Should I expect my boyfriend to be and stay hard when he touching my body?

Question

If he gets semi hard and goes soft who’d touching me does it mean he not enjoying me?

Echosoul · Accepted Answer

It's probably performance anxiety. It's the sex equivalent to stage fright.

He feels under pressure to perform and that's stressful, stress is a turn off (possibly to do with fight or flight. Don't really want to be horny when under attack by a lion). The more attracted to you he is the more stressed. It seems counter-intuitive but. Like it's hard to talk to someone you have a crush on but easier for someone you have no particular feelings for.

The trick is do sexy things that aren't necessarily the act without pressure to be hard. More go with the flow. This especially goes if he's inexperienced, I had an easier time with non-penetrative dry humping than sex itself because I wasn't under pressure.

RJJ33666 · Accepted Answer

Being hard is a very individual thing, many men like to keep on having stimulation to stay hard and many don't need that. I think your boyfriend is a person who likes to have more stimulation, I won't say he would need continuous stimulation because I don't know him, but I think giving bigger stimulation would be better. Like when he is touching your body, you do the same but with a little more zest to it. Keep up the stimulation, I am sure he will get into that zone where he will be harder for a longer time.

ohshee · Answer

Well if you're doing the dishes or if you're on the phone or if you're reading People magazine I would think so

summiter · Answer

Not really boners come and go. Does it stay hard when you get naked with him?

Glenn603 · Answer

Mine tends to go soft if I'm touching or performing oral on somebody. Of course I'm enjoying what I'm doing and I'm definitely turned on by it, but it needs to be stimulated by either me or whoever I'm with to keep it hard

VanillaSalt · Answer

Sometimes it happens its not unusual for men to have such issues. there's pills for that and i recommend therapy.

BUT... It could be you yes. My ex was a... well her fav position was starfish and missionary. Sorry but sometimes i just lose interest and its not worth it. Sometimes you gotta pull your own weight.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Depends on the guy
Some guys aren't aroused by just touching some one

Some people have what I like to call weak erections which means they don't get super hard

Maybe he stays with you because he loves you but doesn't find sexually attractive?

I don't know what it is

Massageman · Answer

I think he would stay "up" more if you surprised him as to where and when YOU would repeatedly touch HIM!

one1wild00 · Answer

He is enjoying you, just not the sexual part is active is all

Philyouup · Answer

It’s probably not that he isn’t enjoying you. there are some many reasons a cock will go soft. and many have nothing to do with you.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Yes, 100%. If he doesn't, there is something wrong with him

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

No thats not true. Its psychological. Also when I am with a girl I am totally attracted to I might get too nervous and thoughts run through my head, killing the moment and my boner

OnTheLevel · Answer

Don't read too much into it. Just because he's not rock hard doesn't mean he's not into you.

SignedAutographs · Answer

Noone should ever expect anything of anyone

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well that all depends I need more information to give you the right response. Is he old or sick

MasterKS · Answer

if yes its good if not your turn is yet to come.

muffnbuttstfr · Answer

Hey play with him kiss lick and suck

Anonymous · Answer

No, it doesn’t work that way, distracted from things can make it soft for awhile but it gets back to hard again

Anonymous · Answer

No not necessarily. Especially if you're still clothed, and/or nothing is being done to him. And many things can affect an erection that have nothing at all to do with you, such as mood, drugs, alcohol, mental thoughts, to even just random losses (just his body and no "reason" for it).