Should I break up with my fiance?

[unluckygal22]

My fiance and I have been together for a little over three years now. We had a wonderful sex life the first year and a half. Now he can go weeks without having sex with me. When I try to initiate he denies me and if I complain about it he'll change his mind and have sex with me. We have talked about this numerous times. He says he still loves me, there's no one else, he's still attracted to me, every time he wants to do it I'm on my period 🙄, he doesn't know what's wrong, maybe I'm the one falling out of love with him. He also likes to give the excuse that he's hard in the morning yet, he isn't always and when he is he still doesn't want to do it. He's definitely not masturbating because the evidence would be on the sheets. At this point I'm super exhausted and feel like calling everything off. What do you think I should do?

[Madeziner]

I know its your life and you know much better about what is going on between both of you. We can just share an opinion as per our understanding. 3 years is quite a time to be together. I have seen misunderstandings develop even in their first half. You both should get some time and sort out the things. You people will definitely come with some conclusion. Breakup is not a solution sometimes. If he didnot want to have sex. Then let it be this way. If there is lack od understanding then you will definitely be exghausting. Just because the lack of sex life. No you should give time, If there is not any other reason.

[koalakola]

You need to have counseling with therapist. I know sex drive reduces with age or longer the relationship but 3 years is quite less.

It may not be that serious but it could be something that could worsen. Sex drive is often related to testosterone, so maybe he has low testosterone levels. It happens as men go to 30. His biological necessity to have sex might have had reduced.

Nevertheless, it can be worked out.

[unluckygal22]

I'm 26 and he's 39. Maybe his age is the cause

[koalakola]

Yes, that could be it

[Paris13]

Before Breaking Up, Being you Both Have a Long History Here, Dear, Try and Work this Out. Get to eh Bare Bottom of wha tis UP with him. Get him Tested, His Testosterone could be Low. Other than That, If all is Well, I can Tell, This could be a Marriage Made in Heaven.
Don't YET Walk down the Aisle, You will have no Smile. Things in the Boudoir, Need to be Working Before You throw the Bouquet Away.
And if you are Having nay Second thoughts if this is the One, Hun, Take a BREAK and then Decide if you want to Take this Long Ride.
Good Luck. xx

[Paris13]

Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck. xx

[yougurt]

If you're considering breaking up with a fiance for such thing, please do before he becomes your husband. You are certainly not ready to commit your life to be next to him, for better or for worse. It looks like he may be depressed or something. Either way, set him free.

[PrudentGuy]

Fundamental questions: do you love him? Does he love you?

Figure out the answers honestly and openly.

Then you make you decision.

PS: there will be all kinds of problems in marriage. Only love can bear them. So make sure it exists among you to proceed.

[OlderAndWiser]

Has he had an evaluation by a urologist?

[unluckygal22]

No he hasn't. I have suggested to him to see his doctor about it.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are many diseases which can impact male libido. Unless there is an obvious explanation for his loss of interest (such as another sexual partner or an increase in his masturbation) then this should be evaluated as soon as possible.

[Dargil]

A. Thing #1. "every time he wants to do it I'm on my period" Plan for having sex on your period.
B. There is stress and there are distractions in his life. Find out what they are.
C. Offer him an blow job with no strings attached... just sexual therapy.

[buttcrackjoe]

Is it really all about sex?

[unluckygal22]

No but sex is very important.

[buttcrackjoe]

Well if its your fiancé and not getting any whoopi prob should give him an ultimatum

[IIGrifterSixII]

Breeak up, he deserves better.

[bangyourhead]

Leave now while you have a chance. He's shown an unwillingness to change and it will only get worse.

[vald9inches]

Obviously break up because you will only end up cheating on him with a guy who has a really huge cock that will pound you for hours and hours and give you the attention you need and deserve. If its only been 3 years and you are already having problems you will both end up cheating

[unluckygal22]

Thank you for your comment. I think I'll leave before cheating on him.

[vald9inches]

no problem beautiful i just believe too many people force themselves to stay in a relationship or marriage when they are obviously miserable because they are afraid of what other people will say. just because you break up with someone doesn't mean you dont love them anymore or you are enemies it just means its time to move on from that relationship and take a different path in life because if you stay together you will only end up hating each other and ruin whatever good memories you have with each other

[COMMODOREII]

Hard to say maybe you should talk to him first and see if anything can be saved and if not then maybe it's best you do. I lost 10 years of my life not getting anywhere from my ex.