Should I cut it off with a girl because she has herpes?

[RawIronhide]

I just met this girl and we really connected like no one I've ever met. We made moves on each other mutually whitch has never happened to me before. We got to the point where we almost had sex but she told me she had hsv 1 and 2. Since we didn't know each other all that well I decided to not get too sexual but we enjoyed our time together. I'm a virgin and I'm not sure I want to risk getting an std that will be with me for life even if I find another partner but what should I do? Tell her to get lost? She's always been kind to me so far and I could be turning down the possibility for a loving relationship. She's had several partners but she said she likes me and I'm unlike anyone she's ever been with.

[Leavesbound]

Believe it or not, most of the world's population has herpes by the age of 30. The common cold is a form of herpes also. There are lots of treatments for herpes. Many of these are designed to minimize or eliminate the risk of passing it to another person. You can have herpes and be nearly asymptomatic. So before you rush to judgement get tested for herpes. If it comes back positive then you have nothing to lose. Even if it comes back negative it may yet be OK to be in a relationship with her. Best thing to do is talk to a doctor about it.

[RealMarek]

Meds reduce the odds of transmission, but you are young would probably contract the disease at some point during your life. Read about the symptoms. Certain practices like oral sex would be quite risky. You need to decide if the relationship is worth it.

[Anonymous]

HSV is *very* contagious and can be contracted even if there are no sores. Ask her what medications she is on. If she is not on any of these acyclovir (Zovirax), famciclovir (Famvir), and valacyclovir (Valtrex) then DO NOT consider it as there is a possibility you can contract hsv.

[RawIronhide]

I believe you. It's just sad I think. She's flawed yes but still a person who deserves love. I don't know if we're right for each other but it's hard to break off something that was going good.

[Opinion Owner]

I am not saying she doesn't deserve love. However that *you* should consider the ramifactions. This would be your first sexual encounter. Do you really want to risk the chance of catching HSV?

[RawIronhide]

No, not at all. It's part of the reason I'm still a virgin is because I want to stay safe.

[Opinion Owner]

Then I'd suggest being nice and just explaining. Don't blame her HSV as she's likely already conscious about it. Just try to drift apart, I suppose. Understand it's not easy but in the long run it'll probably be better.

[RawIronhide]

It's gonna hurt both of us, I liked her. Thanks for your opinion.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you're welcome & certainly understand won't be easy. But life, unfortunately, isn't easy.

[have_a_good_day]

I feel like you're thinking with your heart when you should be thinking with your head.

[RawIronhide]

You're probably right but I see it as considering my options. I was very cautious. It probably won't go anywhere.

[dudeinohio]

Stay with her... there are meds (which she may be on) that keep it under control mostly. Then you don't have a good chance of catching it, unless there is a breakout.

[RawIronhide]

Ok, I wasn't sure if it was transmissible when there's no break out, she told me she's on meds.

[dudeinohio]

OK... good she's on antivirals... you should be safe then.

[RawIronhide]

Alright, great!

[JamieLoves]

Yes... You can get cancer from it...
Want your dick to fall off?

[MrFox25]

It sounds like you two have the beginnings of a great relationship. You should definitely keep her. Your sexlife with her may not be doomed; I’ve read something on webMD that between outbreaks is the safest time. Here’s a link to an article that may help: www. Web MD. Com/ genital-herpes / genital-herpes-sex-life (had to add spaces cause I don’t have enough Xper to post links lol).

[RawIronhide]

That's ok, thank you so much. I've had a hard time finding information on the topic. Any help is appreciated.