Should I break up with him if I’m not sexually attracted to him? If not, what could help me be attracted to him?

Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love this man but I’m just not physically or sexually attracted to him. He makes me happy and he’s very nice! He’s super smart and I absolutely love his personality! Valentines days is coming up really quickly and he’s planned a getaway for us and he’s expressed wanting to have sex. I really do want to be physically attracted to him. Maybe there’s just something wrong with me? Since we’re already together I don’t mind doing sexual things or having sex with him when he wants it’s just.. it’s uncomfortable and I don’t really like it or want to do it but I also don’t want to hurt his feelings or have him be mad at me.
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  • I spent 8 years of my life with someone I didn't find sexually attractive. It caused me a lot of doubts many times, and when we finally broke up and felt what it was to be with someone I actually feel attracted to, I couldn't stop feeling bad so many years I missed.

    After her I met a lot of nice girls that weren't pretty, and pretty girls that weren't nice. All good experiences. Finally I met my future wife who is both, and the past 3 years have been like a dream :)

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  • I would sit down and be honest with him. Make sure he knows how much u love him and that it is not that u dont care for him. And yes, ur gonna have to put up with sex but think about it like this. You are making the man u love happy. So u may have to put up with a little discomfort but u can keeo a great guu that way.

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  • If you don't want to end the relationship but you're not feeling sex yet, just tell him that. Sometimes a desire to have sex with someone you're growing feelings for evolves over time, even if they're not physically attractive.

  • You're just gonna have to let go of the hangups in your mind and maybe pretend he's a famous hunky celebrity.

  • Lol so you are completely fine being with him long term and lying to him to pretend there is not a issue?

    • Bingo

    • So end it your bot only wasting his time but your own also

    • So you would be completely happy being with someone who was not attracted to your body or have sex with you?

  • If you’re not attracted to him why are you with him in the first place

    • He’s really nice and if we got married and had kids he’d be a fantastic and loving father. Plus we have a lot in common and I love being around him and I love him. I couldn’t picture myself with anyone else I’m just not down with the whole sex and affectionate thing with him it’s strange

    • That will never work

  • And here lies proof that women lie through their teeth when they say looks don't matter

  • Try lots of foreplay until you are sexually aroused and soaking wet.
    Take out his cock and fuck him like he’s a stud.

  • lol why are you dating someone you're not attracted to in the first place?

    • I am attracted to him just not physically or sexually

    • ya that's what I mean. seems like a big thing to be missing.

    • How? I love him he’s a fantastic guy. He’s perfect I just don’t want the whole sex/intimacy thing with him

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  • Get out while before you feel your becoming trapped in a relationship that isn't fore filling for you. You're still young and there's plenty time to meet someone more compatible

  • Yes. I know this issue all too well. Couldn't be happier unless the topic is sex. I give in as much as I can. But its just made me hate sex really. That's sad.

  • The best way is talk with him, and tell him everything, also tell him that i want to get intimate with you but i can't.
    For second just get intimate with him, maybe that will work, but ask him to fuck just like any of your fantasy.