried that I can't make my wife cum with just my dick?

[Anonymous]

Every once in awhile I can make her come with my dick but majority of the time I can't make her orgasm with just my dick we have to use vibrators on her clit or me fingering her messing with her G-spot and clit, I'm kind of worried that I cannot make her orgasm with my dick, she tells me that she thinks it's her, because she also Lacks wetness she can watch porn and everything and not really get wet that much , should I be worried that it's me not able to give her orgasms with my dick or do y'all think it may just be her

[CallMeDave]

Don't be worried. Many women need direct stimulation of the clitoris to reach orgasm. It's difficult to do that during intercourse. Maybe try having her on top (cowgirl position) and use your fingers to rub her clit while she's riding you but that might not be enough either.

If you both accept that she probably can't get there with intercourse alone and there's nothing wrong or unusual about that, hopefully you'll be happy with the other ways of bringing her pleasure like fingering as you've described and oral. (Do you know why she doesn't like that? Many women love it. Maybe she'll let you try various techniques of licking/sucking and until you find the one that feels good to her?)

[markscott]

Another position to try, is her on top, facing you. This puts less pressure on you dick so you don't come so soon, and gets pressure on her clit and it's easy to stimulate it in that position.

[Anonymous]

Many women can't cum from just penetration alone. This isn't a problem specific to you or her, no one is to blame here. No worries.
Most women need clitoral stimulation to cum. That's why oral is pretty important to most women. That's how they orgasm.
Oral sex is a good way to not only make her cum but to get her a bit more wet before sex.
To be clear, just because she doesn't cum during sex doesn't mean it doesn't feel good and she doesn't enjoy it.
I've found the best position to solve this issue is missionary with her ass propped upwards like on a pillow or something like that. It lifts her hips and your pelvis will rub her clit while you're thrusting.

[Asker]

I actually enjoy giving oral sex but unfortunately she doesn't really like it

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm ok. Any idea why? I know some women are insecure about the way their vagina looks? Could this be an issue?

[Asker]

To be honest I'm not sure I think it may be me I've only been with 2 women my entire life and I don't really cheat so I'm not that experienced but she says she doesn't really like it, I think it's me , I would really love to know how that way we can try it and maybe she actually likes it

[Opinion Owner]

Ok well, you need to tell her that. Communication is a big part of sex. Tell her you want to please her sexually and you want to make her cum with your tongue. Ask her why she is so against oral it's possible you can find solutions to the issues. You can't push her to do anything but you can absolutely request and you SHOULD ask why not. It could be as easy as reassuring her about something that may might consider silly. (We can be crazy. Smh lol) And if she says well I don't know i just don't want to. That's not an answer you should accept but don't push right away. Bring it up again. As for your inexperience, we all start somewhere, tell her you don't know what will work for her but you want to find out. The great and crappy thing about women is no one thing works for all of us. No matter what you have to learn what a "new" women needs and what works for her. She needs to be open to telling you. See? Communication.

[Opinion Owner]

You both need to step out of your comfort zones and open up about sex. If you don't, not to be a Debbie downer but, you're in for a very dull sex life. No one wants that.

[Opinion Owner]

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[markscott]

There can be a lot of reasons a woman doesn't like oral, and being as you are obviously trying to please her, the least likely is because of you. It's very difficult to give good oral, if she is not cooperating and telling you what does and doesn't feel good. Many women have difficulty with oral, because they actually find it more intimate that PIV sex, and have and/or think of their vaginas as ugly, dirty, not something a good girl does not let a man touch with his tongue, etc.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHGirl 😉💋

[MarianneF]

It's also about setting, we tend to have a longer time to get "there" it's not just jumping and finishing. We also like to feel OK about the moment (and yes, sometimes "the moment" is already there, I know, we aren't easy to understand)
Many others have pointed out communication, that's your best tool.
On the fingering and vibrators, it's perfectly OK to use them. Honestly, in bed you use everything you and your SO need to feel pleasure.
Lubrication is another thing, some women just don't lubricate that much, just apply any lubricant that you both like, there are so many options out there that there is almost impossible to miss

[FunJessica]

Awww, lots of men can’t maks girls come with just their dick. Be lucky you even got to. I think I’ve only ever came once and that was 3 years ago. I’m very hard to make come unless you’re massaging my clit. Maybe your wife is just the same. Nothing wrong with that either.

[Asker]

Thanks makes me feel a lot better, but it does kind of bug me though because I feel like I should be able to give her orgasms and make her come since she's my wife and I'm her man you know it just kinda gets to me

[tinyclit]

No you should not be worried.

[SarahsSummer]

I think you should spend more time on foreplay.

[QueenofCups]

A lot of girls have that problem.

[Asker]

Really , that makes me feel a lot better

[thomascale18]

Spend more time on foreplay. That way she'll be able to orgasm easier.

[Asker]

What do you mean by foreplay she doesn't like oral sex

[thomascale18]

Lol, foreplay doesn't just involve oral. Slowly explore her body, stimulate her, keep her guessing what you gonna do.

[Asker]

Lol I'm kinda starting to think it's her now.. cause she don't like any of that , she don't even like kissing , I think she maybe just not a horney person

[abhisar2006]

Nope.. It's really a tough thing to do.. But a lot of foreplay and easing in to sex can be quite helpful.. works for me..

[jacquesvol]

That seems quite normal. A penis isn't a magic wand. Penetration alone is rarely enough.

[es20490446e]

I can make them cum with jokes. Perhaps you can practice that.

[Bombidil]

No, a lot of women do not have orgasms from vaginal intercourse. Communicate with your partner to find out what works for her. I've been with women who do and women who don't. I encourage you to be open minded.

[vjedi]

Her and you need more foreplay, lots more. Most likely though there's no need to worry, nothing's wrong with either of you, just enjoy yourselves.

[CT_CD]

No. You can cu m right? If so then everything is fine

[Jdjallen]

Foreplay is always the best find her ticklish spots give her a massage play with her hair pinch her butt threw out the day. You have to truly make her feel beautiful not only at the moment but leading up to it

[Anonymous]

It’s not anyone’s fault. Not being able to come is never someone’s fault.

Most women don’t come with just penetration.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t worry one bit! Women need more stimulation than a man. Maybe play with her clit while having sex? See if that works or maybe she can do it to herself

[Anonymous]

Yes but its an easy fix i get my boyfriend has this problem so I get to wear a penis extender sleave to overcome his sexual inadequacy.

[Anonymous]

It often IS the gal but getting in the mood can be either self motivated or externally. I found that some gals need to be warmed up, then foreplay then put in charge of whatever cums next is enough to get them "there", so no worries in time you'll sync with her if you keep trying and noting what works & doesn't... with her also observing & trying

[Asker]

She doesn't really like foreplay oral or kissing lol I don't know what to do

[Opinion Owner]

Strip poker & insure she wins w/o knowing it = gives her the power Even if she was date raped or worse in past, this is only a little hurtle for someone she trusts, given time and love. Whatever it was, she cannot completely let go... yet. Continue loving successful, pleasant love making and eventually this ocean of positives will drown those past negatives. Best if she can out them, so can be deal with quicker but forcing this, not always wise. Plan in near future at least a 3 day vacation AWAY from EVERYONE except dining staff, 7-10 days alone w/no chores will get you down this road faster to the goals you seek. Screw the money, for this end result would better than any new car, etc.

[Anonymous]

No, normal. Just make sure you have plenty of foreplay beforehand.. you gotta get her wet, to get her to orgasm..