Should I feel bad for wanting to date someone older than me?

I've pondered deeply about this, I'm much more into older guys.

I'm currently 18, and I've never had the feeling that I was attracted to someone younger than me or my age. Everyone I've ever liked is between 4 and 25 years older than me, which has prevented me from having a relationship because I'd feel stupid introducing a 35 year old man as my boyfriend to my family and friends.
Basically anyone who doesn't have grey pubic hair is in my pool of potential partners.

This preference of mine is sort of ruining my life if I'm honest and it's eating myself up more than I can put into words here.

What do you think? Should I feel bad for wanting to date and eventually marry someone older than me?
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  • One cautionary note.
    35/18 may be a problem. Good if you accumulate maybe 3 years of maturity and independence. 38/21 is a stretch but personalities make a big difference. 58/41, no big deal. 78 /61 can be problematic. I think your outside limit should be 10 years. One guy's opinion.

    • Do you mean when I'm 18 and he's 35 and so on? Because I don't understand why 78/61 is problematic.

    • Because he is close to the end of the road... winding down, and you at 61, aren't.

  • It will be a wonderful day when we all stop worrying about what other people think (judge) about what we want or choose. How liberating would it feel to decide to do what feels right for you. If we do things for others happiness, our life isn't our own.

    • Thank you, this is beautiful.

    • Thank you, I just hope you do and live as you deserve, all happiness to you 🌹

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  • For women it's pretty normal but the higher age the higher risk that you have too different goals and maturity levels. Also higher risk of someone wanting you simply because you are young.

    • Yeah, that’s what I’m worried about, I don’t want to be someone’s attaché...

    • Im female so attachée*

  • Its a same that people shame other adults for their preferences in a partner.

    • * shame that You are an adult, do as you please.

  • Nope. What others think doesn’t matter

  • Not at all... I do, both my exes were a couple of years older than me and I have held flirty conversations with woman approaching 30 until they realised I was around 5-10 years younger than them

  • Well I am 55 and no gray hair lol
    Last girl I dated for any length of time was 21 and at that time I was 50

  • Now, now! That's priceless! I find it cute when a Girl does this! (I personally do the same!) I look for Women older than me. *up to 8 years difference* Maybe a form of Dominance over me?

  • No I am trying to date someone older then me now cause of maturity and the fact I will be 18 soon so I don't feel like dating little kids or going to jail

  • Aslong as you're happy who care what strangers on the internet think

  • To each their own. shouldn't feel bad for liking what you like.

  • You prefer what you prefer that's between you and him, screw what other people think.
    Just be careful.

  • I think you want to someone to please you.

    • I don’t want to have sex so you are mistaken. Looking for a guy to marry and then have sex

    • I guess you are Virgin.

    • Obviously yeah

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  • This is so normal that it's hilarious to read. It's completely common and natural for a woman to want to date above her age. See most of history

    • Yeah, but there’s still a social stigma around it

  • Do it if you like it

  • It's okay if you get someone who actually cares about you instead of just looking for sex.