Should I come out?

Both of my parents are pretty homophobic and im worried that if i ( a biromantic asexual human being) i might be disowed or loose their respect. What should i do, i keep being told the earlier i tell them the better but my parents are really agaisnt not straightism (yes i just wrote that) what should i do?
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  • It really depends what country you live in whether you come out. Some countries it is not safe to come out. If you are in the United States I suggest you talk to an adult you can trust about this. Being you are only 13 I don't know how to advise you on who to talk to like a school counselor or if you can get to an agency where they provide support for these kinds of things.

    You really should have a back up plan of where to go. If you live in the U. S. your parents still have the responsibility to raise you without abuse or the state agency will come in and intervene.

    Here are a few numbers I found that might help.
    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
    https://www.glbthotline.org/hotline.html
    https://pflag.org/hotlines
    https://www.glaad.org/resourcelist

    this is a list of organizations world wide if you live outside of the U. S.
    en.wikipedia.org/.../List_of_LGBT-related_organizations_and_conferences

    I'm not sure if you could use an app like Whats app to call the U. S. numbers if you live outside of the U. S.

    • I do live in the us

    • Then you could call one of these numbers for advice. The first one the Trevor project seems to be one I was finding over and over. I guess CNN did something on it. I'm sure their call center would be manned with people who had to do this too. 2 of my cousins and 1 of my second cousins are gay. All from the same family. I didn't know about my oldest cousin until he got sick.

    • sorry I didn't mean to post the sick part. I was going to delete that part but accidently hit submit.

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  • First I would make sure there was a place for me to go if they decided to kick me out like a friend or grandparents house. It's highly unlikely, but better safe than sorry. Then I would probably tell them once they're in a good mood and you're comfortable enough to tell them. I kinda know what you're going through as I am also biro ace, but I haven't told my parents yet, and I probably won't until I get a girlfriend

    • thanks and good luck

    • you too

Most Helpful Guys

  • Honestly, it's better to get it over with sooner than later. Times are different. We're in an era where it's okay to not be straight. My little cousin (15 years old) told his parents (who are extremely homophobic) he was bi after a year. Yeah, they were slightly mad, but after a few days they juat loved him the same as before because that's still their child and as long as he was happy then they were happy and supportive of his decisions. It's more of a leap of faith. If anything, they should be proud of your courage to come out to them

    • K thanks

  • No reason to come out unless you end up in a relationship with your own gender. Why take the fight before you have someone to fight for?

    • Oh i do

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  • Hmmmmhh88mmmm

    • What?

    • Typo

  • Thats tough decision i think im tran and dont want come out

  • Have you ever been molested or gone through something terrible?

    • No i have not why?