Should I buy sexy lingerie for my wife on Valentine's day?

[link1980]

We have been having our ups and downs lately more downs but she has agreed to get a hotel for Valentine's day. she doesn't normally wear lingerie thinks there's no point since it just comes off in the end anyways. So just wondering if it would be appropriate to have some there to set a mood. I was planning to wear mine too.

[TacocaT6969]

I don’t know her so I can’t say for sure, but based on what you said; “having more downs than ups” and “doesn’t usually wear lingerie”

This sounds like it could potentially be a recipe for disaster.

God forbid she’s in a bad mood being given lingerie as a gift could make her feel objectified and unappreciated.

A better idea would be to give her a romantic date and then give her a show with whatever lingerie you had planned on using.

That would be seen as a gift rather than a request.

[link1980]

Maybe I will pack some of the stuff she use to wear 🤷‍♂️. Don't bother bring it out unless she asks about it. She did at one time say if I bought some she would wear it but I bought a corset or two and I think she ended up giving them away.

[AzureGirl]

Probably not a good idea if she already finds the idea of lingerie pointless. It probably wouldn’t be something she would enjoy receiving. Maybe get her something you know for sure she would love instead.

[AustinMan]

Are you a cross dresser or what is the "wear mine too" about? Need to know before making a recommendation.

[link1980]

No, but guy's can buy men's lingerie. Like mesh boxers and Tanks

[AustinMan]

Then yes. What does she like to wear, not necessarily lingerie, that makes her feel sexy?

[link1980]

Latly seems like whatever covers the most.

[AustinMan]

Is she unhappy with her body in some way?

[link1980]

I don't see how she could be. I don't know a woman hotter then her at her age. I am only taking a guess and going to say either she just doesn't want to get fully undressed because she just has to redress. Or she doesn't like showing me her body.🤷‍♂️

[AustinMan]

I'd suggest you talk to her about it. Here're some ideas on how to do that.

How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗

[AustinMan]

What did you decide to do?

[link1980]

Well for sure not buy something she's not going to wear anyways. I will leave it up to her if she brings some. As for the talking about sex we have and we have two very different out looks on that issue.

[AustinMan]

I suggest couple's therapy to find some common ground.

[link1980]

Yea we are looking into that

[AustinMan]

As the commercial say, "Stop looking and start doing."

[link1980]

We have been to one and he was a flop we both felt he was wrong for use didn't truly listen to what we where saying. The next one we had to reschedule twice due and then my wife scheduled change and they can no longer see us. So third times the charm 🤞

[AustinMan]

I certainly hope so...

[Roberta95]

That's not a good idea. If she doesn't wear any lingerie, she won't be happy about it on Valentine's Day either.

[oldermale]

Women love lingerie, get her some

[TacocaT6969]

No, not all women like lingerie. He even said in his question that this particular woman doesn't like lingerie.

[BasicBad]

Don’t do it